Is this racist? :rip:

[ImsoLOUD]

100% a micro-aggression and then some. 

Ew @ the landlord! 

 

[Aethereal]

It's ignorant. 

[Specter]

1 hour ago, Take Me Apart said:

you have victim mentality I fear 

 

 

 

 

...

 

Y'all so dumb and for what

[Bacardo Royale]

Sometimes we can't afford to be picky. If that's what she's scared of and you don't cook like that, I'd still take the accommodation. She sounds ignorant but the harmless kind you can let slide

[thetea]

it's a micro aggression. they didn't word it in a nice matter and by the language they've used, it's clear they're racist to some extent. you should avoid that listing

[Theshigo Washidu]

Micro-aggressive for sure. 

 

[Into The Void]

3 hours ago, airplane said:

This is definitely racism. I’m sorry that you’re experiencing this. White people i’ve come across never hide their racism against asians, especially against the food.

 

Is there any local asian community you could approach that could potentially have a spare room to offer you?

The OP never said they were white whybr u assuming the race of the racist

[Into The Void]

4 hours ago, Phantom said:

So I'm Asian, and for the past two months I've been trying to look for accommodation to this place I'm moving to down the line. No luck. 

 

On most sites, people don't reply to me, or are trying to scam - all of which is par for the course I think. 

 

But today someone replied to my very nice, elaborate first message with:

 

"I only have a room avaliable for <date here>. If anything changes, I will let you know. So you cook with spices and (traditional dish)." (ma'am, I barely even cook I'm trying to learn dyfhf) "my room is near the kitchen, and the odour is bad for my asthma. It lingers all day in the building" 

 

 

I got in an argument with my friend who thinks this is just casual, reasonable query and not, at best, microaggression (which is my opinion - certainly this is not the worst racism I've experienced online or offline, but the blatantness of it caught me off guard). 

The response is inherently rude and ingrained in ignorance considering  you never mentioned cooking. If she has asthma she should have just said she has asthma and asked if that would be an issue. Weird response as she doesn't even know you. 

[Gwendolyn]

A clear microaggression.

[Archetype]

It’s a bit racist but it’s also sort of transparent on their end and upfront.  Based on their response, they’d seriously consider you or else they wouldn’t have mentioned the cooking bit, most likely would have just said no or not responded at all.  

[DamianSolo]

Some people really just aren't aware of what they're saying and how they're saying it. It's more so ignorant than racist. While she shouldn't have assumed anything, it's very important to have these conversations when selecting roommates to live with, though. "What's your lifestyle? Do you do much cooking? What do you cook with? I'm allergic to dairy and nut products; if you eat or use these products, they have to be securely sealed and kept away from my food and ingredients. I have asthma and the aromas from certain spices and ingredients easily triggers it. If you regularly cook with such ingredients we may not be compatible as roommates."

 

Everything isn't racially motivated or an attack for the sake of being an attack; I could understand how it could come off as being offensive, but those are fair concerns to raise when selecting someone to live with, it could have just been worded more respectfully.

 

I grew up, lived in and currently live in a household where the aroma covers the whole house when certain dishes are being prepared—so I get it. Not everyone can take that due to whatever health issues they may have.

[Pendulum]

Is this in the Netherlands by any chance? I've heard the same thing from an Indian friend too.

[rihannafan]

I was trying to rent my room after moving out once and I almost had someone agree until they found out my roommate was indian. Unfortunately, a lot of people think this way, it's awful.

[Artist]

It blows my mind how people don't just ask a question

[Smarticle]

4 hours ago, Bussea said:

@Smarticle

I don't cook and I don't clean 

[Cyanide]

5 hours ago, Phantom said:

I'm SCREECHING because the first thing I thought of after reading the message was wait, this is literally a subplot from Demon-79 hdjfhfh

 

And no. I didn't mention anything about cooking at all, and when asked, I always inform that I'm not a smoker. 

Yup the first thing I thought of is when they made her eat in the basement

[HeavyMetalAura]

I would say most likely a micro aggression. You could always give them the benefit of the doubt and assume that if they really do have asthma and certain dishes aggravate it, then this is something they would say to any applicant regardless of race to be on the safe side. But the wording is sus.

 

I try to give people the benefit of the doubt because the recent trend of being quick to label everyone and everything as racist (at least in America) has birthed a really toxic culture, but like… this definitely seems like a micro aggression to me. 

[CBC]

Obvious racism.

 

"I only have a room avaliable for <date here>. If anything changes, I will let you know. So you cook with spices and (traditional dish), my room is near the kitchen, and the odour is bad for my asthma. It lingers all day in the building" 

 

All they had to do was change the bold part to something like "we avoid strong spices/smells because of the ashma problem" and it would've been transparent and fair 

[brazil]

My mom had an Indian roomate for  a short period and she sometimes mentions that the spices that roomate cooked with were too strong for her and the whole apartment would smell. But even if we assume this women had a similar experience. She could simply ask you if you cook and what food and says she doesnt like strong smells in the apartment. No need to mention ethinic food. Also, i dint know asthma was agraveted by spices

Edited July 15, 2023 by brazil

[Trent W]

That person could’ve definitely expressed their concern with odor in a different way

[Devin]

Its a microagression.

[AMIT]

15 hours ago, Take Me Apart said:

you have victim mentality I fear 

 

 

 

 

you have thee worst takes I fear and don't deserve queen Ayumi in your pfp

 

[ICLDXU4HS]

21 hours ago, The Man Who said:

This reminds me of when my friend who is mixed with Indian cooked for a guy she had been on a few dates with and he said “I was expecting you to make a curry” after she served up a pasta dish.
 

She was so flabbergasted by the comment that she didn’t know how to react, so she just finished the evening and then later cut ties with him. Some people just have racism engrained in their bones. 

If his worst preconceived notion about a partly Indian woman was that she would possibly serve him curry when he wouldn't even have minded eating curry and she was bad faith enough to dump him over that then he dodged a bullet and she didn't deserve him. "Racism engrained in their bones"... Weird as hell. Literally not comparable to the situation described in the OP whatsoever. 

 

[The Man Who]

1 hour ago, ICLDXU4HS said:

If his worst preconceived notion about a partly Indian woman was that she would possibly serve him curry when he wouldn't even have minded eating curry and she was bad faith enough to dump him over that then he dodged a bullet and she didn't deserve him. "Racism engrained in their bones"... Weird as hell. Literally not comparable to the situation described in the OP whatsoever. 

 

Yes it is comparable? He assumed that because she was part Indian that she would make curry, so how is that not a microaggression to think that Indians only eat curry?
 

And I don’t know why you underlined that part of your message when nowhere in my original post did I say he wouldn’t have minded? When my friend did an impression of what he said, his tone heavily implied that he was shocked  she served an Italian dish.
 

But you keep living in your world of prejudging what people will like based on their race and I’ll live in mine. 

[Robert]

What trash country is this in? It is racist and I would report if you can.