discussion Is dating just too hard nowadays? Need encouragement.

[imabadkid]

2 hours ago, TeemoR said:

Unfortunately, we live in the TikTok era. Everyone's attention span is like 5 minutes. It is really hard nowadays but you have to stay true to who you are and what you are looking for and it's going to happen. 

Not only does everyone have super short attention spans but people seem more self involved now… low key narcissistic. There’s no consideration for other people, only care about what they want.

[smartalek22]

with homewreckers like ariana stealing married men and gay whores in the capitol, dating does seem quite hard these days, maybe it's all about soulless sex these days 

[Theshigo Washidu]

Yep it is, but I also guess it's just one of those ones where you never know where love will find you.

 

Last year, I had totally given up on dating men as I was getting no-where with it. 

However, I happened to meet someone through a mutual friend's get together. We've been official for more than two months now.

[DamianSolo]

It's actually sad and frightening to witness, yes. I don't even take most guys seriously nowadays. At this point, I don't even know how to effectively get to know a guy. Especially out here; I'm in small town USA in the South, and most don't have critical thinking skills or, let alone, any actual noticeable intelligence to speak of. They're DL, country and continually pass each other up—only ever wanting to hook-up. It sounds fun, and it is, until you actually desire more and want to actually date.

 

The same ones that were sitting on the apps in their early 20s are now pushing 35+, still sitting on those very same apps, and they haven't grown as people, at all. And actually going out to meet someone is a pipe dream, because you're only going to run into the very same people on those apps at the gay bar in town—which I avoid like the plague nowadays. Everyone is either DL, stupid, "taken" in an open relationship or are the 0.2% in a legitimate monogamous relationship who I see out and about every so often.

 

I see tons more lesbian couples than gay couples. The women definitely have it easier, so it seems.

[Maroonx]

I think it really depends on the person... Some people are more extrovert which makes it easier for them. It's def harder for people who are more introverted.