discussion Do you want to get married & have kids?

[worldwide angel]

i wanna try therapy before i even consider having kids and i don’t like the idea of marriage

 

maybe one day but i need to be on my own for a bit

[UnusualBoy]

No to both.

[wastedpotential]

I definitely want to get married, but as for children at the moment I'm not too interested. Maybe as life circumstances change and I get older, that might change, but sitting in my early 20s, I'm not too interested in paying for a child (let alone children) 

[GentleEarthquake]

both things are overrated

[Alldeezy]

Those things will never happen for me. No point.

I can't even keep a ******* relationship 

[Velvet Night]

No to both. Kids are too much responsibility and I can barely take care of myself. And marriage, to me, is just a legal term that provides some modest financial benefits to the couple, I just don’t see the point in it.

[reymiu]

12 hours ago, awong918 said:

Married - yes

 

Kids - not sure. I love my nephew and nieces and would love to have my own, but are we at the point where kids won't get bullied for having 2 dads?

Yeah I love the idea of having kids w my future partner

 

But I'm scared that if I have kids, my kids will get bullied tbh :/

[Pop Life]

I'm happily married but I detest children and don't see why anyone would want one

[terrorblade]

yes to both. I really love kids

[wantedyoutogrow]

Idk if I want to get married because I really don't see the point in that, but I think I will want kids in the future, too young to decide tho

[Vitaly]

I have married. I don't have kids nor pets. Neither did my husband want any. This subject was one of the thing that I asked him early on in our relationship, among few others, cos I don't wanna be persuaded, nor I wish to rob anybody of their dreams and wishes. To me this subject is fundamental, and I have left from a relationship or two, who sees they may want kids in their future.  
 

Being a gay person means I have prerogative such as this option; to be free from social expectations and burdens of having kids. In social gatherings, never once people ask us about that, knowing who we are, and that is very reliving, to say the least. A lot of people seeking this kind of freedom, and I have it in my hands, so why in the hell would I want to throw that away to just "fit in" with the old school image of "happy family"?!! That is insanity! 

 

I don't see the purpose of having kids as a gay man. I am already whole with just myself and my husband.

And as someone who disagree with the kind of parents who are taking their kids as some kind of their retirement plan/investment, I certainly will not adopt kids just so I have somebody who will take care of me as I get older. I'll just go get assisted euthanasia Switzerland, where  it is legal, when I think my time is come or I have enough of it. And put all my riches to charities of my choices. 

[JonginBey]

You mean…like…be responsible for another human?

 

[Bethenny Frankel]

married yes and most likely yes for kids

[Supervixen]

No and no

[JoanneActII]

Married maybe

Kids f*** no

[Cobra]

No to both

[Mariah4life]

No thanks, having a dog is hard enough when it comes to traveling, let alone a kid. Besides, American kids are spoiled brats. 

[AllyBunny]

Been married for 3 years.

 

As to having children, I  may not be able to have children at all. I have a dog and he's a hyperactive monster during the day. So I don't think I can handle the changes and stress of children.

[ELT]

No thanks!

[Envy]

i'll probably adopt because the world is already full of neglected children.

 

perhaps, i'll consider getting married once i've migrated to a place that is void of homophobia.

[Khal]

Married? Maybe.

 

Kids? A hard no. That poor child deserves better  

[Aston Martin]

no and no 

[cashmoneybabygrande]

7 hours ago, ONOPKA said:

if i ever got married i'd have something low key. but i don't see it happening for me 

 

and i don't ever want children 

Same

[XxxKatyCatxxX]

No to both. Relationships are so boring, if you have to maintenance it, waste of time and I don't want to have kids while this world is such a bad place. 

[Before Today]

I'm open to both possibilities! Me and my bf have been planning to get married and adopt kids actually. Back in the day I used to want biological kids, but that seems costly and tbh I'm still not sure how to feel about the surrogate mothers' rights / etiquette etc. So now I'm happy to love kids who need love from me and my bf.