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Former Little Mix star Jesy Nelson has spoken for the first time about quitting the band - saying it was sparked by having a panic attack over how she looked in a music video. 
 

She said how she was left anxious and went on an extreme diet ahead of the shoot for single Sweet Melody as she had put on weight in lockdown.

 

But she had a breakdown on set as she “didn't look how I wanted to look” and ended up sobbing in her dressing room and begging to go home.

 

In a new interview with Cosmopolitan, the 29-year-old explained how the last music video left her at “breaking point”.

 

She said: “We’d been in lockdown, and it was the first time I could have a break and be at home around people that I love. It was the happiest I’d ever felt and I didn’t realise that until I went back to work. I immediately became a different person.

 

“I had anxiety. Whenever we have a music video I put an enormous amount of pressure on myself to try and lose weight. I have a fear of looking back on the camera. If I don’t like what I see, I find it so hard to be in front of the camera and feel amazing and perform.

 

“I’d been in lockdown, and I’d put on a bit of weight but I didn’t care. And they said, ‘you’ve got a music video in a couple of weeks’ and I just panicked. I went on this extreme diet, with bloody shakes, and tried to eat as little as possible. On the day of the Sweet Melody video I had a panic attack on set because I didn’t look how I wanted to look and I found it so hard to just be happy and enjoy myself.

 

“There’s a scene in Sweet Melody I’m not in because that’s when I had a panic attack and broke down. I was like, ‘I just want to go home.’”

 

 

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https://www.mirror.co.uk/3am/celebrity-news/jesy-nelson-reveals-first-time-24037264

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The timing of this interview is a choice.. but I am happy that Jesy is feeling so much better now. I cant imagine the pressure she went through and I hope she is happy doing things on her own terms now :heart2:

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Yeah, I figured that's why she wasn't in the transition scene.

 

I'm glad she left when it wasn't making her happy anymore though.

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1 minute ago, Gwendolyn said:

The timing of this interview is a choice..

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If she's happy now then good for her ....

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She said how she was left anxious and went on an extreme diet ahead of the shoot for single Sweet Melody as she had put on weight in lockdown.

 

But she had a breakdown on set as she “didn't look how I wanted to look” and ended up sobbing in her dressing room and begging to go home.

 

In a new interview with Cosmopolitan, the 29-year-old explained how the last music video left her at “breaking point”.

 

 

So basically the Sweet Melody video ended Little Mix (as a 4 members group)  :skull: 

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But yet you're recording solo music. Which is going to bring you more attention.

 

Also that doesn't really make any sense. You decided to leave the group after gaining weight (which she didn't look bad), then lost weight and posted thirst traps while teasing solo music. Just admit you wanted to go solo which was clear from interviews you gave during lockdown and be honest.

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okay but like won't she have the same problems doing solo music videos... :rip: it feels like an excuse but as long as she's happy :clap3:

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What? This doesn’t even make sense. You left because the pressure of looking slim but you go and pose for a magazine cover and record solo music for your solo career?

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Even in the video she mentions, her outfit was different from everyone else. :skull:

 

And ofc the timing. :skull:

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3 minutes ago, Mtjjproducer said:

But yet you're recording solo music. Which is going to bring you more attention.

 

Also that doesn't really make any sense. You decided to leave the group after gaining weight (which she didn't look bad), then lost weight and posted thirst traps while teasing solo music. Just admit you wanted to go solo which was clear from interviews you gave during lockdown and be honest.

I think you're missing something here! Being in a girl group, you consistently get compared to other members. That's what was going on with her. She was called "the fat one". No matter how much she tried, she was never like the other members and people called her fat. 

If she will do solo music, people won't have anyone to compare her with. That focus on her weight won't be as bad. 

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1 minute ago, Ampersand13 said:

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What are we thinking

I've just read the Cosmopolitan interview and I get where she's coming from but also I don't think she realises that it's gonna be just as bad, if not worse when she goes solo.

 

Also this 

 

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While Jesy didn’t want to comment on her current relationship with the girls, she opened up about what it was really like being compared to them for nearly 10 years of her life...

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12 minutes ago, Thinking Of You said:

What? This doesn’t even make sense. You left because the pressure of looking slim but you go and pose for a magazine cover and record solo music for your solo career?

Right. This is wut i dont get...

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She definitely needs help. Bless her :heart2:

 

 

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10 minutes ago, shark_heather said:

SUCH A BAD TIMING 

People need to stop saying this, Jesy probably did not know Leigh-Anne was announcing her pregnancy today. She can't control when a magazine cover/interview is coming out.

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It was so bittersweet reading that interview, some parts were so sad but I am really glad to hear how happy she is now.

 

She deserves the absolute world :heart:

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1 minute ago, Tinashegrande6 said:

I've just read the Cosmopolitan interview and I get where she's coming from but also I don't think she realises that it's gonna be just as bad, if not worse when she goes solo.

 

Also this 

 

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I didn’t see that part :rip: I really hope things are okay. Jess was always the one talking about how much of a family they all were, so it would be so sad if they weren’t on good terms anymore. 

 

Maybe I’m reaching, but I feel like you only don’t answer that question if the answer is negative. Like if you still have a good relationship, why wouldn’t you just say so? But I guess she probably just wants to keep it private for now.

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5 minutes ago, Ampersand13 said:

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What are we thinking

Nothing we didn’t already know, to be honest. Happy she’s happy and sounds like she made the right decision leaving the group.

 

A shame, but oh well. I’m sure it will work out for all parties involved. I just hope that they didn’t end on bad terms. I guess we’ll never know for sure though. 

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1 minute ago, The Slayer said:

People need to stop saying this, Jesy probably did not know Leigh-Anne was announcing her pregnancy today. She can't control when a magazine cover/interview is coming out.

Agreed. While the timing is unfortunate, it most certainly was not planned (at least I don’t think it was especially not on Jesy’s end). Alas, people will continue reaching 

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I think people need to read the full thing:

 

Now I’m on my own, I can genuinely wear what I want to wear. Before, I was wearing what I thought I should wear, because I was too frightened to wear certain things incase I looked bigger than the others. I’d wear corsets and **** like that to make myself look the size they were. Now, I’m not looking at the screen thinking, “Oh my god, I don’t look as good as them.” I feel free.

 

It’s the weirdest feeling for me. I feel like I’m going to get upset. [Jesy gets tearful.] I didn’t know that I could be this happy. I thought when I was in the group that it was just normal to feel that way. And because I’d felt like that for 10 years, I just thought, "This is life." Since I’ve left, I feel free. I don’t wakeup with anxiety, thinking, "I’ve got to do a music video today, I need to starve myself." Or, "I need to go on an extreme diet so I can look like the other three." That was consuming me.

 

I constantly compared myself to the others. Of course, a lot of that was in my head, but a lot of it was past trauma. Even recently, I was still getting compared to them. It’s horrible when you already don’t like something about yourself to then have thousands of people point it out. Now I feel like me. When I look back [at my time] in theband, I genuinely wasn’t me. I can’t believe how miserable I was.

 

The last music video we did [Sweet Melody] was the breaking point. We’d been in lockdown, and [that had been] the first time I could have a break and be at home around people that I love. It was the happiest I’d ever felt, and I didn’t realise that until I went back to work. I immediately became a different person. I had anxiety. Whenever we had a music video, I put an enormous amount of pressure on myself to try and lose weight. I have a fear of looking back on the camera. If I don’t like what I see, I find it so hard to be in front of the camera and feel amazing and perform.

 

I’d been in lockdown, and I’d put on a bit of weight but I didn’t care.And [then] they said, "You’ve got a music video in a couple of weeks," and I just panicked. I went on this extreme diet, with bloody shakes, and tried to eat as little as possible. On the day of the Sweet Melody video I had a panic attack on set because I didn’t look how I wanted to look and I found it so hard to just be happy and enjoy myself. I looked at the other three and they were having the time of their life.

I get so jealous, because I want to feel like that and enjoy it, because music is my passion. To have this dream and not be enjoying it because of what I look like, I knew wasn’t normal. 

 

There’s a scene in Sweet Melody I’m not in, because that’s when I had a panic attack and broke down. I was like,"I just want to go home." I was sobbing in the dressing room. Someone really close to me said, "This has got to stop. You can’t keep doing this to yourself. You’re going to end up where you were before."

I feel like there have been a few people who don’t understand why I left Little Mix, but am now in the studio making music. A lot of people said,“I thought you came out of the band to focus on your mental health?” I never said when I put out my statement that I was coming out of the band to never be in the public eye or perform again, or do music. I said


I was coming out of the band because I genuinely couldn’t deal with the pressure of being in a girl band.

 

For people to think that I would just stop working completely is crazy, because[for] me, working on my mental health is going to the studio, and creating music that I love. That’s what clears my head and makes me happy. It’s good for my mental health. I couldn’t deal with the pressure of being in the girl group. It wasn’t that I couldn’t deal with the pressure of being in the spotlight. I was constantly compared to three other girls and that mentally drove me to a really dark place, and I couldn’t put myself through that any more.

 

For me, that was the pinnacle point. I was like, "I need to start taking care of myself now, because this isn’t healthy." It wasn’t nice for the other three to be around someone who didn’t want to be there. So I took a break. I went through a really dark time after the music video. My mum said, "This has got to stop now. I have seen you suffer too much. This has been 10 years of your life." 

For so long, I worried about others and letting people down. The only person I should have been trying to make happy was myself, and I wasn’t doing that. I needed to do it for my mental health, because I know I would have ended up back where I was five years ago, and that’s scary.

 

Music is my life. It’s so powerful for me. I’m in the studio just having fun. I loved the music I made with Little Mix, but it wasn’t the kind of music I listen to. It just feels so nice to be making music that I love. I don’t know when I’m going to bring it out. I feel really content and happy. It’s the weirdest, best feeling in the world.

 

FELICITY: Can you give me three words that represented you in Little Mix and three that represent you now?

JESY: In Little Mix: honest, hardworking, sad.

 

FELICITY: And now?

JESY: Honest, content, free.

 

FELICITY: What did you do the day after you left Little Mix?

JESY: I was at home with my family, taking everything in on the news. Everyone was talking about it on Lorraine. When I put up my statement, I turned off my comments because I was ****ting myself – I thought, “I’m going to get so much backlash for this.” My sister rang me and said, “I think you should turn on your comments. Everything I’ve seen is really positive.” 

 

I turned on my comments and just sat in bed and cried because I was overwhelmed with how lovely everyone was being. It was a shock to me. I couldn’t get over how much people were supporting me and understood. I was on a weird rollercoaster of emotions. I felt sad, because it was 10 years of my life that I was giving up. I felt scared, like, “****, what’s going to happen now?”

 

At the same time, I had glimpses of happiness, of, "I can do what I want now.” I don’t feel trapped. If I wanted to go to the ****ing shop today and eat 10 bars of Dairy Milk, I could, because I don’t have to worry about being on a diet any more. I don’t have to worry about having a music video or doing an interview wearing an outfit that I don’t want to wear because three other girls want to wear it.

 

FELICITY: And then you feel like you’re being difficult?

JESY: Yeah. And it’s horrible. I felt like I was coming into an environment, sometimes, where people didn’t want me to be there. Sometimes I wasn’t a positive energy because I was so down. When you feel that way anyway, to be around certain people on my team that didn’t want me there was hard.

 

JESY: I feel like there have been a few people who don’t understand why I left Little Mix, but am now in the studio making music. A lot of people said,“I thought you came out of the band to focus on your mental health?” I never said when I put out my statement that I was coming out of the band to never be in the public eye or perform again, or do music. I said
I was coming out of the band because I genuinely couldn’t deal with the pressure of being in a girl band.

For people to think that I would just stop working completely is crazy, because[for] me, working on my mental health is going to the studio, and creating music that I love. That’s what clears my head and makes me happy. It’s good for my mental health. I couldn’t deal with the pressure of being in the girl group. It wasn’t that I couldn’t deal with the pressure of being in the spotlight. I was constantly compared to three other girls and
that mentally drove me to a really dark place, and I couldn’t put myself through that any more.

I need to do things that make me happy now, and people might think that’s selfish, but sometimes in life you have to put yourself first, you have to love yourself, and do what makes you happy.

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To think they have plenty of money and can't even pay for a nutritionist/trainer to help you get in shape without running to crazy diets :skull:

Not trying to be insensitive at all (I hope I wasn't), but some of those decisions are just... Damn.

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Just now, Beyoncé Knowles said:

I think you're missing something here! Being in a girl group, you consistently get compared to other members. That's what was going on with her. She was called "the fat one". No matter how much she tried, she was never like the other members and people called her fat. 

If she will do solo music, people won't have anyone to compare her with. That focus on her weight won't be as bad. 

It will still be there. Jessica Simpson, Xtina, Kelly, Taylor exc. have all had heat about their weight. Unfortunately it's not going to go away just because she's isn't in a group which she is going to find. Honestly she may even have it worse when she goes solo because the uk press is worse than what we have in the US and she has already had those issues with the press and her weight so it won't stop.

 

She was obviously looking for an out from the group that didn't make her look bad. She looked unhappy during the promo for the last album even before the weight, also she was the one who would mention going solo when the other girls didn't. She wanted an excuse to not take heat from press and the fans and used her weight.While I think it's horrible what people have said about her weight this seems like an excuse to go solo. Right after she left the group she was posting thirst traps teasing music. If it was only about the weight she gained she could have lost weight (which she didn't need to) and stay in the group. The timing of this, plus her interviews before the SM shoot makes it obvious she was just ready to go solo and done being in the group. 

 

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3 minutes ago, Ampersand13 said:

Agreed. While the timing is unfortunate, it most certainly was not planned (at least I don’t think it was especially not on Jesy’s end). Alas, people will continue reaching 

The people saying 'bad timing' are so dumb :clown:

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