Would you date someone with a physical or mental disability?

[Bussea]

Me and my coworker was discussing this today, because she went on a tinder date with someone who was autistic and she said that she’s not sure she would go on a second date, despite liking him because she feels as though it might be an obstacle that she might not be able to handle later down the road.

 

Another one of my coworkers is married to someone who’s bound to a wheelchair.

 

 

have you or will you date someone with a mental or physical disability?

[Solaria]

I have ADHD myself so I know what it's like to be living with a mental disability. I also have dealt with a parent with autism so I do know how they communicate even if every person with autism is different ofcourse. So yeah, I could do it but only if they are willing to communicate. I couldn't date someone that is a closed book and doesn't want to be intimate with me.

 

As for physical disability, I'm not sure. I don't think I could tbh

[Gladiator]

yes, and I have to both. Though for both it also depends on what disability it is.

[CrimsonX]

A physical disability like a wheelchair I could deal with I think. As long as it’s not too tolling on me I think I could do it.

 

mental disability is a definite no. I just can’t.

[zasderfght]

My boyfriend is on the spectrum, so, yes, I absolutely would! 

 

If you had bad experiences with someone that has a mental and/or physical disability, it's easy to form a judgement about that particular disability, but I'd ask people not to do this. Rather than focusing on the person's diagnosis, focus on the behavior. For example, I have generalized anxiety disorder-- technically considered a mental disability (or illness; invisible illness), and I can manage it reasonably well with therapy and L-Theanine. My partner, who is on the spectrum, can handle his sensory issues and anxiety quite well with medication. 

[zasderfght]

2 hours ago, CrimsonX said:

A physical disability like a wheelchair I could deal with I think. As long as it’s not too tolling on me I think I could do it.

 

mental disability is a definite no. I just can’t.

This is not out of judgment, but I'm curious as to why a mental disability is a definite no for you? 

[SinnerCity]

It’ll depend on the degree of the mental Illness. If it can represent a danger / treat to them or myself I don’t think I could. 
 

Regarding a physical disability I’ve never had a problem with it but also I’ve never been infatuated nor attracted to someone with one before so I don’t know if that could affect the dynamic of the relationship but I don’t think it would, again, it’ll depend on the degree of the disability. 

[CrimsonX]

3 minutes ago, zasderfght said:

This is not out of judgment, but I'm curious as to why a mental disability is a definite no for you? 

It’s already so hard to find someone you actually like. I guess I just have specific criteria I’m looking for. I have very little patience, I get frustrated easily and I’m not sure I could deal with someone who has something like bi polar disorder, ADHD or even worse something like schizophrenia. 
 

I hate to say this but for lack of better words atm I just want someone normal, someone I click with. Someone I can stay up all night and talk with, someone who remembers the little things about me and shares similar values. 
 

also I have family members with mental disabilities and it’s just too much for me sometimes. 

[Big Bad Wolf]

Everyone I’ve dated has had mental illness, so yes. As far as a physical disability, no. 

[zasderfght]

2 hours ago, CrimsonX said:

It’s already so hard to find someone you actually like. I guess I just have specific criteria I’m looking for. I have very little patience, I get frustrated easily and I’m not sure I could deal with someone who has something like bi polar disorder, ADHD or even worse something like schizophrenia. 
 

I hate to say this but for lack of better words atm I just want someone normal, someone I click with. Someone I can stay up all night and talk with, someone who remembers the little things about me and shares similar values. 
 

also I have family members with mental disabilities and it’s just too much for me sometimes. 

I can understand how frustrating it is to deal with family/friends that can have mental disabilities that are hard to manage, and obviously it's your life to live, but I wouldn't automatically count out someone who has a mental disability. Like I said in my previous post, if the person can manage it well, you might not even notice they have the disability in the first place. But hey, good luck to you regardless of finding a partner! It's definitely difficult but not impossible. 

[Mr. Mendes]

If I fell in love with someone who had a physical or mental disability, then yes. Their disability doesn't make them any less deserving of love and doesn't make them any less likely to receive my love. 

[chaklux]

I am not sure I can start dating someone I met with a physical disability, just don't think I would be attracted to them. However, if my partner develops physical disability in the course of the relationship, for example become wheelchair bound, I wouldn't leave them because of that. 

 

While for mental disability, it depends. Anxiety disorder, depression, ADHD, autism, I wouldn't mind. Where I draw the line is any form of psychosis. Schizophrena, Bipolar, Mania, etc are definite no for me. I just can't deal

[CrimsonX]

1 minute ago, zasderfght said:

I can understand how frustrating it is to deal with family/friends that can have mental disabilities that are hard to manage, and obviously it's your life to live, but I wouldn't automatically count out someone who has a mental disability. Like I said in my previous post, if the person can manage it well, you might not even notice they have the disability in the first place. But hey, good luck to you regardless of finding a partner! It's definitely difficult but not impossible. 

Tbh while I was writing my response I was thinking about this kid I really liked and how if he had a mental disability I would probably overlook it. So it would probably be a case by case thing. I guess it depends on the person but ideally I’d prefer someone who doesn’t have them.

[zasderfght]

2 hours ago, Mr. Mendes said:

If I fell in love with someone who had a physical or mental disability, then yes. Their disability doesn't make them any less deserving of love and doesn't make them any less likely to receive my love. 

This! 

[Kummercell]

physical, yeah. I'd have no issue dating a little person or someone in a wheelchair. 

mental, it depends tbh. 

 

[Alldeezy]

Yes im a little autistic myself, a mental issue does not change a person at all 

[Zoomer]

I can do physical, but mental is a no

[Fevesy]

Physical I can't envision that I would but I guess you just never know who you will fall in love with.

 

My first boyfriend had borderline personality disorder and it was really difficult. I felt so helpless at times and it started to have an effect on my mental health so I would definitely try to avoid that again.  I still have a lot of trauma from that 

 

However, something like autism would be fine since my brother and a lot of colleagues have it so I know how to deal with it. 

[Oktober Knight]

It depends on what it is. My first bf had a mental disability (bipolar) and he physically abused me, so I vowed to never date anyone with anger issues ever again. 

 

My husband is hearing challenged and while it can be frustrating communicating with him sometimes, it's not enough to where I can't handle it. 

 

A physical disability I think I could live with. 

[shyboi]

Depends on the severity of both the physical and mental disabilities. But to a degree, yes to both.

[terrorblade]

depends on the disability

[Rotunda]

8 hours ago, shyboi said:

Depends on the severity of both the physical and mental disabilities. But to a degree, yes to both.

This basically 

[kimberly]

9 hours ago, Mr. Mendes said:

If I fell in love with someone who had a physical or mental disability, then yes. Their disability doesn't make them any less deserving of love and doesn't make them any less likely to receive my love. 

this is the tea

[Nano]

If said disability is incontinence, I, uh... I could definitely get into that.

[Santhosh]

Physical disability-> Yes

 

Mental disability-> No