discussion Twitter gay complains about sexual racism - qtweets & replies CLOCK and SKULLDRAG him

[I Am Music]

24 minutes ago, Planet Mars said:

The guy he was talking to on Grindr was being racist though, how are you into somebody then just switch when you discover their ethnicity

 

Regardless, the whole topic of sexual racism is kind of cringe. It's very much about begging for acceptance or forcing an attraction. And it's always the POC gays who clearly have their own very strict #whiteonly preferences. 

 

I don't think people should take Grindr that seriously honestly.

Sadly it’s not just Grindr, this **** seeps into the real world cause it’s real people who’re saying these things. You’ll be at a friendly gathering not trying to hook up or be seen as an attractive option and you get ignored cause you’re not white or white passing.

 

I do think there can be a nuanced discussion of POC gays who constantly pine for white acceptance while ignoring their own/other POC gays and being passed over when someone finds out your exact race even though they were attracted to you before.  

[Planet Mars]

1 hour ago, I Am Music said:

Sadly it’s not just Grindr, this **** seeps into the real world cause it’s real people who’re saying these things. You’ll be at a friendly gathering not trying to hook up or be seen as an attractive option and you get ignored cause you’re not white or white passing.

 

I do think there can be a nuanced discussion of POC gays who constantly pine for white acceptance while ignoring their own/other POC gays and being passed over when someone finds out your exact race even though they were attracted to you before.  

I think it depends because the LGBT spaces I inhabit tend to be black/POC mostly, so I've never been in that situation. Also when I have been a minority in mostly white gay spaces I feel like I get alot of attention, at times too much that it feels fetishy idk.

 

Just my experience though.

[Aethereal]

12 hours ago, Bloo said:

There is a difference. We all have a "type" (i.e., a set of physical traits that catches our eye in a potential sexual partner).

 

However, if you find someone attractive and then stop talking to them or shut down conversation because you find out they're mixed, from a certain country, etc., then that is sexual racism. If you say, "No one from <insert race here>" then you are also exercising sexual racism because you're basically ruling out everyone from that race. I've had countless guys have "No blacks" in their profile and then message me on Grindr even though I am Black. When I mention their bio is racist and is a turn-off, they then get mad at me for taking issue with their "preferences".

 

tl;dr, yes we all have preferences but consciously ruling out an entire group of people is problematic and goes beyond just having a general trend in the people you are attracted to. It's also just a stupid thing to do. But, fortunately, this is an easy way to eliminate horrible people from your dating pool. So at least there's a silver lining.

I mean gay dating, alone, is very hard considering we are a minority and other factors too. Why would anyone rule out a man that you find attractive and compatible for a relationship simply because of his ancestral heritage is beyond me. 

[BlackStar_93]

Not surprised. The racism, misogyny, and body-shaming that happens on Grindr (and within the wider gay community/dating scene) is truly a problem that people don't seem to talk about. 

[ELT]

Grindr is absolute garbage. You’re setting yourself up if you use that app tbh.

[Theshigo Washidu]

5 hours ago, Planet Mars said:

The guy he was talking to on Grindr was being racist though, how are you into somebody then just switch when you discover their ethnicity

 

Regardless, the whole topic of sexual racism is kind of cringe. It's very much about begging for acceptance or forcing an attraction. And it's always the POC gays who clearly have their own very strict #whiteonly preferences. 

 

I don't think people should take Grindr that seriously honestly.

This tbh.

[Theshigo Washidu]

On 6/2/2022 at 4:15 AM, Tropez said:

This always happens. 
 

You are angry white men reject you. Then you go ahead and reject other non-white men. 
 

So many gay POC have so much self hate. They would put white men on a pedestal as something to lust after. No wonder so many are single. And when they are over 40 will be the desperate men in the clubs going after young men because they are alone. 

This tea is too hot.

[I Am Music]

4 hours ago, Planet Mars said:

I think it depends because the LGBT spaces I inhabit tend to be black/POC mostly, so I've never been in that situation. Also when I have been a minority in mostly white gay spaces I feel like I get alot of attention, at times too much that it feels fetishy idk.

 

Just my experience though.

I agree with that and I also mostly inhabit POC gay spaces as I had a similar experience as you. 
 

If you’re not a fetish you’re totally ignored even when you’re just trying to be platonic. 
 

I remember a white gay had to disclaimer to me he wasn’t into black guys when all I did was tell them I liked their YouTube videos. 
 

I had to cut him down and said don’t flatter yourself you’re not my type you just seemed enlightened but clearly not. 

[BionicWooHoo]

7 hours ago, Bang Up said:

I know this conversation is far too nuanced for ATRL, but I don't think blaming black people for white supremacy is the answer. Many black people are not attracted to other black people because they're raised by society to view themselves and people like them as less attractive. That's not their fault.  

 

As for the preference thing, never in the history of the world has "racial preference" not had a negative, racist connotation. If you don't find yourself attracted to an entire race of people, it's because you think everyone of that race looks the same, which is racist. It's okay to not be attracted to specific POC, but to label all as unattractive is simply racist.  

 Speak on it sis

[Planet Mars]

2 hours ago, I Am Music said:

I agree with that and I also mostly inhabit POC gay spaces as I had a similar experience as you. 
 

If you’re not a fetish you’re totally ignored even when you’re just trying to be platonic. 
 

I remember a white gay had to disclaimer to me he wasn’t into black guys when all I did was tell them I liked their YouTube videos. 
 

I had to cut him down and said don’t flatter yourself you’re not my type you just seemed enlightened but clearly not. 

What's his YT channel?

[Falsetto]

Personally, whether this is racist or not, I've just stopped caring. At the end of the day, if someone doesn't like you for whatever reason (too black, too fem, too old, etc.), they just don't like you. I feel like instead of spending your energy focusing on the people who don't find you attractive, you can just focus on the people who do find you attractive. Imagine you're dating someone, and 3 months in you find out that the reason they dated you was not because they found you attractive, but because they didn't want to come off as racist or insensitive. Now that's a waste of time. 

[I Am Music]

4 hours ago, Planet Mars said:

What's his YT channel?

It was many years ago and it seems the channel is still there but he deleted his videos. Modern Kami.

[DevonRoars]

On 6/1/2022 at 5:53 PM, Severus Snape said:

Race preference is a thing and its not racism  I don't think I have one, but I can see how other people do. Sexual attraction is a physical response and everyones is unique in that category, so I'm not going to accuse someone of racism bc of that. 

 

This being said the guy who made the tweet is getting roasted and he deserves it  get him

Race preference is not a thing. It’s just racism. We need to stop normalizing it too.

 

You can say I’m not into big noses, taller men, or masculine men — but when you say I’m not into black men it gets weird.

 

Personally.. I hate seeing “race preferences” towards anyone on anyones bio. Including the white weirdos and PoC. 

[DevonRoars]

12 hours ago, Bang Up said:

I know this conversation is far too nuanced for ATRL, but I don't think blaming black people for white supremacy is the answer. Many black people are not attracted to other black people because they're raised by society to view themselves and people like them as less attractive. That's not their fault.  

 

As for the preference thing, never in the history of the world has "racial preference" not had a negative, racist connotation. If you don't find yourself attracted to an entire race of people, it's because you think everyone of that race looks the same, which is racist. It's okay to not be attracted to specific POC, but to label all as unattractive is simply racist.  

THIS. All of this. 

[TheFameCurse]

Gays are such losers omg. I'm straight again you all!!!!

[Ice Cream Skies]

Well, I’d never **** someone who posts Grindr screenshots on Twitter for clout.

 

That comes before any sort of physical preference.

[IWantASoda35]

On 6/1/2022 at 8:15 PM, Tropez said:

This always happens. 
 

You are angry white men reject you. Then you go ahead and reject other non-white men. 
 

So many gay POC have so much self hate. They would put white men on a pedestal as something to lust after. No wonder so many are single. And when they are over 40 will be the desperate men in the clubs going after young men because they are alone. 

100% agree

 

so many toxic yt worshipping friends. Had to cut them all off cause it was becoming an embarrassment 

[FreeXone]

On 6/1/2022 at 4:39 PM, lmnoc1 said:

Does that white guy need to say it out that explicitly that he doesn't like the guys race or ethnicity? No. That is extremely rude.

 

But also sexual racism is not a thing. **** whoever you like. Although you don't have to make the rest feel bad like that

He was attracted to the guy BEFORE HE SAID HE WAS INDIAN. He straight up was racist for that!!! His vases was not preference by then because he was attracted to him...so his reasoning at that point wasn't based on looks but on pure racism!

[FreeXone]

On 6/2/2022 at 8:04 PM, Bloo said:

There is a difference. We all have a "type" (i.e., a set of physical traits that catches our eye in a potential sexual partner).

 

However, if you find someone attractive and then stop talking to them or shut down conversation because you find out they're mixed, from a certain country, etc., then that is sexual racism. If you say, "No one from <insert race here>" then you are also exercising sexual racism because you're basically ruling out everyone from that race. I've had countless guys have "No blacks" in their profile and then message me on Grindr even though I am Black. When I mention their bio is racist and is a turn-off, they then get mad at me for taking issue with their "preferences".

 

tl;dr, yes we all have preferences but consciously ruling out an entire group of people is problematic and goes beyond just having a general trend in the people you are attracted to. It's also just a stupid thing to do. But, fortunately, this is an easy way to eliminate horrible people from your dating pool. So at least there's a silver lining.

Amen to this. I have a preference but i could not just block out a whole ******* race!! If I happen to find someone I don't usually have a preference for attractive then your "I'm not racist" bs goes out the window if your only reason for stopping attraction is now based on their race still. 

[Zoe_]

I had something like this happen to me but it was another Black guy. He thought I was Latino and when I told him I was Black, he was no longer interested. 

 

There is definitely racial preference in LGBT and straight-Cis community.

[Jude]

What a d*mba$$. Complaining about "sexual racism" when it is also something he's doing. A hypocrite! Glad his hypocrite racist a$$ is being dragged.

[BIAATCH]

I bet he would ignore POC chats on grindr too but yeah that guy was an *******/racist.

[Joyride]

this kind of goes back and forth, to be honest, POC give white men the power of getting mad over rejection.

 

why are they so mad over white dick?

[Dolce Vita]

i feel for self hating poc because i was once one of them  growing up in a predominately white area surrounded by western ideals of beauty whilst trying to figure out where you fit in with your OWN culture/heritage is hard. especially when most of the attention you receive is from white men and a lot of the time they will fetishise you. i was just speaking to someone who turned out to be a gross sexpat  

Edited June 6, 2022 by Dolce Vita

[Weld_E]

Are people seriously equating the POC liking pictures of white men on Twitter to someone immediately rejecting them after they found out that they are Indian? Him mainly liking pictures of white men might raise an eyebrow, but it is in no way comparable to the experience he shared. Some of you are just looking for a reason to hate on the POC and force him to be part of the problem.