Symmetra Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 im honestly surprised I didn’t know it was a thing to invite people over and not feed them . Does this happen in your country?
ATRL Moderator Element Posted May 31, 2022 ATRL Moderator Posted May 31, 2022 i saw this on twitter earlier and this surprised me as an american. if i was over at a friend's house, they'd feed me and give leftovers to take home too
Kummercell Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 I was so shocked when I read this in Brazil it's OFFENSIVE to not offer food to your guests
IBeMe Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 a damn mess if true maybe they think it is more polite not to feed you so you dont get fat? or is it because they dont know if u r allergic to something? idk ...
Demi Lovato Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 In Germany it does happen sometimes, stingy and greedy people, don’t think it’s everyone though sometimes they give you 50 cents so u can use the restroom and ask for it back although you been giving them **** for free all the time
Demi Lovato Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 It’s not just food it’s the general culture btw if you come from a social country and move to Germany you will become suicidal
Blade Runner Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) I'm not gonna force you to feed me if I'm a guest at your house, but if you let me alone in a room while you're downstairs eating, well, that's f+cked up. Edited May 31, 2022 by Blade Runner
tost1 Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) Bless the Mediterranean. I guess that's why they're so wealthy tho. Edited May 31, 2022 by tost1
IBeMe Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) btw...on that map...do they mean like they wont even offer you simple tea and biscuits I'm just baffled...cuz like apparently even British culture it seems like they won't give you NOTHING based on the color map (which of course the map is not perfect because I am sure immigrant communities feed their guests) Edited May 31, 2022 by IBeMe
Revolution Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 Unfortuantelly, Northern Europeans have awful food so no one wants to eat it and there is no culture of sharing food with guests.
Jynx672 Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 9 minutes ago, IBeMe said: btw...on that map...do they mean like they wont even offer you simple tea and biscuits I'm just baffled...cuz like apparently even British culture it seems like they won't give you NOTHING based on the color map (which of course the map is not perfect because I am sure immigrant communities feed their guests) No it's mostly dinner, if you're a kid playing at another kid's house, you're expected to leave around 6 PM (as your parents also expect you to be home around that time). Dinner at home is often considered a family-only kind of thing in the Netherlands, unless it's a special occasion and you are invited beforehand to a dinner party or barbecue.
Cain Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 dhfjsj it's true ? It never happened to me but I have heard stories about it. But usually the mom/dad will just be like '...we're having dinner now' and then you're expected to leave
dussel_06 Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 Mess. It’s so different from our asian culture. Here, it’s rude not to offer food. It’s even common courtesy to offer your food just for the sake of offering either it’s a meal of a snack. You should always be willing to share your food. (of course you’re expecting them to refuse the offer). Maybe because northern europeans only cook exact quantities for a number of people? We filipinos cook a lot more than we consume so we could eat the leftovers on the next meal.
Aren Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 Definitely a Scandinavian thing. They’re are extremely individualistic and never express their feelings. One of the reasons I broke up with my ex, who’s Swedish. I was horrified when he told me that his parents basically expelled him from home as soon as he turned 18, that his mom never said ‘I love you’ to him and that he never hugged his grandparents.
Legacy Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 Not sure why Northern France is in pink. They'll give you food.
Robert Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) This seems so rude even though I live in a country where it’s kind of normal. I grew up with my grandparents and my grandma would always offer my friends food and snacks. I couldn’t ever invite anyone round now without offering them something. Edited May 31, 2022 by Robert
Arthoe Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) The more southern you go in Germany, the more likely it is that you'll get fed. Like... where I live, not feeding your guest would be UNHEARD of. Maybe city people are different, but everybody is getting fed in the countryside. Edited May 31, 2022 by Arthoe
Velvet Night Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 I can confirm. My family always offered food but when I went over to play at a friend’s, I’ve been asked to leave at dinner time. Dinner time is considered family time.
The7thStranger Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 11 minutes ago, Arthoe said: The more southern you go in Germany, the more likely it is that you'll get fed. Like... where I live, not feeding your guest would be UNHEARD of. Maybe city people are different, but everybody is getting fed in the countryside. This would never happen where I live as well.
ellis-bell Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 I was surprised to see this. Would never happen in either of my countries - Greece and Australia
Robert Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 51 minutes ago, IBeMe said: btw...on that map...do they mean like they wont even offer you simple tea and biscuits I'm just baffled...cuz like apparently even British culture it seems like they won't give you NOTHING based on the color map (which of course the map is not perfect because I am sure immigrant communities feed their guests) A lot of people would just go home when it hits dinner time but you would definitely be offered a drink/snack and I’ve never been asked or known anyone expected to just wait in their friend’s room whilst they eat.
Demi Lovato Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 16 minutes ago, Arthoe said: The more southern you go in Germany, the more likely it is that you'll get fed. Like... where I live, not feeding your guest would be UNHEARD of. Maybe city people are different, but everybody is getting fed in the countryside. 4 minutes ago, The7thStranger said: This would never happen where I live as well. I’m north so it might be different in the south side! I expected it to be worse south though
Demi Lovato Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 This never happened to me with people who’s parents immigrated outside of Germany though, only with true GERMAN people and it was only a handful times so maybe 20% of Germans here? Idk we like to call them “Almans”
Halcyon Days Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 (edited) That didn’t happen to me when I visited my Swedish friend and her family in Karlstad. In fact they would encourage me to eat more and not hesitate to ask if I wanted something else Edited May 31, 2022 by Halcyon Days
The7thStranger Posted May 31, 2022 Posted May 31, 2022 1 minute ago, Demi Lovato said: Idk we like to call them “Almans” 8 minutes ago, Demi Lovato said: I’m north so it might be different in the south side! I expected it to be worse south though I'm in Hessen, and I would never expect that to happen here. What in God's name is happening in the north? When I'm a guest at anybody's house, the coffee and cake come out almost immediately.
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