Struggles with dating old men

[G.U.Y. Gaga]

So I typically aim for people 40+ and the way they communicate is a kii 

 

there is like 2 types:

 

either a while wall of text in a single text message or a single word response with no punctuation or emojis ☠️

[tiagol88]

How old are you?

[Redstreak]

My partner is 43 and nothing is more irritating to my millennial sensibilities than the one word response 

[Selegend]

i would honestly like to date someone who's not online during the day 

it's weird how online my bf is, like i can't even keep up his IG posts, sometimes i go to his profile and notices 1 week ago posts i haven't even seen he just post everything about his life, and talk with everyone he follows too. he's a all day active person. 

it's funny how we travel together and he posts 30 stories and 5 ig feed and i post 0 stories and 1 ig feed (when i post) 

 

bad texting would be ok with me, i'm not that good either. so i don't know if i can advice u something other than change ur mindset to not caring about daily texts and get used to keeping up with the other person life only when you go out. 

if it turns out to be a serious relationship, u and ur partner could have a agreement of a call before sleep where u tell ur partner how was ur day, maybe it would help and they would like it too. 

but at the talking stage there's not much u could do other than trying not to care. 

 

 

[G.U.Y. Gaga]

9 minutes ago, tiagol88 said:

How old are you?

26

[G.U.Y. Gaga]

10 minutes ago, Redstreak said:

My partner is 43 and nothing is more irritating to my millennial sensibilities than the one word response 

Me “can’t wait to see you! :)”

 

him “same” 

 

 

[Redstreak]

17 minutes ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said:

Me “can’t wait to see you! :)”

 

him “same” 

 

 

“Cool” or “ok” are the ones I usually get and it makes me want to throw the phone

[fauxtography]

28 minutes ago, Selegend said:

 u and ur partner could have a agreement of a call before sleep where u tell ur partner how was ur day, maybe it would help and they would like it too. 

 

 

 

 

this sounds like HELL ON EARTH

[Afterglow]

40 isn't an old man. I've dated a guy that was 63 once. 

[Selegend]

17 minutes ago, fauxtography said:

this sounds like HELL ON EARTH

it really wasn't. it's not like the agreement would be YOU NEED TO CALL ME BEFORE SLEEP !!! like it's not a need  it was more like when both were free and it were like a 5-10 min cute call, it almost always happens something during the day worth a mention. it was very organic and nice. 

but if the person hates calls so it's not an option too...

[PillowCase]

In my admittedly limited experience, when it comes to dating daddies the issue is more about them playing around with you but not actually taking your seriously long-term. They don't have faith in you being willing to settle down with them. They don't give you a chance even when you are standing there in the rain with your heart on your sleeve, asking them to love you. 

[Bloodflowers.]

I am currently messaging with a 34 year old, he is okay texter

[FunCoric]

I'd never date anyone over 30

 

[HeavyMetalAura]

Careful before other members start calling your older boyfriends "groomers" and acting like you don't have the autonomy to consent despite being over 18

 

Tbh, I've dated older men before and I just had to accept that texting just won't be the same/an important part of the relationship like it is with a younger person. It's good to communicate how you feel about their digital communication but at the end of the day it's the in-person communication that really matters, especially with someone older. 

[Redstreak]

13 minutes ago, PillowCase said:

In my admittedly limited experience, when it comes to dating daddies the issue is more about them playing around with you but not actually taking your seriously long-term. They don't have faith in you being willing to settle down with them. They don't give you a chance even when you are standing there in the rain with your heart on your sleeve, asking them to love you. 

Chile the tribulations I had to go through the first two years. They always come with baggage but you gotta find the ones who are worth sorting it out together 

[Dante]

Changing the catheter bag is one of the underrated struggles not many ppl mention about this topic

[spree]

I can’t believe people admit to wanting to call each other on the phone everyday.  

[.Odyssey.]

23 minutes ago, Dante said:

Changing the catheter bag is one of the underrated struggles not many ppl mention about this topic

This. Genuine concern if dating any daddies over 30.

[cockatoo]

Honestly I struggle with people just a few years older than me. I have to modify my texting to seem more millennial but I cringe so much. I always find myself using something I think is common slang and then having to explain what I mean when they get confused 

 

I remember texting a 29 year old man the crying emoji to show I found something funny and he asked why I was sad  What is the excuse, you're not that much older than me 

[Into The Void]

1 hour ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said:

Me “can’t wait to see you! :)”

 

him “same” 

 

 

I'm pretty much the same with texting 

[dabunique]

1 hour ago, G.U.Y. Gaga said:

Me “can’t wait to see you! :)”

 

him “same” 

 

 

why is this such a problem?

 

asking since i'm 45 and i might end up with someone younger

[Redstreak]

@G.U.Y. Gaga Actually I changed my mind the biggest struggle is them not understanding internet millennial humor AT ALL. The amount of tweets I’ll show him that have me dying but he just does not understand it

[Dolce Vita]

im more of a sugar baby as opposed to dating older men for “love” anymore, but the texting thing is SO accurate. it’s either extremely grammatically correct and reads too formal which make them sound angry or sarcastic all the time or they use ugly emojis after every other word

[Gorgeous]

People always tell me I text like their parents and maybe thats bc I date 40 year olds 

[Queen.]

Date a woman