Queen. Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 I like someone that is older than me but I also don't want someone twice as my age. How big of an age gap is too big when it comes to dating?
Vespertine Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Anything greater than 6 months is borderline criminal IMO 1 1
Tropez Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Depends on the age. An 18 year old dating a 22 year old is creepy. A 30 dating a 60 year old is fine. 1 1
mellenthin Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Just now, Tropez said: Depends on the age. An 18 year old dating a 22 year old is creepy. A 30 dating a 60 year old is fine. 18 and 22 really isn't creepy imo 9
Archetype Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 I would at least start with a 97 year age gap minimum, but adjust based on the personality
Tropez Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Just now, mellenthin said: 18 and 22 really isn't creepy imo It is. You’re a 22 year old dating a teenager. By 22 most people are finishing or done with college starting their lives. You have more life experience. There’s plenty of people to date. So why go after someone who is barely out of high school. 1 3
Bicassie Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 5 years and up are very noticeable gaps tbh 1-4 years gaps are not too weird/bad
sweetblindness Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Half of the older person's age plus seven is what I adhere to. 1
Selegend Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Depend what age are u. A 26 dating a 36 is fine. a 16 dating a 26 not at all. After u turn 21 i think it's not that deep to date anyone 10/15 years older... it may not be a match, but it can work very well in some cases imo. I'm 26 and i would be into dating anyone that's like under 36. not +15 cuz i don't see myself with a 40, but +10 would be fine AND i think it could be interesting btw, more mature, independent and stuff. i'm dating a 25 (1 year YOUNGER ) and in love tho 2
Sheep Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 By your early 20s you're mature enough to understand the inherent power imbalance in a relationship with a big age gap and if you consent to that, any downsides are on you. People could look at you funny if the age gap is big enough but it's hard to go wrong between consenting adults.
vale9001 Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 (edited) 16 minutes ago, Queen. said: I like someone that is older than me but I also don't want someone twice as my age. How big of an age gap is too big when it comes to dating? If you like him this means you need someone is more adult than you or you wouldn't be attracted. So what universal rule do you search?. Live your Life free and in the way makes you happier. Edited August 10, 2023 by vale9001 1
Queen. Posted August 10, 2023 Author Posted August 10, 2023 6 minutes ago, Selegend said: Depend what age are u. A 26 dating a 36 is fine. a 16 dating a 26 not at all. After u turn 21 i think it's not that deep to date anyone 10/15 years older... it may not be a match, but it can work very well in some cases imo. I'm 26 and i would be into dating anyone that's like under 36. not +15 cuz i don't see myself with a 40, but +10 would be fine AND i think it could be interesting btw, more mature, independent and stuff. i'm dating a 25 (1 year YOUNGER ) and in love tho Ok I wish you a very happily ever after. I had my Prince Charming once a upon a time but had to go separate ways because of distance.
Darkgalord Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 (edited) Perched for the mess.. - Up to a 10 years gap. A wider gap would be weird. But I also think that it shouldn't be anyone's business if everyone involved is of legal age. Edited August 10, 2023 by Darkgalord
Queen. Posted August 10, 2023 Author Posted August 10, 2023 6 minutes ago, vale9001 said: If you like him this means you need someone is more adult to you or you wouldn't be attracted. So what universal rule do you search?. Live your Life free and in the way makes you happier. I know sis, but I just don't want to date someone that is in there 40s. It would look wired.
Domination Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 I would say 7-10 years rule of thumb but the acceptable gap increases exponentially as the young partner gets older. Eg. a 40 y/o with a 60 y/o is way different than an 18y/o with a 38 y/o. 3
vale9001 Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 Just now, Queen. said: I know sis, but I just don't want to date someone that is in there 40s. It would look wired. So what's the point of the question. If you feel It's weird or you don't like the idea what can change what we say.
mellenthin Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 10 minutes ago, Tropez said: It is. You’re a 22 year old dating a teenager. By 22 most people are finishing or done with college starting their lives. You have more life experience. There’s plenty of people to date. So why go after someone who is barely out of high school. There is nothing "creepy" about it. When you're 22 you're still very young and learning things in life. With your logic a 28 year old should not be dating anyone below 25 either, as they have SO much more life experience as well. And it goes on and on and on. You can think it's inappropriate for a 22 year old to "go after" someone who is 18, but if they start dating due to happenstance there is nothing creepy about it. 2
Tropez Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 4 minutes ago, mellenthin said: There is nothing "creepy" about it. When you're 22 you're still very young and learning things in life. With your logic a 28 year old should not be dating anyone below 25 either, as they have SO much more life experience as well. And it goes on and on and on. You can think it's inappropriate for a 22 year old to "go after" someone who is 18, but if they start dating due to happenstance there is nothing creepy about it. You are correct a 28 year old shouldn’t be dating someone 25 for those reasons. 1
JayG Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 I think its all subjective, as long as its not illegal but... could I date a younger or older person? Probs not, they'd have to be in my generation personally (health, energy, mindset, same interests etc)
KBax Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 As long as it's legal there's no issue really. If you like someone, age difference doesn't matter at the end of the day (again as long as it's legal)
flower moon Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 if youre over like 20... the limit does not exist 1
mellenthin Posted August 10, 2023 Posted August 10, 2023 8 minutes ago, Tropez said: You are correct a 28 year old shouldn’t be dating someone 25 for those reasons. Then I don't agree at all. You want to eradicate a large portion of relationships with this mindset - relationships that are completely normal and healthy. 2
Queen. Posted August 10, 2023 Author Posted August 10, 2023 27 minutes ago, vale9001 said: So what's the point of the question. If you feel It's weird or you don't like the idea what can change what we say. Sis, it called an open discussion
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