zasderfght Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 (edited) To keep things brief, I was harassed at my last job, to the point where it bordered on homophobic at times. The school kicked the trans teacher out of a class because the trans teacher simply asked her middle schoolers what their pronouns were. One example is when a student inappropriately photographed me (I was picking up a pencil). My principal told me to wear a tighter belt. My principal came into my classroom one time and yelled at my students to the point where they were almost going to cry. A student dug up a video of me twerking (it wasn't sexual, I was wearing clothes, and it was to a SpongeBob song-- I was also in high school), and when the principal called me in her office she said "I'm disappointed in you. You didn't come forward with this." She didn't ask if I was okay. The assistant principal came in during a day I was working on my lesson plans and yelled at me that the shades were down. I did that because the light was on. The principal told me "quite frankly, your team thinks you're very annoying." Then towards the end she said "I'm sorry. I should've helped you more, but I had things going on in my life." In another instance, when I was getting to school late and I sped a little and the superintendent just happened to be next to me, she gives me a disgusted look. I think nothing of it. I get out of the car. The assistant principal locks me in a room with the assistant principal and yells at me. And she says she rather me arrive late to work, but that I need to be here on time. And she took me out of my classroom during instruction time. There were days I wanted to quit, one day I looked up what evidence I need to prove harassment in a workplace, and I was in a terrible depression-- to the point where I didn't want to live. I'm honestly in a much better place mentally because I love my new job, but I have chronic pain, and my providers think it's because I have unresolved trauma from my past. How do I fully process the trauma I experienced? Thanks! Edited September 28, 2023 by zasderfght Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dula Peep Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 I certainly hope you were not an English teacher… 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zasderfght Posted September 28, 2023 Author Share Posted September 28, 2023 3 minutes ago, Dula Peep said: I certainly hope you were not an English teacher… Let me get this straight. You have an avatar of Chromatica— an album Lady Gaga made about overcoming mental illness— yet you make a joke about someone trying to overcome their mental illness. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CristianGarcia Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 (edited) It happens to the best of us… My last supervisor didn’t like me either and he was gay too. But me and my new one talk like best friends… I truly believe I’m a great person and kind to everyone but I still deal with people that find reasons to dislike me, simply because of jealousy or insecurity. I don’t let it affect how I feel about myself… Edited September 28, 2023 by CristianGarcia Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jotham Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 Maybe you could try looking for a therapist that specializes in trauma? Psychology Today has a good search engine that lets you find therapists near you and what areas they focus on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NickAurora Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 (edited) Very sorry to hear all of this and that it is affecting your mental health. However, acknowledging that you're not in the best place mentally is the first step towards improving your mental well-being, and that should be applauded in my opinion. Sadly, this forum should be the last place to ask for help in any kind of way, let alone one involving mental health. The only concerns unrelated to music on this site are receding gums, bald spots and the occasional thirsting after bland, generic male musicians/celebrities. Your best-case scenario would be to discuss this with loved ones (friends or family) in order to find solutions together. It may seem difficult, but you'll find that their help in your time of need is likely for the best—holding your hand while they assist you in the process is always reassuring. Plus, who would know you better? Of course, I personally would suggest seeking out professional help first and foremost, since they're more than likely better equipped in dealing with mental illness/depression and other disorders in their field that you're currently experiencing (especially trauma) and who have years of experience in dealing with such matters. I'm not sure where you're located, but here in Canada, we have access to so many sites, brochures, online services that assist with mental health and some institutions even have affiliations with mental health services at their disposal (24/7 access, 365 days a year). Crisis centers, hotlines dedicated to these issues and even online consultations through various websites are also available should you need to talk it through with online professionals. However, I think for now your best bet is coming clean to your loved ones, since this would ensure a better outcome. Whatever the case, I wish you the best of luck and hope that you'll find peace of mind with whatever decision you decide to make. Best of luck. Edited September 28, 2023 by NickAurora 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Outlaws Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 I'm so, so sorry this happened to you. I would go see a especialist since trauma requires its own effort and strategies, etc. which you will not find in this forum. Wishing you all the best Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alldeezy Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 I'm sorry to hear this however i'm still trying to figure out how to get over trauma, I slowly get over it but then gets slaps back in my face, and people love to make jokes about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cain Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 Therapy! I’m doing EMDR rn and it’s working 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LCTV Posted September 28, 2023 Share Posted September 28, 2023 4 hours ago, Dula Peep said: I certainly hope you were not an English teacher… i certainly hope no one comes to you for mental health advice. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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zasderfght Posted September 28, 2023 Author Share Posted September 28, 2023 (edited) 4 hours ago, LCTV said: i certainly hope no one comes to you for mental health advice. My thoughts exactly! Some people can be extremely insensitive on here. I already reported this user's comment, and I sincerely hope others do the same. Edited September 28, 2023 by zasderfght Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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