discussion Just moved out. In my 20s. I'm a mess. Is this normal?

[Into The Void]

6 hours ago, bad guy said:

Feel like this is everybody's 20s. Nobody knows what the **** is going on 

I'm im my 30s and still relate 

[Planet Mars]

Yeah, it's pretty normal.

 

I moved out officially at 19, and just now in my mid-20's (26), am I actually financially secure.

 

The post college years are strange, but you learn alot about being your own person. 

[getBusy]

Yea this is what your 20s feel like most of the time. You will eventually get used to it. Don’t overthink it: you’re doing just fine and it DOES get better 

[Feather]

7 hours ago, zasderfght said:

I moved out of my parents' house a few months ago with my best friend. I love her as a roommate, but adulting, not going to lie, is hitting both of us pretty damn hard. 

 

For one, I thought I wanted to go into teaching. I even took another teaching job offer (long story short, but at my last school, they basically cleaned house and got rid of almost all of the 1st-years including myself; go figure). I took it just to see if it was the school itself I hated last year. Nope. I hate the teaching industry-- so much so I actually declined the new teaching job offer after my 2nd week of training because I was like... I am not putting myself through this again, especially if there are lower-stress jobs out there. 

 

Well, bills need to get paid, so I immediately went back to retail management. Currently doing that now and it barely pays the bills, however, I just got a job offer for a permanent sub position that pays more than retail, I'd have holidays/weekends off, and I wouldn't bring work home with me, which is pretty ideal. The issue is, I'm kind of doing the same thing all over again which is letting my employer know... hey, this job won't be my primary focus. 

 

I'm also juggling a new relationship. It's honestly great. But sometimes it's hard to make room for my partner when I'm having a work-identity-crisis and just adulting itself. Like having to cook/clean/shower/do domestic work nearly every damn day. He is very understanding and supportive. I guess I just feel like I'm not doing enough, but that's my personality in general. I almost always feel like I need to be doing more and what I'm doing isn't good enough. Dumb, I know.

 

I just want to have a secure job/benefits (which I'm getting with this permanent sub position), and I just want things to fall into place and to stop over-worrying. 

 

Can anyone relate to feeling like life is kind of nuts, and while all the pieces are there, they're not fitting in a neat puzzle? Especially in their 20s? 

Welcome to adulting, when reality hits and you realize that financials, budgeting are super important, and sometimes you have to work those crap jobs to make ends meet. 

[Oktober Knight]

This is perfectly normal for someone in their 20s which is the most stressful decade for most people. Balancing out work life with personal life will always be a struggle while working in retail. I was in retail management for 8 years and got so burnt out after working long hours and NEVER having a holiday or weekend off that I finally quit, and it was the best decision I've ever made. 

 

I recommend taking the sub offer. 

[sourprint]

i just turned 19 and feel like my 20s will be a mess i need to watch out and plan things

[305]

The 20s are for exactly what you're going through. They're meant to be chaotic because you're basically figuring out how you're going to be carrying yourself for the rest of your adulthood. Just don't be too hard on yourself, nobody knows that they're doing

[UnusualBoy]

It is normal, you are basically starting a new life so you just need to adjust and get used to it, this is basically what adult life is like with its ups and downs.