Galaxy Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 I was talking about this with a friend and she said that by 25 you have a lot of life experience and plenty of people to date so going after someone who just finished high school would be creepy. Thoughts? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
byzantium Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 I would not say it is “per se” creepy, however, I would voice reasonable concerns and the obvious red flags. 12 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bosque Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Megacreepy, when I was 25 I never could’ve imagined dating an actual high schooler 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Illuminati Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Atrl will convince you that dating in general is creepy 3 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ariananext Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Just now, byzantium said: I would not say it is “per se” creepy, however, I would voice reasonable concerns and the obvious red flags. This. Of course it's not the age gap, it's the phases. At 25 you're done with university and working, at 18 you're yet to graduate from high school. Like why don't you just date people your age? Are you trying it with someone who's younger and more naive for a reason? I'm 24 and anything younger than 20 is a kid for me. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Into The Void Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 No. I seen a movie lately where a 16 yr old was dating a 29 yr old so 18 and 25 seems much better lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Troll Idle Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Not creepy at all. I dated guys in their 30s when I was 18 and I'm still alright 1 1 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriel Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Creepy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LVP Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 That depends if he calls you daddy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOOMBAYAH Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 It depends on the context, but in general, it is...odd. At 22, I see most 18-year-olds as little brother types since you're still quite childlike and naive at that age. I do think if you just hook up with a hot 18/19-year-old, it's whatever, but actually dating and stuff, I don't know. An 18-year-old and a 25-year-old usually want very different things from life, so I don't know how that would work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TaggedGalaxy Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 I'm 25 and would never date an 18 year old so yeah pretty creepy 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sweetblindness Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 I wouldn't necessarily call a relationship between a 25 year-old and an 18 year-old creepy, but I would question it. A 25 year-old and an 18 year-old are worlds apart in life experience IMO and I would question the intentions of the 25 year-old and what compelled them to date someone literally fresh out of high school. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DemDam92 Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 How is this creepy? Absolutely not 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HEAVYONIT Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 It's not creepy I guess but it's weird. A 25 year old should have no interest in someone who is as immature/inexperienced as an 18 year old. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orsay Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Yeah, that’s a weird gap. But I’m so tired of these threads tbh Some people take the age gap policing too far for sure, whenever I see a person 25+ being made out to be the victim of an age gap i feel like the internet is making people insane 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BOOMBAYAH Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 3 minutes ago, Troll Idle said: Not creepy at all. I dated guys in their 30s when I was 18 and I'm still alright This is your prerogative, but whenever older men approached me when I was 18 to 20, I was always so turned off. To me, it felt like they weren't impressive enough to attract guys around their age, so they would try to impress a naive 18-year-old who's easily impressed and very horny. 4 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reginald Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 (edited) I'd say that's right at the threshold. But, when the 25 y/o turns 30, will they still want to be with a 23 y/o? Seems like a relationship that probably wouldn't last, but if it did last it would be progressively less weird. Example, if they ended up lasting until they were 35 and 28, that would be perfectly normal. Edited September 20, 2023 by Reginald Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Johnny Jacobs Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Not creepy if he met her after she turned 18 not before 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
vale9001 Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Just let people **** 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyride Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 very creepy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zasderfght Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 You're going to get (mostly) these responses: 1. That's grooming!!! That 25 year old is a pedo!!! 2. Let adults do adult things My train of thought is this: an 18 and 25 year old are probably not going to last-- sorry, but I have life experience with age gaps in dating, especially when I was younger (I dated or hooked up with older guys in my younger 20s, not the other way around). If they're hooking up, it's not my business. The more you focus on you and your relationship & not what other consenting adults do (whether the choice is destructive or constructive to their wellbeing), the happier off you will be. Obviously intervene if it's abuse or assault, but if it's just a scenario you find yourself uncomfortable with, either ask your friends to stop telling you about their hookups or get friends that don't do this stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ICLDXU4HS Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Not as creepy as anyone that'd be up in their business. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mania Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 Questionable? Yes Creepy? A little bit. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hi-res Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 12 minutes ago, Troll Idle said: Not creepy at all. I dated guys in their 30s when I was 18 and I'm still alright OT: I dated a 27 year old when I was 18. Back then I thought it was fine, but reflecting back on that relationship, I realized how weird it was. We had very little in common. I was just graduating high school, and he was well established in his career, with his own house and everything. It gives me the ick. I cant even imagine dating a 18 year old nowadays. So to answer your question, yes it is creepy. 18 minutes ago, ariananext said: Like why don't you just date people your age? Period. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indie Posted September 20, 2023 Share Posted September 20, 2023 I wouldn't say creepy, but it sounds awful. At 26, I see 18 year olds as "kids" still - legally adults, but certainly not mature enough to be a partner. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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