I saw an app called Surge on his phone. Should I be worried?

have you both communicated exclusivity? if not, itʻs not a problem.

Yes

Yes but dating for a month doesn't mean anything if you haven't said we are in a relationship

Unless you've had that conversation then no

3 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said:

I saw an app called Surge on his phone. Should I be worried?

Are you exclusive? If not, no.

no, if you both decided to be exclusive then yes. But one month in is still very fresh

YES.

I'd say yes - I might be old style but I think that if you're dating someone you should focus on getting to know only him. Leaving multiple options open will lead you to choosing nothing in the end.

A month is not that long especially if you guys have busy lives and only see each other like 1-2 times a week. And if there's no talk about being exclusive then there's no issue having dating apps still. You don't even know if they're being used either. Just have a conversation about it instead of overthinking or coming to your own conclusions.

A month is nothing

A month and ur already on his ass

ot: depends on what u communicated… maybe he doesn't think its serious (which tbh is understandable if you only talk a month)

8 minutes ago, Rian said:

Are you exclusive? If not, no.

I mean, we both said we want longterm monogamous relationship

But I have yet to meet his friends or family so I am not rushing things, once I meet them and he still has such apps, I would definitely be worried. But I also can't call him out since he will simply learn to better hide things from me

12 minutes ago, KillingYourCareer said:

I'd say yes - I might be old style but I think that if you're dating someone you should focus on getting to know only him. Leaving multiple options open will lead you to choosing nothing in the end.

Period.

Yes, yes it is.

There's a dating app called Surge?

Anyways, unless you've communicated that you are exclusive then I'd also say no.

yes. the people saying no

No, a month is still pretty early. Unless you established you're exclusive.

Also why you looking through his phone. I wouldn't like that

No. I've had the exclusivity conversation a couple weeks to a couple months into different relationships. And until that conversation happens, I'm usually assuming they're still seeing other people too

no its not like your married

42 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said:

I mean, we both said we want longterm monogamous relationship

But I have yet to meet his friends or family so I am not rushing things, once I meet them and he still has such apps, I would definitely be worried. But I also can't call him out since he will simply learn to better hide things from me

Saying you want it ≠ being in it. Like I want that too, but i’m dating a few different people right now.

2 hours ago, Bloodflowers. said:

I mean, we both said we want longterm monogamous relationship

But I have yet to meet his friends or family so I am not rushing things, once I meet them and he still has such apps, I would definitely be worried. But I also can't call him out since he will simply learn to better hide things from me

Don't be vague about things, it'll save you a lot of trouble

Depends on whether or not you've both agreed to be exclusive. A month is just 30 days, 4 weeks. It's not really that long at all. So assuming you've gone on 2 dates a week, you've seen him 8 times. That's nothing. Assuming you've moved in with him after the first date, that's lesbian marriage and he should in no way have dating apps on his phone.

Dating a guy is a red flag