#Beautiful Posted April 27, 2023 Posted April 27, 2023 1 minute ago, #Beautiful said: most of them are looking for fem looking cisgender gay men or transgender women who haven't yet had their transition surgery. i know this because my close personal "straight" friend is one of them he even went as far as out loud saying that he would rather suck a dick off a feminine looking man rather than some big hunk and i was like alright........... didnt ask but you do you
boneyard Posted April 27, 2023 Posted April 27, 2023 10 minutes ago, Beyonnaise said: Yeah I don't know why the lines for men are still so rigidly enforced by gays. It helps to remember that these are just words at the end of the day. If a man is willing to hook up with a man (especially discreetly) but never have a relationship with one, is he 100% "straight"? Obviously no. But I think this genre of person can still be classified "functionally" straight despite having bi tendencies when it comes to sex, because he will live a straight lifestyle where he goes on to marry a woman. I personally don't consider this type of person "gay", because the capability of having a romantic relationship with someone of the same gender changes the dynamic completely. This type of person doesn't know how it feels to come out to people, to say "my partner/boyfriend", to wonder about the legality of your relationship when you travel etc. This person is essentially lives a straight lifestyle, just privately also has some same-sex encounters. At the same time, bi men are valid. There are men who have relationships with both men and women, I know some myself. That's not really what I am talking about above though. I don't think gays are responsible for creating that rigidity. It was enforced upon them by straight people (specifically straight men) and still is. Female sexuality, whether it be homosexual or not, is a lot more objectified as you probably already know so it's a commodity of sorts and that's why it has more (superficial) acceptance amongst straight people (although that doesn't mean there aren't problems queer women face). There also could be a point to be made about the influence of sexuality in both men and women by way of patriarchy as the pattern I'm noticing is how sexuality is valued to some degree with the man being the focal point here. People are quick to judge another man for being gay but no one really second guesses the validity of a gay person, whereas people are dubious about the validity of queer women (especially lesbian women) and "when" they'll be attracted to men. All roads lead back to men being the focal point of sexual attraction. I think bisexual men technically exist, but they just call themselves different things depending on how far they are on the spectrum. Like I was saying earlier, I think bisexual men who have a preference for homosexuality subconsciously feel pressured to call themselves gay. But for the vast majority of men who self identify as bisexual they basically end up "functionally" straight as you said before. They end up being heteroromantic and virtually entirely heterosexual with homosexual tendencies. I've noticed a very similar theme for female bisexuality as well but there's a lot more room on the spectrum for same-sex sexual attraction. Like out of all my bi friends I've known (male and female) they've all settled down with the opposite sex and only one (a woman) has expressed desire to settle down with a woman.
Twilish Posted April 27, 2023 Posted April 27, 2023 17 minutes ago, AMIT said: mte they are even worse than your average gay top (in my experience) that acts like a total jerk/douche thinking it makes them look manlier or something it's so pathetic and it really seems like it's the case with most of the ''tops'' I've encountered though nothing is worse than the bottom of the barrel married guys in there jesus christ we truly are in hell Girl seriously if they’re going out of their way to make that the first impression then i know there’s usually some insecurity there also just supports the stereotype that gays only lust for straight man etc. truly the pits
UnusualBoy Posted April 27, 2023 Posted April 27, 2023 They're british cigarrettes, they ain't fooling anyone.
JustHoran Posted April 27, 2023 Posted April 27, 2023 Bi men are apart of the community, so what is your point? They have every right to be there. Also this is nothing new and most of those straight men are not straight, in reality.
imabadkid Posted April 27, 2023 Posted April 27, 2023 Yep... it's become way more prevalent since COVID.
Fancyhoodlum Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 20 hours ago, Cheers said: Are you talking about Str8 guys looking for Transwomen? I’ve noticed that a lot Bi guys make sense to be there Same in Netherlands
Theshigo Washidu Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 Some straight dudes are either on there because they're curious or they just want to nut without going through the process of courting a woman for that. Most females just don't give it up that easily compared to men. Bi men have always been on these apps, but you just wouldn't know they were bi unless they told you or it was stated in their bio.
The Music Industry Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 Y'all are dumb if you seriously believe they are "straight" Think logically for a second outside of your fantasies
perfect blue Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 19 hours ago, Bussea said: the concept of bi and question men is always such a mystery to atrl and I still do not understand why. they’ve literally always been there to be so LOUD about your lack of reading comprehension...
cockatoo Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 A lot of "straight" men on those apps know they aren't, but they know their profile will get more interest if they call themselves straight. I don't see bi men very often though, but I have no beef with them
Bussea Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, ptolemaea said: to be so LOUD about your lack of reading comprehension... to be so LOUD when i’m not even speaking to you and you don’t understand the context of my post. Shoo! Edited April 28, 2023 by Bussea
Bussea Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 55 minutes ago, cockatoo said: A lot of "straight" men on those apps know they aren't, but they know their profile will get more interest if they call themselves straight. I don't see bi men very often though, but I have no beef with them Add me as a friend on grindr
cockatoo Posted April 28, 2023 Posted April 28, 2023 1 hour ago, Bussea said: Add me as a friend on grindr I'm a married woman
katara Posted April 29, 2023 Author Posted April 29, 2023 18 hours ago, The Music Industry said: Y'all are dumb if you seriously believe they are "straight" Think logically for a second outside of your fantasies Guys that are into trans women (even those who aren't fully transitioned) can be str8 for sure. I am 100% gay and I had no problem to hook up and top a trans man but I could never get it up with a woman. I've come to realise that sexual attraction is way more about physical features ("manly" looking vs "fem" looking) than it is about genitalia.
Otter Posted April 29, 2023 Posted April 29, 2023 (edited) On 4/27/2023 at 6:41 PM, katara said: So have yall noticed that the number of bi and str8 men on Grindr, Romeo and other gay dating apps has exploded? Bi guys especially seem like they make up about 50% of all profiles now while like only 5 or 10 years before you would find one bi guy in maybe 100 profiles. The "str8" guys usually only search for trans girls and fem gays. -------------------------- Why is this? Is it coz being LGBT is way more accpeted now so a lot of the bi guys that were in hiding and were only dating girls now dare to date and have sex with men? Or is it coz for most guys to get a woman has become very hard so out of sexual frustration they are also willing to approach men (the prison effect)? Any other thoughts? Where are you? In London, from my experience there's been a big explosion but they're at most making up 1/10. Do you really mean to say that for every 2 profiles you see one is bi? Edited April 29, 2023 by Otter
Mr. Mendes Posted April 29, 2023 Posted April 29, 2023 Why shouldn't bi people be on gay dating apps? If they want to find a man, they're gonna have more luck there than on Tindr or something like that.
Otter Posted April 29, 2023 Posted April 29, 2023 18 hours ago, cockatoo said: A lot of "straight" men on those apps know they aren't, but they know their profile will get more interest if they call themselves straight. I don't see bi men very often though, but I have no beef with them I really doubt they think about that hard. They're just not comfortable with bi/gay labels. Some may just be on the curious spectrum, others may genuinely consider themselves straight but see it as a means to an end.
Otter Posted April 29, 2023 Posted April 29, 2023 4 minutes ago, Mr. Mendes said: Why shouldn't bi people be on gay dating apps? If they want to find a man, they're gonna have more luck there than on Tindr or something like that. think the talking point is the number of them and the sudden explosion
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