Aethereal Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 They are cold, depressing, full of disappointment and no friends. I did not expect this at all.
byzantium Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 My 20s have been MUCH better than my teens. But then again, growing up gay in a conservative town makes your teen years hell so it is not saying much.
Gorjesspazze9 Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 Don’t worry, it gets worse! but yeah my 20’s were/Still are Abysmal.
nadiamendell Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 You generally have less to worry about in your teens, but have way more freedom in your 20s. Adulting can be a tough adjustment though.
PoisonCandy Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 Yes and no. I've heard some people say it gets better in your 30's, which I'm starting to believe. Once I passed my mid-20's, life started getting a lot better. In my early 20's I started losing a lot of friends and I was just so unsure about everything. I had a hard time moving from my teens into adulthood. Now, in my late 20's, I'm learning a lot more about myself, I'm adapting to adulthood, I'm gaining more confidence, and I've made new friends.
Kummercell Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 My early 20s have been a wild ride so far. I make my own money and live alone, which is great. But I miss that feeling of being a teenager. Being carefree, not being an adult but not being a child, living with my mom and knowing there was someone to take care of me. I took those things for granted when I was younger and I wish I had enjoyed it more.
Jotham Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 Yep. With the teen years you at least get the support of your family, but with the twenties you're figuring things out on your own.
Iyanla, Fix Me Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 My teens literally sucked. I had no friends, was the only black person at an all white catholic school. Both of my parents died when I was a sophomore. never got invited to parties and celebrated my 18th birthday alone. my 20s were much better. I went to an HBCU, moved to a new city, made great lifelong friendships. It was hard at first when I had no money don’t get me wrong but my social life and freedom has helped. Now I have a pretty solid income, live alone, good group of friends, a couple decent romantic encounters, etc. I’m 25, loving life more and more the older I get. My only regret/desire was to have enjoyed being younger a bit more. But it is what it is.
MusicLoverDude Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 Yes and no. It genuinely is harder to make new friends the older you get, even if you're a social person. With your teenage years you realistically get 4 years to make friends and develop those friendships. With adulthood, there's no guarantee that you'll stay friends with people you met at college. And it's very hard to make genuine friends at work - you're meeting people in an environment where money is the incentive for why you two are there so if you get into any rifts between coworkers that you consider friends, they can easily just get a manager involved and villainize you (sadly happened to me). I also will say that as an adult on the autism spectrum, there are less resources for us as an adult as opposed to be your childhood and teen years. However, there is more independence. You can get a job and still make your own money. You can be your own person easier as you don't have the societal pressure to fit in.
Karasu Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 On my experience so far (turned 24 on October) I'll say no. Yes, it's not as easy to make friends as you did as child or as teen but friends are for at exactly on objective level? In the end of the day life is supossed to be about yourself and what you want to make about it. Only you can take care of yourself. Once you taste being independent, you never really look back on my point of view. Life is a game.
Karasu Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 I'll say that only thing that I regret was not being able to act dumb or do stupid **** on my 16-18s. But then again I was deprived of libery during this years by parents. I'm still young to go have fun at parties etc but on the same level I wanted to during these years because I have more important duties to take care of
brenda-walsh Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 not at all. my 20s have been amazing so far, my teen years on the other hand were god awful. i was depressed, had like no friends, and hated every second of living at home and being high school. being 22 is so liberating and even though there are a lot of shitty adult things to deal with, i wouldn't trade it
D/X Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 LMFAO No. It's the other way round, but yes there's a lot of depressive and "i wanna end me" moments, not gonna lie, particularly post-university. Good luck.
SmashingMiley Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 (edited) 2 hours ago, D/X said: LMFAO No. It's the other way round, but yes there's a lot of depressive and "i wanna end me" moments, not gonna lie, particularly post-university. Good luck. I finished uni in 2021 and literally am going through existential crisis right now feel like i’m wasting my life and youth away while being behind everyone else. Mental health is in the gutter. For the first time I feel like i’m truly alone in all this So yeah, 20s for me truly suck Edited January 3, 2023 by SmashingMiley
kandicha Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 For me, I'm lonelier and have had a harder time making friends in my 20s than I did as a teenager. But, I also feel like I have who I am and what I want for the future much more figured out now and I'm not in a 24/7 existential crisis and I'm more at peace with myself in my 20s than I did as a teenager. I guess my teenage years had higher highs and lower lows but my 20s are much more stable.
MonsterJohn Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 6 hours ago, Gorjesspazze9 said: Don’t worry, it gets worse! 1 hour ago, ToMmY said: *laughs in 30s* LMAO this, buckling down sis cuz life is rough
CristianGarcia Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 (edited) As someone who turns 30 this year I think the hardest point of life so far was from 18-22. Atp you’re starting to discover who you are and what works for you and are no longer guarded from how safe life used to be. It becomes very depressing. You feel lost and set some unrealistic expectations By your late 20’s this wears off and you start to not care and live life more freely and peaceful pace. Edited January 3, 2023 by CristianGarcia
potent Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 For some reason I saw the title and thought this was talking about 2020s vs 2010s like in music As an actual answer though - I definitely know myself better now, but at the same time I'm way more confused. If that makes sense. I know more about my personality, my interests, can be more confident, do daily tasks without as much anxiety, etc. But at the same time, in my teens and early 20s I wasn't really worried or planning about my future. Now I have to and I don't know what it should be. I feel like I have such little information or experience to make such important decisions. Maybe that's imposter syndrome speaking. I try not to let it get to me too much and just take things a day at a time. But personally, I would trade a lot of freedom for not having to do all these "adult" tasks and decisions.
imabadkid Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 My teen years were great… like I loved high school tbh. My early 20s were rough but things got much better by my mid 20s. It’s a universally rough time for everyone because it’s a lot of change in a v short amount of time.
Afterglow Posted January 3, 2023 Posted January 3, 2023 Early 20's are great. I hadnt ever had so much fun. Tbh I feel like early 20's right now vs. Millennials early 20's is completely different. Times are sad and just strange now. Millennials had so many historic moments, clubs were safe, celebrities were always interesting and iconic, nobody was doing the same thing. The mood was just different. Idk whats going on now.
Taylucifer Posted January 4, 2023 Posted January 4, 2023 (edited) yes. life felt awfully worse especially after College, which was probably my peak (i had so many friends, partied so much, lived in a big city, etc.). then the pandemic happened which wasted my early 20s Edited January 4, 2023 by Taylucifer
Pop Life Posted January 4, 2023 Posted January 4, 2023 (edited) I think for alot of queer people their teen years are the worst years of their lives. I may have lost alot of friends, struggled financially and generally felt adrift during my 20s, but at least I could be myself. I wouldn't trade that for anything tbh Edited January 4, 2023 by Pop Life
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