discussion Why do some gays think it's cute to be a sidepiece to a "straight" man?

[Fanta]

6 minutes ago, Planet Mars said:

The hit dogs hollering in this thread, some gays are mad because they "can't get them", get who? A bored, married, conservative suburban dad of 4?

 

The complete lack of self awareness, y'all be weak in the knees, STAND UP! 

Like what is there to be jealous of sis…? He doesn’t even really want you. 

[Claymore]

9 minutes ago, Blade said:

not all straight men are married with kids.

 

Straight men will never flaunt you, sis. Your just a dirty little secret and the means for busting a nut.

[Planet Mars]

3 minutes ago, Claymore said:

Straight men will never flaunt you, sis. Your just a dirty little secret and the means for busting a nut.

The good sis is in denial, read the entire OP and said SIGN ME UP!

[Attitude]

3 hours ago, Blade said:

Because a lot of gay guys (not all) are embarrassing to be around. I'd rather be a sidepiece to a man who is put together, handsome, and I can at least show off to my friends than a "man" who people look down upon.

 

3 hours ago, Blade said:

There's nothing wrong with this. I'm sorry it has to be said but most gays that hate on us that go for these type of men are jealous that they can't get them. It's their fantasy though they just don't want to admit it. You think these queens on here are watching twink ****? Nah they search masc, muscular men then come on here and say it's bad that we're only attracted to these types of men. It's just jealousy.

[Save My Life]

Had a friend like this and he nearly got beaten to death because of it. I had left the friendship before this incident happened, but I didn’t feel sorry for him as he had put me in dangerous situations before due to his behavior.
 

It’s low self-esteem, low vibrational energy, and lack of respect for themselves and others. 

[BOOMBAYAH]

The proud side pieces in this thread  my God, I truly hope you guys develop some self-respect. 

[ConceptD]

1 hour ago, imabadkid said:

there's nothing wrong with liking what you like - even if it's straight or bi men. I just don't like when gays mess around with married men and openly brag about it and insult the wives. It's too much.

I agree. Ive never actually hooked up with or been in a relationship with someone that was already married. There was someone I knew for years and was seeing and meeting up with before he even ever met his wife, but he always made it clear what was going to happen and I was okay with it and continued seeing him after he was married. I never spoke **** about her and honestly I feel just as bad for her as I do for him because his life would have been ripped apart if he didn’t get married but it is what it is. I’m not really a fem gay, but I’m lucky enough to be free to be that if I wanted to and some aren’t. 

[ConceptD]

Why are people from both sides of the argument being so aggressive. Like **** who you want as long as they’re a consenting adult but don’t be a dick about it and you’re good. 

[Scotland]

4 hours ago, Blade said:

Because a lot of gay guys (not all) are embarrassing to be around. I'd rather be a sidepiece to a man who is put together, handsome, and I can at least show off to my friends than a "man" who people look down upon.

Not you thinking you can show off a man like that to friends. Girl, he don't want anything to do with you outside the bedroom. 

[Chris]

I don't mess with DL men or married men.

 

I have class.

 

Sorry.

[Chris]

4 hours ago, ConceptD said:

Isn’t **** shaming against the zero tolerance policy?

Are you serious?

 

   

[harwee]

I think it depends on the situation. Straights do it a lot too, so I won't judge. I literally know couples/throuples with another party on the side. When someone says they're fluid it means many things and non-specific, but when they tell me specfically, then they are saying they're in a relationship, possibly swinging and exploring. Take it or leave it. Its hard to grasp for me initially, but the point being, as long as its consensual to all parties involved, I have no problem with it. And that it is happening right now, like it or not.

 

I also won't make suburban dad blanket statement, its a case to case basis. I don't think we should judge his sexuality or situation instantly either, in fact kudos for announcing his status publicly. Yes there's the questionable power structure that revolves around these relationships, but every relationship has one. I think we should be more open to hearing these stories instead of judging.

 

 

 

 

 

Edited June 27, 2022 by harwee

[Planet Mars]

1 hour ago, Chris said:

I don't mess with DL men or married men.

 

I have class.

 

Sorry.

Why are you replying to this thread like I'm coming for you personally? 

[brenda-walsh]

some of it is a lack of self-respect, as these are the types of gays to homewreck any relationship- gay or straight

 

some of it is also the fantasy of hooking up with the "forbidden fruit" 

 

there are also the masc guys who think they're better than everyone simply because they're masc and hooking up with a straight guy validates that in their mind. its some weird inferiority complex mixed with shame 

[ConceptD]

2 hours ago, Chris said:

Are you serious?

 

   

Ive been warned for way less than calling other members 'community ass'. 

[bleuwaffle]

i still think it's hot "turning" a "straight" guy but my days of deluding myself over dl men are done. i can't even imagine how pathetic one must look accepting their crumbs while they get to go back to their hetero relationship after.

[Breathe On Moi]

3 hours ago, Attitude said:

 

Omg I’m ******* screaming 

[jqnetto]

6 hours ago, Blade said:

Because a lot of gay guys (not all) are embarrassing to be around. I'd rather be a sidepiece to a man who is put together, handsome, and I can at least show off to my friends than a "man" who people look down upon.

 

6 hours ago, Blade said:

There's nothing wrong with this. I'm sorry it has to be said but most gays that hate on us that go for these type of men are jealous that they can't get them. It's their fantasy though they just don't want to admit it. You think these queens on here are watching twink ****? Nah they search masc, muscular men then come on here and say it's bad that we're only attracted to these types of men. It's just jealousy.

 

this is camp

[Bosque]

Desperation for validation. Many gay men have extremely low self esteem for varied and complex reasons, so being able to “turn” a “straight” man (even if they’re just a side piece) makes them feel they’re hot **** 

[commander]

I don’t know and why do people even care 

[DevonRoars]

Self hatred. They look down on gays especially feminine ones and prey on “straight” “DL” men.

 

personally even though I’m more on the masculine side — look wise — I never entertain people who asks fem or masc / prefer one or the other. It’s so gross, but we give it a pass, because Grindr is just a “hook up” app when in reality is has a lot of harmful affects on gays in general. 

[Chris]

2 hours ago, Planet Mars said:

Why are you replying to this thread like I'm coming for you personally? 

Because that's why you made this thread.

 

[Katamari]

4 hours ago, jqnetto said:

 

 

this is camp

[DanceFreak]

Cause married men know how to **** 

[Taylucifer]

insecure with low self esteem

 

or 

 

a humongous ego that doesn’t translate to how they actually look and their ultimate life goal is to “turn” str8 men

 

 

either way, both are just sad