Donquizote Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Sorry, but no. Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bacardo Royale Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Only if I was being paid handsomely Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alldeezy Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 No.Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jagger Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 If they had a hot face and a big bubble butt, hell yeah!!Β Β I prefer chubby guys. But obese is usually a little too much for me unless they have a beautiful faceΒ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sugar-Rush Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Obese as in very overweight? Probably not because of health reasons. But I would date a chubby guy. I'm not fatphobic unlike half of ATRL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
popmusicisdead Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 (edited) no. i don't have a feeder fetish Edited July 25, 2022 by popmusicisdead Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RunUpDoneUp Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 First of all, you don't know what fatphobic is. Stop using that term. Not dating a fat person is not fatphobic, now if you belief he was deserving of harm or denying him his humanity like an actual fatphobic person then you'd be in that category. Β We date who we like, that can be influenced by bigotry but usually you can tell when you are being bigoted upon introspection as far as how you perceive the person you're questioning your lack of attraction towards; are you dehumanizing them? Do they become less than to you? Etc Β To answer the thread though, no. Β If my partner were to become obese though I'd 100% be the one to help them, as finding someone attractive is hard for me in the first place, so for me to have a relationship with them means i value them greatly. On the other hand, I will leave if they refuse to address it. Either way, I wouldn't be starting a relationship with someone obese. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demi Lovato Posted July 25, 2022 Author Share Posted July 25, 2022 22 hours ago, Rotunda said: Just say youβre not feeling as strong as a connection as you need to (which isnβt a lie). No reason to say that the physical connection is whatβs lacking.Β As in ,,Iβm not feeling a strong connection as I need to because youβre overweight.β ? Β because heβs gonna ask whyβ¦ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jan Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 The answer is of course yes, because BMI does not decide a person's attractiveness, but a number of factors. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rotunda Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 37 minutes ago, Demi Lovato said: As in ,,Iβm not feeling a strong connection as I need to because youβre overweight.β ? Β because heβs gonna ask whyβ¦ That's literally the opposite of what I said to do...Please use your brain.Β Β You can tell someone that you feel like you're lacking in chemistry or that you just don't feel as strong of an attraction as you need to. The particularities ofΒ whyΒ you don't feel that connection don't need to be divulged. Sometimes people don't know "what" it is about someone that stops them from being attracted to them. What do you gain by telling him it's cause he's overweight? Just say you aren't feeling as head-over-heels as you thought you would.Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demi Lovato Posted July 25, 2022 Author Share Posted July 25, 2022 2 minutes ago, Rotunda said: That's literally the opposite of what I said to do...Please use your brain.Β Β You can tell someone that you feel like you're lacking in chemistry or that you just don't feel as strong of an attraction as you need to. The particularities ofΒ whyΒ you don't feel that connection don't need to be divulged. Sometimes people don't know "what" it is about someone that stops them from being attracted to them. What do you gain by telling him it's cause he's overweight? Just say you aren't feeling as head-over-heels as you thought you would.Β Omg pls donβt be rude I was making sure, because he would ask why Β I donβt feel the connection and I would feel bad for lying. Β basically should I do a white lie and say βIdk why Iβm not feeling it, sorry, we can be friends thoughβ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rotunda Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Just now, Demi Lovato said: Omg pls donβt be rude I was making sure, because he would ask why Β I donβt feel the connection and I would feel bad for lying. Β basically should I do a white lie and say βIdk why Iβm not feeling it, sorry, we can be friends thoughβ? How many times have yβall hung outΒ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oktober Knight Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 My first reaction is no but I'm more of a personality type of guy and I do believe anyone could fall in love and look past things.Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DirtyPony87 Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 22 hours ago, Tropez said: This isnt true. Whatβs happening is our perception of larger bodies has gotten worse. Because thereβs so many bigger people now, the scales that we view people have changed. Because we are so used to it.Β Β From a body fat percentage. Those bears are in fact obese. That does not make them unattractive however.Β The first part of this statement is false our hasnβt gotten βworse;β itβs just that fatphobia is finally being exposed and called out, as it should be. Worse. I donβt even know what you mean by that, as you donβt elaborate on how it is worse. The second part, however, just reiterates my other statement. Β Nevertheless, my point stands. If I could provide a non-perfect example, you could say this about dating trans people. It is, in fact, transphobic to say that you would NEVER date a trans person. Thatβs because you just never know. And to rule out that entire class is just bigoted. Now - you can have your preferences and like what you like, but being averse to a group of people in such a principled and unyielding way isβ¦not a good look. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xxxlamb Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 Β fat slobs eat the ass blue ribbonΒ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Demi Lovato Posted July 25, 2022 Author Share Posted July 25, 2022 42 minutes ago, Rotunda said: How many times have yβall hung outΒ 2 times but veeeeery long basically the entire day both times first time I thought he was bloated but second time I realised Iβm not attracted to him even though I like him a lot and I DO want to ne friends with him because hes a great to hang out with tbh Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rotunda Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Demi Lovato said: 2 times but veeeeery long basically the entire day both times first time I thought he was bloated but second time I realised Iβm not attracted to him even though I like him a lot and I DO want to ne friends with him because hes a great to hang out with tbh Just say you enjoy hanging up but you donβt think youβre feeling a real romantic connection. Youβve only gone on two dates and donβt need to divulge the details of why youβre not attracted to him (I doubt he wants to hear it either).Β Nobody goes βI like you but your nose is too bigβ or βI like you but your smile is jacked upβ. They just say they donβt see things going romantically and leave it at that.Β Edited July 25, 2022 by Rotunda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harrier Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 If the personality was there, yes. I've been overweight (tho not obese) in my life before so I have empathy for people that are going through that. It's very hard to lose weigt and keep it off as the body fights against you, and some people in this thread clearly have no understanding of that. Β I see it as something that's conquerable and I'd find it rewarding to help a partner through that. I could lose a few pounds too rn so a win win. Β Having said that, I wouldn't date someone that's obese with no plans of changing it. For me its a health thing first and foremost and I want to date someone who is at least trying to take care of themselves.Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rock Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 For sure, but no dinner dates! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Distantconstellation Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 I mean one time i hooked up with a chubby-fat guy, because i was horny and drunk and there was nothing else available. He actually had the softest skin ever and a big ass. I actually enjoyed it. This person has since lost weight tho and doesnt look like that anymore. Β I enjoyed the experince more than i though so i gave it another try with another chubby-fat guy, but didnt like it, the dude was fat but had the most flat ass so this was a deal breaker to me. I think the first time was just a fluke, i got lucky.Β Β So back to the question, nope i wouldnt be with an obese guy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anye Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 No Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aethereal Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 On 7/24/2022 at 4:45 PM, Vrajesh said: Β Been overweight all my life and I fluctuate between obese and overweight. I worked hard to get "fit" for 2 years, and then just rebounded. Guess in my case I'm helpless. Yes fatness can be up to 80% genetic depending on person. It's not like an obese person has a beyond abnormal appetite compared to a fit person, like eating 7x more than a fit person a day. Is that even possible or natural? Genetics has a lot to do with it.Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick4bty Posted July 25, 2022 Share Posted July 25, 2022 I'm sorry, no. I can only date someone who takes care of their health and their body and cares about their image.Β Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GentleEarthquake Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 i wouldn't, sorry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bleuwaffle Posted July 26, 2022 Share Posted July 26, 2022 a little chubby is hot on some guys, but obesity is a hard no. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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