Trent W Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 The last few years I’ve noticed a decline in my need for a partner, the pandemic accelerated this too. I’ve read a lot about how sexual activity in people under 30 is declining at very high rates, and seen endless videos on tik tok on how everyone is just becoming more comfortable avoiding marriage or longterm relationships. So I think I’m not the only one. I had a lot of sex when I was a teen, I don’t care about it anymore. I’ve been focused 100% in my career and I’m doing extremely well. Health too. What do you think about this topic?
BionicWooHoo Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 Not for me, still love getting splattered in baby…. Spoiler food
Before Today Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I think once we get older we just care less about love because we have bills to pay, but I think ultimately everyone still needs a partner be it committed ones or just casual hookups.
Sugden Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 The whole you need to find someone to spend your whole life with is so arcaic to me
Into The Void Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I want someone in my life personally. I've been single for 6 years
GipJo Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 (edited) It's a natural progression of society, human prioritizes more advanced needs than the most basic need that is reproduction. Even though sexual activity is not equal to reproduction, it still has decent impact. Also, capitalism is by its nature against reproduction, it reduces labor productivity. So in conclusion, we live in such a society so we proactively tend to not want it and are passively pressed to not want it. Edited June 8, 2022 by GipJo
Devin Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I’m in a relationship. But I love that younger generations aren’t following the “time limit” bs as older generations experienced.
Into The Void Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 Only problem is I can't seem to find a single date anywhere
Thinking Of You Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 Social media. People have the urge to feel that they can always find someone better or someone online rather than what’s in their face everyday.
Before Today Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 25 minutes ago, Insanity said: Only problem is I can't seem to find a single date anywhere Really, why? I'd get like three dates in a day if I wanted to. Dating app makes it easier.
BrokenMachine Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 Personally, I'd love to have a partner. But also, I want to build my own life first: traveling, working outside, having some adventures with my friends, etc. And I know my plans with life right now doesn't align with getting into a relationship. Also, I don't want to get my partner to feel obligated with me with some stuff, so I'd let them live their own lives too. Maybe in the future, in 5 or 10 years, but for now I don't see it happening. Also, it doesn't help the fact that I haven't fell for anyone in the last five years
Trent W Posted June 8, 2022 Author Posted June 8, 2022 59 minutes ago, Sugden said: The whole you need to find someone to spend your whole life with is so arcaic to me Same I mean if I found someone again that I connected I would obviously try it, but what I really question is the NEED. Like we shouldn’t need someone to make ourselves feel better, and I feel that is an archaic idea that society has. Like a stable person shouldn’t be sad because they are single, it should be just okay. Falling into depression because of being single which is an idea society gets in our head is the main problem.
Robert Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 Not really, I feel like 80% of my friends are in LTRs.
ProudLBS Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 1 hour ago, GipJo said: capitalism is by its nature against reproduction, it reduces labor productivity Yes, capitalism, the epitome of human nature, is against the exact same thing that keeps it running No doubt some dinosaur companies will attempt to fire you if they find out you’re pregnant, but the most productive companies and the ones that win in the end are the ones that keep their workers happy. If anything the government taxing the hell out of people in the name of “public good” (aka to buy votes) is what keeps people from having kids. I could raise a kid on my own with what the government steals from me every month
spree Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I'm in a monogamous relationship and I love him more everyday. We might not have as much sex as we did when we first started dating (who does?), but the love and intimacy and romance is very much alive. So I have to disagree with you. as for others, Grindr and Scruff have ruined gay culture and relationships. I'm glad to be off them for almost 1.5 years now.
Cain Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I truly think there’s people that are made/conditioned to be in longterm relationships and people that aren’t, and neither is better/worse than the other seeing as relationships are an extremely personal decision I don’t think it’s a generalisable thing
sugarysunflower Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 3 hours ago, Insanity said: I want someone in my life personally. I've been single for 6 years 1 hour ago, Robert said: Not really, I feel like 80% of my friends are in LTRs. 1 hour ago, spree said: I'm in a monogamous relationship and I love him more everyday. We might not have as much sex as we did when we first started dating (who does?), but the love and intimacy and romance is very much alive. So I have to disagree with you. as for others, Grindr and Scruff have ruined gay culture and relationships. I'm glad to be off them for almost 1.5 years now.
Solaria Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 3 hours ago, GipJo said: It's a natural progression of society, human prioritizes more advanced needs than the most basic need that is reproduction. Even though sexual activity is not equal to reproduction, it still has decent impact. Also, capitalism is by its nature against reproduction, it reduces labor productivity. So in conclusion, we live in such a society so we proactively tend to not want it and are passively pressed to not want it. You gotta explain this to me because doesn’t more people mean more future employees = less aging of the population = more profit?
Bencharmer Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 3 hours ago, Sugden said: The whole you need to find someone to spend your whole life with is so arcaic to me There's a difference between a "longtime relationship" and a "romantic one". You can date someone for two years, two months, two weeks, two days... And still live amazing moments and romantic times. Yes romantism is fading. People just became bodies you can consume like your Starbucks coffee. Nothing is sacred anymore.
simplywohoo Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I'm in my first long term relationship atm and I have never been happier. Sure there's incidents that are painful, like the occasional fights that occur, but the positive aspects weigh so much heavier and I can't imagine living without it anymore tbh. I can't imagine not having a SO for eternity since I always had the desire to find someone. Ofc everyone is different but to answer your question, my answer is no, they are not. At least not for me.
Beyoncé Knowles Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 I realised this in pandemic that I love being alone. I find people very exhausting. I literally stopped talking to everyone and I'm actually so happy.
Pop Life Posted June 8, 2022 Posted June 8, 2022 This is gonna sound rude but single people always say that
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