discussion I think my friend cut me off for forgetting her birthday...

[Pop Life]

What is she, 12? 

She's either immature, a low-key narcissist (they tend to be very extra about birthdays) or most likely there's other stuff going on and it's getting taken out on you. In all 3 cases her reaction is disproportionate 

[midnightdawn]

I'd take it as a sign to move on from the friendship, especially if you had already drifted apart. I feel at that time in your life there's a lot of friendships that were strong but fade as you go different ways in life.

[arceus]

i forgot one of my close friends bday and he still let me suck his d a month after his actual bday 

[LovaticSwiftie]

I had three friends who "forgot" my birthday three times, while I was wishing them a happy birthday every year since I knew them. When they forgot my birthday for the fourth time, I was done and cut them off. It was just hurtful, because it showed me, that I'm not as important to them as they were for me. So I can understand your friend who cut you off tbh. 

Edited August 19, 2022 by LovaticSwiftie

[P.O.P]

It sounds like she is looking for a reason to drop you.

[Badgalbriel]

On 8/17/2022 at 8:12 PM, BennyThruelen said:

It's a big deal to me when ppl forget my bday. which explains why I only have 1 friend. 

 

one time, my mom forgot my bday and only realized it later in the day. what hurts me was, she greeted someone an advance happy bday while she was in the car with me on the day of my birthday that she forgot. imagine the hurt? 

 

 

That's narcisistic. No one cares about your birthday and you should learn to deal with it. 

[Badgalbriel]

If you want people to remember that you're becoming older, celebrate your ******* birthday and invite people. No one has an agenda built into their brain to keep remembering this type of stuff. 

[T.O.A.D.S.]

Sorry but there are some basic facts you should remember about your friends, the date of their birth is one of them. Even if you don’t remember the exact date but you know roughly when it is, is okay, too. 

[mokitsu]

9 minutes ago, T.O.A.D.S. said:

Sorry but there are some basic facts you should remember about your friends, the date of their birth is one of them. Even if you don’t remember the exact date but you know roughly when it is, is okay, too. 

I agree with this if you've been close with someone for years, you should have an idea of when their birthday is. It's just natural

Not saying people can't forget but it's nice to reach out some time after if that happens. Everyone likes to be celebrated and acknowledged on their birthdays, even if it's just by the people you deem closest to you

I personally wouldn't do cut someone off because I understand that people grow apart and there's no love lost, but I can also see why someone would take it personally, especially if things had already been awkward before.

 

If you apologized and reassured her though, she should at least take that into consideration

[Saddy]

On 8/17/2022 at 8:23 PM, Raver said:

Your friend needs to learn that the world doesn’t stop because it’s her birthday. Give her time and if she continues being weird then it’s best to cut things off. She’s in her mid twenties not a teenager. Time to grow Up.mp3

 

[Johnny Jacobs]

Maybe it's because u stan Travis Scott 

 

OT: I'm kidding of course.. 

 

At the end of the day if u care enough to post a thread about her for advice online, You care about her and your friendship

I do think it's less about her actual birthday but more about that you forgot and she wanted to share a moment with you.. Maybe she misses you. You know? 

 

If you want to fix it.. Make a cute/sentimental gesture to show her you're sorry. 

[Theshigo Washidu]

Just move on. At least you apologised so if she's still salty about it then that's her business.

[??????]

On 8/18/2022 at 7:12 AM, BennyThruelen said:

It's a big deal to me when ppl forget my bday. which explains why I only have 1 friend. 

 

one time, my mom forgot my bday and only realized it later in the day. what hurts me was, she greeted someone an advance happy bday while she was in the car with me on the day of my birthday that she forgot. imagine the hurt? 

 

 

Damn this is really sad to be honest. This typa thing is why some people take birthdays seriously. A sign of mutual loyalty and remembrance. 

[??????]

On 8/19/2022 at 10:50 PM, Johnny Jacobs said:

Maybe it's because u stan Travis Scott  

[Cain]

Who tf cares about that, if she's genuinely so obsessed with people not remembering her birthday then you're better off without her

[Cain]

On 8/19/2022 at 3:24 PM, T.O.A.D.S. said:

Sorry but there are some basic facts you should remember about your friends, the date of their birth is one of them. Even if you don’t remember the exact date but you know roughly when it is, is okay, too. 

I could not tell you my very best friend's birthday, I could barely tell you my parents' birthday and we are extremely close  Birthdays are extremely meaningless to me, even my own, some people arejust not obsessed with that whole circus, let it go

[Harrier]

Contrary to what people are saying, I get where she is coming from. Doesn't mean she should act foolish like she is doing, but I don't think its wrong to feel how she feels.

 

I would guess its not necessarily that she cares deeply about her birthday (most people don't) its merely a sign for her that she's not as important to you as she wants to be. On it's own its not enough, but maybe combined with some other things she picked up on, she's just getting the vibe that she is low on your priority list. That's not a great feeling, especially if she felt she was going out of her way for you.

 

Again its no excuse for behaving like a bratty teenager. But it's tough when any relationship feels uneven or not properly reciprocated.

[John Slayne]

As a person who enjoys their birthday and takes it seriously, I think your friend is petty and childish. I usually remind my friends of my birthday coming up, not because I expect gifts or anything, but just to let them know we might go out or something. 

 

Your friend needs to realize she's not the main character and people have lives outside of her. If she wants special treatment from her friends on her birthday, then she needs to say that in advance. People have families, jobs, and other friends to worry about, nobody has time to remember everyone's birthday. 

 

Also, if she was so close to you and felt like 'sh*t' about you forgetting her birthday then she should've said that right away and not ghost you and then wait until you ask if everything is okay. The silent treatment and cold shoulder is very petty and immature of her. 

[4Real]

If my friends stopped talking to me bc I forgot their bdays I would be friendless at this point

 

My advice: move on.

[Kamil24]

It's just a birthday, I don't see the issue.

[perfect blue]

On 8/17/2022 at 7:12 PM, BennyThruelen said:

It's a big deal to me when ppl forget my bday. which explains why I only have 1 friend. 

 

one time, my mom forgot my bday and only realized it later in the day. what hurts me was, she greeted someone an advance happy bday while she was in the car with me on the day of my birthday that she forgot. imagine the hurt? 

 

 

The world does not revolve around you. Grow up, people have other things to worry about.