discussion Is life just sadness and disappointment ?

[Breathe On Moi]

honestly I’d say focusing on your career really helps and also having core groups of friends that you can escape and do things with every now and then REALLY helps as well, I know from first hands and how’s I’m surviving. Always remember there are similar people out there and that you’re not alone, it makes it so much easier to have others around you and to uplift one another. 
 

the guilt after sex/guys being pieces of shits and unfaithful/weird/ghosting has no fix to it unfortunately tho. we’re just doomed 

[Vespertine]

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Myth_of_Sisyphus

[CBC]

yes

[BloodLuster]

2 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

What is "happinness" ?

happiness is a butterfly, try to catch it like every night

 

[TheGerm]

1 hour ago, Twilish said:

Sis trust me when i say i know what you mean. Been getting over an ex for almost 2 years now so my love life has been pretty non existent and constantly feel like I’ll waste more years of my life etc with someone new. Still live at home and spend most of my days working and then coming home and playing video games. I have a great support system at home and a great friend group at least and try to remind myself everyday that there’s people that have it way worse than i do. Sure i might not be a millionaire etc but at least i have the option to try and become one, which a lot of people don’t even have that or a roof over their heads etc. it really is just a daily battle with perspective but life could always be worse so i try and stay thankful for what i have and what i can still accomplish if i just try. Sending positive vibes your way 

i really feel you about the ex things, kind of in the same boat. Take it one day at a time sis 

[Qmhp]

B** me too the f*** .gif

[Twilish]

2 hours ago, Before Today said:

I have one friend who's never been in a relationship but I admire her because it seems like she is busy and entertained with her own world and passion. Something I lack, I get bored easily so I have to be creative to find ways entertain myself   Speaking of video games, what game do you play? I used to play a lot JRPGs, survival horror back in the day but even video games bore me now.

 

 

Preach

 

An iconic movie! I remember watching this at a hotel with my ex during our anniversary 

I envy still being single and being content with that. I feel like slowly I’m getting there but i feel like we are similar where we get bored easily. It kinda was a factor in my last breakup so i have feelings of guilt that i made a mistake with him and should have taken it more seriously but also wonder if it was my inner self telling me i wasn’t satisfied with the relationship and that led me to get bored etc. Video game wish i have been playing overwatch lately with the new season and loving it, i also play dead by daylight with a friend of mine that’s  a multiplayer horror game if you haven’t heard of it. I also love JRPGS so have recently gotten the final fantasy 6 remaster and have been enjoying that as well. As i mentioned i also get bored easily so like to switch it up between a handful of games to stay interested 

[Twilish]

1 hour ago, TheGerm said:

i really feel you about the ex things, kind of in the same boat. Take it one day at a time sis 

Thank you sis  hope you are doing well also. It’s the first relationship i could’ve potentially seen being long lasting so hurts a little extra but also need to realize we broke up for a reason and that there’s so many people in the world I’m sure there’s someone out there. One day at a time, time heals everything 

[MoonGoodandHappy]

5 hours ago, Love Again said:

I feel like this a lot of times but I find bliss and joy in the small things like music, my favourite tv shows and movies, my friends, pop culture, animals, etc. And accepting that this is the best it’s gonna get and I can only make it more bearable for myself

 

Please know you’re not alone in feeling this way. Your feelings are valid 

 

4 hours ago, Twilish said:

Sis trust me when i say i know what you mean. Been getting over an ex for almost 2 years now so my love life has been pretty non existent and constantly feel like I’ll waste more years of my life etc with someone new. Still live at home and spend most of my days working and then coming home and playing video games. I have a great support system at home and a great friend group at least and try to remind myself everyday that there’s people that have it way worse than i do. Sure i might not be a millionaire etc but at least i have the option to try and become one, which a lot of people don’t even have that or a roof over their heads etc. it really is just a daily battle with perspective but life could always be worse so i try and stay thankful for what i have and what i can still accomplish if i just try. Sending positive vibes your way 

 

4 hours ago, Before Today said:

Life is truly what we make it to be. It is both ugly and beautiful. We just have to accept both sides, to feel free and be at peace. If you're sad, remember that everything in life is temporary. We just tend to focus on the bad sides that we forget to see the good sides. Count on those too. Regarding social/love life, I've been single for a month now and I'm the happiest of my life since the last two years, surprisingly! They say a man won't feel lonely when surrounded with ambitions/principles, and I'm constantly improving myself. Learning, reading, maintaining a healthier daily routine etc. I visit places by myself, spend time more with friends, make new friends along the way. Don't fret too much on "finding love". If you enjoy your own company first, then I believe the right people will come along the way. Good luck sis!

 

I personally, rather than feeling sad or hopeless in life. I feel more BORED. But I try to find ways to entertain myself and switch things up for fun. 

 

4 hours ago, Likingstars said:

I understand what you feel completely but also keep in mind that perspective is important. Yes life is pointless and miserable and saf but since you’re at it maybe try to have fun in the meantime? It’s hard to change the way we think about life so that’s why people go to therapy and work on themselves. 

 

3 hours ago, CandleGuy said:

You have control over how you choose to view the circumstances in your life.

 

There is a lot of homophobia, hate, and racism if that is what you choose to focus on. But there is a lot more support, love, and acceptance now than at any point in human history.

 

If you aren't happy with your day to day, work towards changing it. If dating apps aren't making you happy, don't use them. If you are working a dead end job you hate, create a plan to do something more fulfilling. There are accessible certifications in every field (medical/nursing, veterinary, IT, etc).

 

If you get ghosted or things don't work out with a guy, the universe has something better planned for you. His loss. 

 

I could go on, but the point is you that reality is subjective. Two people could have the exact same set of circumstances and feel completely different because they view things from different perspectives. It's up to you to create the reality you want and find your own happiness.

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you so much, it makes me feel better to see i'm not alone in this. 

[campelo]

I think life is great and beautiful from my perspective. 

[JoeAg]

sadness, darkness, disappointment, struggling, stress, disillusionment... yeah these are key fixtures in life. but it's not the entirety of life. sure, happiness never lasts quite as long as one could wish it would, laughter only helps temporarily. men leave, women leave, people leave. you get ghosted, you get torn down, you get ignored, you only attract people you're not interested in. there's always someone more talented, someone prettier, someone more profound, someone perkier, someone stronger, someone more optimistic than you. you never work hard enough. your room is too messy, your life is too messy, your hair is too messy. I try to be an optimist as much as possible at this point in my life, and whenever I feel passive suicidal thoughts coming on, I remember how much music I would miss if I died this early. I know that may seem trivial and faintly humorous, but it's true: there are certainly simple pleasures in life which make life worth living. go on more walks, find meaning in simple pleasures, keep a journal, write poetry. be yourself in your most vital form, you learn how over time!

 

honestly, to be even cheesier and angstier, lemme direct y'all to a tumblr post that always helps me, for years and years...

https://www.tumblr.com/irynka/91309608732/wanna-know-the-*******-truth-nobody-is-*******

[AMIT]

We tend to feel this way because the society we live on (the western one at least) is not built with human needs/wellbeing as the priority. Things you mentioned like having an exhausting bad job, racism, homophobia, commodified dating life, loneliness as a side effect of hyperindividualism etc are direct consequences of the capitalist system and it's not somethign we can choose to ''look at differently'' because they are pretty straight forward issues, they won't just magically change or go away because you individually choose to delude yourself. 

 

The people talking about individual perspectives don't realize how much of that position comes from their own priviledge. Millions of people can't choose to view their poverty and lack of food differently so as to make that situation better for themselves.  Working people can't choose to view the fact that they have to work (in many times in something they don't like or find purpuseful/fullfilling) otherwise they will starve or become homeless as something that's not exactly that. I understand the sentiment, but it completely undermines the systemic issues that determine millions of lives and are completely out of an individual's control. 

 

You are right that life is only good for rich people, because the current system is built for them with them in mind (the capitalists) to the detriment of everyone else. What we have to understand is that things don't have to be this way and wee have to work collectively to change the system. Putting the blame on individuals does more harm than good and it's exactly what the capitalists wants us to do, as another dividing tactic. We must not fall into that trap and realize we need to stick together and learn more about the system we live in, so we can eventually change it (for the better).

[TheGerm]

3 hours ago, Twilish said:

Thank you sis  hope you are doing well also. It’s the first relationship i could’ve potentially seen being long lasting so hurts a little extra but also need to realize we broke up for a reason and that there’s so many people in the world I’m sure there’s someone out there. One day at a time, time heals everything 

Thank you so much, there have been lots of ups and downs because we continued to see each other once every couple months. Definitely thought I was going to marry this guy, but you've just got to take what you can learn from the situation and apply it towards your future. Of course there are other people out there, just like there are always people going through pain, that may even be similar to yours!