news Woman leaves boyfriend because he got cancer, writes article about how great she is

[brazil]

45 minutes ago, Otter said:

Honestly I don't think the article is that bad, it's just the framing.

 

She's not claiming to be a great person and she's trying to raise awareness and support. 

 

She wasn't strong enough to weather the hardship, I don't think there's anything evil about that. 

 

Glad he survived and they're still friends

Yeah, at least she recognize she's not a great person and couldn't cope. 

 

But I find it hilarious how they're (him including) are acting like running a marathon is the most difficult thing ever while he had surgery 

[The Next Day]

16 minutes ago, getBusy said:

So you think it's ok to get engaged to someone you're NOT going to support if they get sick? Yikes. I truly hope you never have to face that.

So you would rather to be stuck in a loveless marriage than having your partner let you go? Yikes. I truly hope you never have to face that.

[Alyssa Edwards]

I'm reading the article (not done yet) but y'all are doing the most. As we know ATRL'ers only read titles and feeo what you're telling them to feel without doing one bit of reading.

[PrettyHurts]

Your boyfriend gets cancer and all you can think about is….yourself? 

[Redstreak]

5 minutes ago, The Next Day said:

So you would rather to be stuck in a loveless marriage than having your partner let you go? Yikes. I truly hope you never have to face that.

Me me me me me is all I’m hearing

[getBusy]

15 minutes ago, The Next Day said:

So you would rather to be stuck in a loveless marriage than having your partner let you go? Yikes. I truly hope you never have to face that.

If you accepted to be engaged to that person, being sick should NOT be the reason why you stop loving them.

[The Next Day]

22 minutes ago, Redstreak said:

Me me me me me is all I’m hearing

Imagine a child growing up in that broken household. The bitter divorce and trauma this could've led to. The poor child that has to pay because the mother stayed in a loveless relationship. Making a mistake in the past doesn't mean you can't prevent a future mistake and staying with him would've been a mistake.

 

12 minutes ago, getBusy said:

If you accepted to be engaged to that person, being sick should NOT be the reason why you stop loving them.

Yes, getting engaged was a mistake. But what else was she supposed to do? Pretending that she loves him? Everyone in here acts as if she left him as soon as she knew she didn't love him anymore. She stayed and suffered as well. The problem is that a lot of people who aspire marriage don't aspire being married and actually taking responsibility. They think they do, but they don't. And a lot of people fall out of love over time and don't know how to fix the relationship. It's scary to think about, but it happens. This couple found out the hard way. But I don't see what choice there was to make if she didn't love him anymore.

Edited April 21, 2023 by The Next Day

[BawwaB]

Making everything about her… “pooooorrr meeee and my mental health”

At least STFU 

[BawwaB]

1 hour ago, UnusualBoy said:

She's basically milking his disgrace, she's nothing but a narcissist garbage woman. She could've just let him and call it a day but no, she ran to get an article write about it and how much she suffered during that time and ish like *****, pls...

Exactly! At least leave him alone, he will read this bullsh*** and feel like he was a burden for her

The fact that the moment he wasn’t ok he just ran I understand but I don’t understand her need to milk this 

[NoOneDiesFromLove]

She managed to make it all about herself girl he’s the one with the cancer and she wrote this like she had it harder

[modeblock]

say less honey 

[Sazare]

I wish this piece weren’t paywalled so I could understand why she felt compelled to write about this, and why the Telegraph found this worthy to print

[BrokenMachine]

I wouldn't go as far as calling her 'evil'. It was wrong of course, and she didn't have to make it all about herself but I don't think it was mean spirited, she's just comes off as out of touch and from an environment where people tell things like 'if it doesn't makes you feel well, leave it', or 'woah, such a red flag, dump him', instead of actually trying to figure things out and find a common solution. Also, relationships are socially seen as 'you have to stay there in the good and bad times', but most people don't really think about it, of course she didn't expect his boyfriend to get stage-four cancer and it was too much for her to handle it.

[truthteller]

woman outs herself as a PROUD narcissist

[Blade]

This is bad. But men are more likely to leave women because of the woman having an illness. This story is making rounds on right-wing twitter and while the girl personally deserves lashings, incels have taken a hold of this story and are using it to just straight up threaten violence against women  

[Relampago.]

The girls in here defending her  

 

If you're going to promise someone forever and then leave because of something that they can't help, you're a selfish person. And it's not an inherently bad thing to be selfish, some people benefit from that and being aware of it can allow you to take precautionary measures to prevent that selfishness from hurting other people. That's where this girl went wrong. She should have truly reflected on herself before going this far with someone. 

 

It's all the worse that he was approaching his diagnosis with "well, it is what it is, I'll just have to keep going" while she acted like it was the end of her life.  I don't think that's true love at all, and she, like most people, should have never gotten into a relationship. It's honestly gross and the way it's framed is even worse. 

[A.R.L]

There are always gentle ways to deal with sudden negative life changes no matter what, and not wanting to continue a certain type of relationship with or without a reason for someone doesn't necessarily need to make it a press. This will end your relationship with the person in general and not just the type of relationship you have with them.

 

 

She’s

the cancer he needs to get rid of. 

[Velvet Night]

He’s better off without her. What a horrible self centred woman. 

[Pandora]

and that, ladies, is a narcissist.

[scenekiller]

"She didn't write the article herself" isn't the serve some of yall think it is.

 

There might be some understanding for why she did this, but you don't "bring awareness to brain cancer" by talking all about yourself and your struggle. And certainly no normal person proudly revels in the attention of making such a difficult decision. 

[Helios]

She was just being honest? People on here literally would date someone who was short or if they gained weight. Lets not act like many of you wouldnt do the same exact thing.  

[Phaunzie]

Serving pure trash, I hope she slips on pebble during the marathon.

[loveisdead9582]

On 4/21/2023 at 11:48 AM, The Next Day said:

Imagine a child growing up in that broken household. The bitter divorce and trauma this could've led to. The poor child that has to pay because the mother stayed in a loveless relationship. Making a mistake in the past doesn't mean you can't prevent a future mistake and staying with him would've been a mistake.

 

Yes, getting engaged was a mistake. But what else was she supposed to do? Pretending that she loves him? Everyone in here acts as if she left him as soon as she knew she didn't love him anymore. She stayed and suffered as well. The problem is that a lot of people who aspire marriage don't aspire being married and actually taking responsibility. They think they do, but they don't. And a lot of people fall out of love over time and don't know how to fix the relationship. It's scary to think about, but it happens. This couple found out the hard way. But I don't see what choice there was to make if she didn't love him anymore.

1) there weren’t any children which invalidates the first part of your argument entirely. 
 

2) I guess the silver lining is that he found out. E hard way that if this had happened after marriage, she’d have left him regardless. What a lot of couples don’t think about is that at some point they will grow old and that usually comes with health problems. Would it be okay that she left him later in life then? Absolutely not. It’s not okay now either. 
 

On 4/21/2023 at 11:33 AM, Redstreak said:

Me me me me me is all I’m hearing

 This. 

[Iceland]

Disgusting woman