LustSpell Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 IMAGINE not feeding your guest when dinner is starting It's so impolite that I feel offended for them. If I didn't have food for them, I'd at least tell them it's time leave before that.
ariananext Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 South of Italy - I always said/say "it's almost dinner time I'm going home" at around 7:30/8pm so that they had the chance to invite me for dinner if they wanted to/if they could. Here there's this thing that you have to stuff your guests like turkeys, so it can be awkward for parents when it wasn't planned because they would want to cook something extra good for the guest not just a simple family meal. I don't know about north of Italy, although I read on twitter a debate about the fact that it's considered normal to invite people at a birthday party and make each one pay for their meal
Before Today Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 2 hours ago, Kummercell said: I was so shocked when I read this in Brazil it's OFFENSIVE to not offer food to your guests Omg same
loliza Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 3 minutes ago, ariananext said: South of Italy - I always said/say "it's almost dinner time I'm going home" at around 7:30/8pm so that they had the chance to invite me for dinner if they wanted to/if they could. Here there's this thing that you have to stuff your guests like turkeys, so it can be awkward for parents when it wasn't planned because they would want to cook something extra good for the guest not just a simple family meal. I don't know about north of Italy, although I read on twitter a debate about the fact that it's considered normal to invite people at a birthday party and make each one pay for their meal Central italy too
Before Today Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 2 hours ago, Demi Lovato said: It’s not just food it’s the general culture btw if you come from a social country and move to Germany you will become suicidal Germanic countries might get their economy/politics better than most parts of the world but they can be really bland and unexpressive It gives off cold attitudes sometimes.
sk8erfan Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) In Bulgaria, you don’t leave the house until you’ve eaten whatever meal is being served. My mom in particular would cook something on the spot and not even spend time with the guests just so they’re fed, it’s considered the highest form of respect you can pay them (in the mind of the host really). One of my friends was so done with having to eat at mine he started to ask if we’re having lunch or dinner before he arrived just so he could avoid being force fed Edited May 31, 2022 by sk8erfan
welham Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 It's one thing not to be offered dinner while at someone's house, but how is no one talking about the reply?? To spend the night over and not be offered breakfast?? What in the actual ****? That's a whole another level
Pendulum Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) I live in the Netherlands (I'm not Dutch) and I was visiting an ex-friend's house around the evening and supposedly the dinner was ready. They actually invited me over but his mum made us dine separately food was alright. Dutch people are ******* stingy. Edited May 31, 2022 by Pendulum
Pendulum Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 7 minutes ago, sk8erfan said: In Bulgaria, you don’t leave the house until you’ve eaten whatever meal is being served. My mom in particular would cook something on the spot and not even spend time with the guests just so they’re fed, it’s considered the highest form of respect you can pay them (in the mind of the host really). One of my friends was so done with having to eat at mine he started to ask if we’re having lunch or dinner before he arrived just so he could avoid being force fed That's true but I've also experienced the same thing from the OP's tweet. But it depends on the household I guess. I remember I was visiting a friend from school in Lyulin (...out of all places) and he told me abruptly that I should leave because the family is going to have dinner
DUA LIPA Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 1 hour ago, Arthoe said: The more southern you go in Germany, the more likely it is that you'll get fed. Like... where I live, not feeding your guest would be UNHEARD of. Maybe city people are different, but everybody is getting fed in the countryside. 40 minutes ago, The7thStranger said: I'm in Hessen, and I would never expect that to happen here. What in God's name is happening in the north? When I'm a guest at anybody's house, the coffee and cake come out almost immediately. truly the superior quarter of germany the food is OUT whenever i was invited to friends/other people‘s houses (except for when they were rude but i didn‘t want to stay at theirs for long anyway)
ariananext Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) 19 minutes ago, loliza said: Central italy too Wait I didn't know I mean here the thing is that you always know that you'll make a 10€ gift when somebody invites you to a birthday party (unless it's a bigger thing than the usual aperitivo/drink night/pizza) a close friend/partner will take the money from everybody and know whether the birthday person would rather get the money or a bigger gift bought with all the money. It happens that they pay for the party with that money but at that point the guests don't care what the birthday person does with their gift. I think it's pretty functional as a solution because you can have your birthday party without having to spend any/much money and without asking your guests to pay for themselves, but you obviously have to give up on the gifts. Edited May 31, 2022 by ariananext
DUA LIPA Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 4 minutes ago, Pendulum said: That's true but I've also experienced the same thing from the OP's tweet. But it depends on the household I guess. I remember I was visiting a friend from school in Lyulin (...out of all places) and he told me abruptly that I should leave because the family is going to have dinner there‘s families i know that don‘t even go to the door or pick up their phone when they were having dinner or breakfast but that‘s just the rare odd ones out there. Some people view their dinner as some very special family time only with no space for interruptions or intruders of any kind.
Before Today Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 5 minutes ago, Pendulum said: That's true but I've also experienced the same thing from the OP's tweet. But it depends on the household I guess. I remember I was visiting a friend from school in Lyulin (...out of all places) and he told me abruptly that I should leave because the family is going to have dinner Nn it's pretty interesting because in my culture dinner together as a family isn't that big of a deal. You eat when you're hungry.
Arthoe Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 4 minutes ago, DUA LIPA said: truly the superior quarter of germany the food is OUT whenever i was invited to friends/other people‘s houses (except for when they were rude but i didn‘t want to stay at theirs for long anyway) Lmao, the fact that I'm from the 10% of Bavaria that is on the acts nice is nice quarter
Yawn Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 sksks i can’t leaving before dinner is quite normal, even if i never really thought about it that way, but being left alone and not offered anything would never happen. like someone else said, the fact they stayed over and weren’t offered breakfast is incomprehensible.
Pendulum Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 1 minute ago, Saljju said: Nn it's pretty interesting because in my culture dinner together as a family isn't that big of a deal. You eat when you're hungry. Well that family was an exception because my culture is regarded as very hospitable. BUT that's not always a good think because when you get served some absolute gagworthy food you have to eat it, or at least have a bite to not offend the host There are parts of the country, mostly small villages in the mountains, where if you are a tourist and knock on somebody's door and ask them to spend the night, they would let you for free + cook you food.
Jagger Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 WHAT I could never imagine. Anyone who comes over gets fed. Dinner, snacks, desserts, breakfast, whatever. If im eating it, they are getting offered some
Before Today Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 1 minute ago, ontherocks said: Stop being poor and cook your own food!!!! It's not about being poor chile, it's just considered impolite in some cultures
Buddy Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 I make my company look through my pantry & make their own food, or we order out. I ain't cooking for no one
Gesamtkunstwerk Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 I never experienced people just eating without me in their own home and I would never not offer my guests anything to eat Rude and weirdo behaviour. I guess eating together is not as big culture here as in other places, like you're expected to leave before dinner, unless you're invited to stay and eat, but just eating while LEAVING your guests ? Some people have nerves.
Archetype Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 That's so awkward. My parents never let anyone leave their house without feeding them a proper meal. I don't even cook and I still offer food to guests no matter what.
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