aesthetic bih Posted December 5, 2022 Posted December 5, 2022 On 12/3/2022 at 8:51 PM, smartalek22 said: no but when i tried to arrange a 3rd date he made up thousands of excuses of how he was 'busy' and then next thing you know like 2 weeks later he's posting about his new boyfriend I don't get how people do this. Why lie when it's inevitable that they are going to know the truth anyway? Sorry that happened to you sis. And also to the OP, but I guess some people like to take a bunch of turns instead of just being straightforward w how they feel. I guess it's just their sympathetic side that they didn't wanna hurt your feelings at that moment, so they delay it, but they eventually hurt you anyway.
MadonnasBoyfriend Posted December 5, 2022 Posted December 5, 2022 17 minutes ago, aesthetic bih said: I don't get how people do this. Why lie when it's inevitable that they are going to know the truth anyway? Sorry that happened to you sis. And also to the OP, but I guess some people like to take a bunch of turns instead of just being straightforward w how they feel. I guess it's just their sympathetic side that they didn't wanna hurt your feelings at that moment, so they delay it, but they eventually hurt you anyway. On 12/3/2022 at 10:59 AM, Price88 said: Silence and ghosting is exactly the problem in society. To me, be a man, have some balls and say how u feel. There’s plenty of things u can say to someone that won’t hurt their feelings: i think you’re an awesome guy/girl and you deserve the best. I just don’t think if I am the best you need. i feel we had some things in common. But maybe I should stick to friendships right now. I feel it’s better than me trying to hurt someone. You are a real good person and I would love to keep what we have. But just as a friend, simply because I want you to have someone that really will give you all you need. Those are just some answers I can come up with. Of course, I had some shorter answers and they have worked too. But there’s no reason to be a dick or an ******* to someone. And ghosting is just that. I only do that if someone acts like a psycho. But usually I’ll still respond to it just with more authority. I’ve been in the scene a long time so I know what works and what doesn’t. Many Guys in their early to mid 20s don’t know how to communicate half the time anyways so I don’t get amazed when I see no responses. Though, they got a lot to say on media coverage and trying to argue and hate on people. Why is everyone so confused as to why they were ghosted? No answer is an answer. it means they werent into you. the end. If they dont know you like that you arent due an explanation
smartalek22 Posted December 5, 2022 Posted December 5, 2022 4 hours ago, MadonnasBoyfriend said: Why is everyone so confused as to why they were ghosted? No answer is an answer. it means they werent into you. the end. If they dont know you like that you arent due an explanation It's not like I haven't also been in the other side of things. When I end things with people now, I tell them straight up. I think it's a cowardish move to leave someone hanging. If you're not interested say it. Even if it hurts.
MadonnasBoyfriend Posted December 5, 2022 Posted December 5, 2022 (edited) 6 hours ago, smartalek22 said: It's not like I haven't also been in the other side of things. When I end things with people now, I tell them straight up. I think it's a cowardish move to leave someone hanging. If you're not interested say it. Even if it hurts. Not saying anything is saying something. They know what they did and why they don't get texts back in return Edited December 5, 2022 by MadonnasBoyfriend
Sir Galahad Posted December 5, 2022 Posted December 5, 2022 1 hour ago, MadonnasBoyfriend said: Not saying anything is saying something. They know what they did and why they don't get texts back in return The first sentence is right, but you're missing the point why some people are put out by it. I think is just a respect thing. I'd say just be grateful they aren't going to string you along, and invest your energies in someone more deserving.
zasderfght Posted December 5, 2022 Posted December 5, 2022 Let's remember that most people, especially strangers, are not intentionally trying to hurt you. A few reasons people ghost: -People don't like confrontation. A lot of us on here have admitted that we don't like confrontation. Delivering bad news to someone is hard-- no matter if that person is behind a screen or if it's someone we sat across a Starbucks table from. -What you want out of the interaction and what they want are two different things: you might be looking for a long-term relationship; they might be looking for a hookup or something short-term. -People's feelings can change with time. Perhaps they had a crush on you from the start. Perhaps that crush fizzled for reasons beyond your control. I would tell gays-- especially gays in their 20s-- to not try so hard. Yes, if you don't go on dates, it'll be that much harder to find an S/O, but... -Don't overthink a few dates. You are just getting to know someone. -If they don't respect your boundaries at all, move on. You want someone that's going to support you and the relationship. If it's their way or the highway, that is a relationship that will be doomed to fail.
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