discussion What's something straight people take for granted?

[Johnny Jacobs]

Not being hated 

[Triton]

Douching, lube, quickies 

[Maestro]

Not automatically having built in trauma from their adolescence 

[Terrielle]

• Not going to jail for literally existing.
• not having millions of people invalidate your existence everyday on social media.
• having your identity politicized.
• being misunderstood because you're different.
• Not feeling like an alien your whole life in social settings.
• Having to meet complete strangers that could murder you on hook up apps because they're the only way to find a mate. etc etc etc

[terrorblade]

having access to the hottest men

[YellowRibbon]

Nobody questions the fact that they exist

[Encanto]

Maybe not getting called names for loving someone? Not having multiple religions thinking you deserve the worst for loving someone? A lot of things actually 

 

Even the small things like holding hands with someone you love in public without worrying about the people watching, just you and that person enjoying the moment. I never got to experience something like that and I don't think I ever will  I can't even introduce my boyfriend to my parents like my older straight siblings do because my parents are closed minded catholic people  maybe it's something silly but I would love to experience a nice time with my family and my boyfriend too 

[Robert]

Missing out on typical teenage experiences your friends are all having especially living in small town and then trying to make up for it in later years.

[Robert]

18 hours ago, Limitless said:

Now, sis, you KNEAUX this is FALSE 

Not even just finding dates. Feeling safe/comfortable and being able to express yourself freely is so much more difficult if you’re not in a city.

[FreeXone]

18 hours ago, vuelve88 said:

Eating Chipotle whenever they want

Some girls and straight men  like anal play too lol

[FreeXone]

11 hours ago, Encanto said:

Maybe not getting called names for loving someone? Not having multiple religions thinking you deserve the worst for loving someone? A lot of things actually 

 

Even the small things like holding hands with someone you love in public without worrying about the people watching, just you and that person enjoying the moment. I never got to experience something like that and I don't think I ever will  I can't even introduce my boyfriend to my parents like my older straight siblings do because my parents are closed minded catholic people  maybe it's something silly but I would love to experience a nice time with my family and my boyfriend too 

it took my family YEARS but they eventually come around 

[Guest]

14 hours ago, Triton said:

Douching, lube, quickies 

 

1 hour ago, Robert said:

Not even just finding dates. Feeling safe/comfortable and being able to express yourself freely is so much more difficult if you’re not in a city.

Points were made 

[Archetype]

19 hours ago, Trav said:

not having to spend $100k just to have a biological child

THIS 

 

Imagine if straight people had to do that?  

 

@OP Growing up in a rural area and actually having a dating pool larger than yourself.

 

 

[MusicLoverDude]

Being able to go out with people regardless of whether you are skinny, muscular or chubby. It's hard enough to find a guy that is gay - let alone one that is willingly interested in dating a chubby guy. 

[zasderfght]

I wouldn't be too quick to pull the "straight-people-have-it-easier" card when it comes to dating. 

 

Yes, I acknowledge my privilege in growing up/living in a major city (although, I live closer to the suburbs) and being white/cis, however, I know tons of cishet guys that struggle with finding a date on online apps-- and these are guys who either live directly in a major city or pretty dang close.

 

Yes, we are a minority, so the dating pool is smaller. Yes, we have unique trauma and blossomed later in life, making it more difficult to find a long-term companion, however, dating sucks for most people (regardless of sexual orientation and gender), especially folks in their 20s. In your 20s, it's hard to be there, emotionally, for not only yourself but also for another human being. And then you're figuring things out like your career, ways to manage your time, learning to be independent and being an adult, etc.

 

Yes, we do have to make sure a person is gay, but if you're straight, you also have to check, "Does this person have a girlfriend? A boyfriend? Are they married?" Whereas, I'd argue, more gays are single. And more gays are open to poly-relationships. 

 

This post was all over the place, but hopefully someone agrees with me. 

[Virgos Groove]

On 11/26/2022 at 3:43 AM, Tropez said:

It’s the truth. Gays are mostly in urban areas. Being in the suburbs or rural areas are a gay waste land. A straight person could find a relationship way easier in a rural area vs a gay person. Not even an exaggeration. 

Yep, this is the one. Being queer in a rural area or a suburb is extremely depressing and boring. In the worst case scenario, it's downright dangerous.