Fastlane Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Hey! Over a year ago, I started working for a prestigious company. I was warned that for the time being I would have a temporary contract for 6 months (which subsequently extended for another 6). I worked very hard, constantly proving that I can do more than what is required of me. And when I was promoted and left in the company permanently - I lost all interest in this. Does anyone understand why this transformation happened?
#Beautiful Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 my husband loved to cook but after one year in the industry as a chef he quit completely and he hates cooking with a passion. id say the answer is capitalism
Cain Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Is it the work itself or is it the working environment/circumstances/people?
Fastlane Posted February 9, 2023 Author Posted February 9, 2023 2 minutes ago, #Beautiful said: my husband loved to cook but after one year in the industry as a chef he quit completely and he hates cooking with a passion. id say the answer is capitalism I absolutely hate what I'm doing and the whole situation is reminiscent of the Witness album, when Katy, clearly aware of the consequences, killed her commercial brand. I start fantasizing about working for a small unknown company after working for an A++++ corporation.
Fastlane Posted February 9, 2023 Author Posted February 9, 2023 Just now, Cain said: Is it the work itself or is it the working environment/circumstances/people? It seems to me that I have lost inspiration and motivation, and the latter has never been material. I like the office, and colleagues, and the tasks, in principle, are not bad. This work gives a good reputation and connections. But I'm starting to realize that it's all... empty. For me, this is the highest point that can be reached, if not in terms of position, but in terms of moving through companies and overall progress.
#Beautiful Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Just now, Fastlane said: I absolutely hate what I'm doing and the whole situation is reminiscent of the Witness album, when Katy, clearly aware of the consequences, killed her commercial brand. I start fantasizing about working for a small unknown company after working for an A++++ corporation. everything becomes routine and at some point no matter how you try to manipulate it in your head work will become a chore more or less. some people say it's about discipline but i say it's about the fact that we as a species were never meant to live our lives the way capitalism forces us to. everyone works as a means of survival and anyone who tells you that they do a job because they love it has either been manipulated successfully or is lying to themselves. i understand the katy paralel completely and the fact that youre self aware is important because at the end of the day your own well being is what matters most. money and opportunities will come regardless. assess the situation but at the end of the day do what makes you feel good about yourself
Cain Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 3 minutes ago, Fastlane said: It seems to me that I have lost inspiration and motivation, and the latter has never been material. I like the office, and colleagues, and the tasks, in principle, are not bad. This work gives a good reputation and connections. But I'm starting to realize that it's all... empty. For me, this is the highest point that can be reached, if not in terms of position, but in terms of moving through companies and overall progress. Well you have to listen to your intuition, you’re clearly ready to move on now that you’ve had a taste of achievement. I think this is normal, especially for young people like us Just keep going towards where you want to be
Cain Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 1 minute ago, #Beautiful said: i say it's about the fact that we as a species were never meant to live our lives the way capitalism forces us to. I also firmly believe this, idk how we can escape it tho
#Beautiful Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 1 minute ago, Cain said: I also firmly believe this, idk how we can escape it tho the alternative to hunt for survival is awful obviously... capitalism could be great if it weren't for the imbalance and greed
Fastlane Posted February 9, 2023 Author Posted February 9, 2023 (edited) 9 minutes ago, #Beautiful said: everything becomes routine and at some point no matter how you try to manipulate it in your head work will become a chore more or less. some people say it's about discipline but i say it's about the fact that we as a species were never meant to live our lives the way capitalism forces us to. everyone works as a means of survival and anyone who tells you that they do a job because they love it has either been manipulated successfully or is lying to themselves. i understand the katy paralel completely and the fact that youre self aware is important because at the end of the day your own well being is what matters most. money and opportunities will come regardless. assess the situation but at the end of the day do what makes you feel good about yourself 8 minutes ago, Cain said: Well you have to listen to your intuition, you’re clearly ready to move on now that you’ve had a taste of achievement. I think this is normal, especially for young people like us Just keep going towards where you want to be These words even brought tears to my eyes, despite the fact that I practically have no emotions at the moment. I have been working since the age of 16 (I am 27) almost non-stop, I have 3 educations and I am in the process of getting 4. These are constant conferences, projects, meetings, difficult uncertain situations, risks, difficult people around. I also omit the situation that I had an absolutely disastrous personal life and, against the backdrop of enormous stress from work, I began to get involved in bad habits. To be honest, I'm ready to let it all go, despite the fact that I spent a lot of effort and energy on it. Edited February 9, 2023 by Fastlane
Robyn. Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 You probably found the process of climbing the corporate ladder more thrilling than achieving it. Now that you got to the point you wanted, there's nothing else for you to look forward to and that would explain your lack of interest. It's for you to chose whether you want comfort and stability, or challenge and innovation. It truly all comes down to your personnality, and what you're looking for in life.
IBeMe Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 (edited) I feel like this thread speaks to me so much. I’m in that same place atm. I got addicted to climbing and now that I’m almost at the top of my field I kind of want to completely reinvent myself. I somehow managed to do al this in a matter of two years and a half because I am a master at networking and interviews not because I’m special or more hard working than others (tho I do work hard). But I feel like I’m too young and new into the game to be hitting all these milestones so early into my career journey and it has me feeling like I am uninspired by my work and like I was just more into the climb / journey getting to where I’m at. I’m scared if I pivot I might just do the same thing. im starting to feel like life is kind of a pointless cycle. I totally agree with the girls above saying we as a species are not meant to exist this way low key... Edited February 9, 2023 by IBeMe
Fastlane Posted February 9, 2023 Author Posted February 9, 2023 4 minutes ago, IBeMe said: I feel like this thread speaks to me so much. I’m in that same place atm. I got addicted to climbing and now that I’m almost at the top of my field I kind of want to completely reinvent myself. I somehow managed to do al this in a matter of two years and a half because I am a master at networking and interviews not because I’m special or more hard working than others (tho I do work hard). But I feel like I’m too young and new into the game to be hitting all these milestones so early into my career journey and it has me feeling like I am uninspired by my work and like I was just more into the climb / journey getting to where I’m at. I’m scared if I pivot I might just do the same thing. im starting to feel like life is kind of a pointless cycle. I totally agree with the girls above saying we as a species are not meant to exist this way low key... Absolutely. And in this running around, in any case, you lose your real hobbies and interests. I'm not even interested in dating for one night. I don’t answer people for weeks in all messages, don’t send my photos to Instagram. And there is something "inorganic" in such an achievement, when you get everything very quickly. I got an internship at another prestigious company as a freshman when they were recruiting graduates. And this pursuit of "uniqueness" with your story gives rise to the fact that it becomes super mediocre and you stop giving all the best even by 50% over time, expecting that your uniqueness will pay for everything.
Ice Cream Skies Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Maybe you're a self-sabotager. I worked a really stressful, strenuous job for 5 years, working tons of required overtime, odd hours... It was a very important job, but I was burning out and treated poorly, so I knew I had to leave or I'd be shaving years off my life. My next job would turn out to be my current job, and it's also at a 'prestigious' top tech company. Suddenly, I found myself w/ more money, more perks, working from home, more paid-time off, normal hours... But I started feeling numb and bored, because it was confusing: My job was less important than my previous one and a piece of cake in comparison, but I was also being treated so much better. In the end, I had to accept that I'd made it there for a reason, and I was deserving of a job where I wasn't killing myself. If you're anything like me, it's always about looking to the next thing, but it's such an awful way to live. I had to learn to simply acclimate and accept where I'm at, and that it's okay to simply be content with where you are for now. It's significantly reduced my stress, accepting a good thing, and getting to work with great, talented people. Think of it this way - zoom out, think of all your perks/benefits, etc... Would you regret leaving later? Do you even know what you'd rather do otherwise?
katysuxx Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 it sounds like that after being given a permanent position, the excitement and the challenge of proving yourself was gone. so maybe you never liked the position and responsibilities? setting long term goals helped me bc I could use the goals to boost my motivation and make the most of my current job. that being said, I can also imagine that it’s impossible if you really hate it.
Blue. Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 Work should not interest you, your salary should. I think there was a discourse the last few decades about loving your work and doing what you love for leaving but in reality one should work if whatever they are good at so they can do it successfully with the least effort and burnout possible so they have money and time to do what they really love leisurely.
getBusy Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 5 hours ago, Fastlane said: Hey! Over a year ago, I started working for a prestigious company. I was warned that for the time being I would have a temporary contract for 6 months (which subsequently extended for another 6). I worked very hard, constantly proving that I can do more than what is required of me. And when I was promoted and left in the company permanently - I lost all interest in this. Does anyone understand why this transformation happened? This is completely normal - personally, I get bored of my job every 2 years. My recommendation is that you start figuring out your next move ASAP, identify gaps in your resume (skills you don't have where you are now, but you will need in your next role), and try to find ways to acquire those skills.
theweekend Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 let's not act like one actually like to work plzzzzz
Raptus Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 This thread is so funny to me because like 80% people on Earth dont like their job at all
P.O.P Posted February 9, 2023 Posted February 9, 2023 (edited) If you are in a field you LOVE and you are sure that this is your career path, stay but slowly make an exit plan for your next step. If you feel like you have no desire to continue in that field AND you are dreaming about doing something completely different, *****, LEAVE. Edited February 9, 2023 by P.O.P
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