discussion Is it actually weird to date someone who looks like you?

[Tropez]

3 minutes ago, AMIT said:

I understand why other races/ethnicities do it, since they are usually disavantaged when it comes to the dating life compared to white males. This is just my opinion, though, I am not gonna back this up with scientific papers and ****.  But hopefully you understand where I'm coming from.

Your point is very white centric. As not all places where gay men live are white countries. So how will they have a disadvantage in a country where they form the majority? 

[AMIT]

2 minutes ago, Tropez said:

Your point is very white centric. As not all places where gay men live are white countries. So how will they have a disadvantage in a country where they form the majority? 

Yes, I'm not sure about those cases or like, how common those kind of couples are then. I still think it's weird either way. 

[RunUpDoneUp]

No, I always wanted a twin, so that's way too close to incest for my liking. Never liked guys who resemble me in actual looks.

[Alldeezy]

I get told I look like I could be related to Allday so idk. 

 

 

[JoeAg]

yeah it's a bit weird

 

after I broke up with my ex girlfriend (I saw them at the Caroline Polachek show a few nights ago btw which was stressful ) I realized that we kinda looked alike in some ways (short, curly hair, distinctive facial features, prominent eyebrows) and I was like... mess. idk it's weird for me cause I very much do not have one specific type, so the fact that I've dated one person who looks like me, and the fact that I find people like Violet Chachki, Mike Faist, and Ezra Miller (I know they're a shitty person but I'm talking on a purely physical level) attractive... perhaps I have a few narcissistic tendencies indeed 

[Marry The Gods]

People need to mind their business and let people love who they want to love. I remember back in 2021 a gay couple IG page reached out to me via DM and asked if they could upload a photo of my fiance and I on their stories and within a couple hours some guy screenshot the story and posted it on his twitter account and made a slick comment about my fiance and I looking alike and then people were calling us incest couple just because we both have blue eyes and pale skin but that's literally it. They were making fun of white gays dating their lookalikes and I had to remind them that I'm Puerto Rican and my fiance is Italian and then the comments (who were not even Latino) got more nasty telling me I'm not a real Puerto Rican and that the poppers fried my brain up even though I've never used poppers  People can be hateful. 

 

 

 

[LoveInStereo]

18 hours ago, Helios said:

That has nothing to do with looks.  

The title of the thread is “is it weird” & I made reference to the fact that it’s well-observed that people regularly seek out partners that resemble themselves so by definition it’s not weird. It’s self-image. If your self-concept doesn’t include your name, did your cognitive development stop around 2?  

[DamianSolo]

Yes, and no. People are attracted to who they're attracted to, but it does seem rather basic, for lack of a better term. I tend to like contrasts, myself, so I typically don't date people who look like me; though I do find myself to be attractive.

[Mirtilo]

Yes

[PrettyHurts]

Yes I don’t usually give guys with similar features a chance tbh. I like for us to be different 

[Helios]

3 hours ago, LoveInStereo said:

The title of the thread is “is it weird” & I made reference to the fact that it’s well-observed that people regularly seek out partners that resemble themselves so by definition it’s not weird. It’s self-image. If your self-concept doesn’t include your name, did your cognitive development stop around 2?  

They absolutely dont and it is weird. For some reason some gay people do this and its NOT normal.