Have you ever had an overly competitive friend?

[brraap]

Have you ever had a friend that was obsessed with you, stole aspects of your personality, or tried to one up you on every occasion? Like damn ***** get your own life 
 

I wonder why they do it 

[Illuminati]

That sounds very specific so no. But I think adopting each others personality traits is kinda unavoidable

[Revolution]

i only befriend chill people

[Johnny Jacobs]

i did until i dropped him. it's annoying and such a waste of time.

[Contessa]

i only befriend chilis

[Devin]

2 hours ago, brraap said:

Have you ever had a friend that was obsessed with you, stole aspects of your personality, or tried to one up you on every occasion? Like damn ***** get your own life 
 

I wonder why they do it 

had one friend who did that and i dropped him. i didnt understand why he felt the need to "keep up with the joneses" when i never flexed that & part of me felt like it was some underlying jealousy. 

 

after the friendship died, what i learned abt him wasnt jealousy — it was unhealed childhood traumas resurfacing in his adult life. as a child he didnt have anything and kids in school he bonded with over things (he liked) they had. once me and few others dropped him, he has no real identity. i casually see him on social media [blatantly] tryna keep up with his boss and office execs now. 

[Cruel Summer]

I have an acquaintance at work - she thinks we're besties but I seriously cannot stand her - who does things like this. Every time I get an ounce of recognition (because I've been in this career longer, I'm better at what we do, I'm a pay grade and job title higher, and I actually bother to identify opportunities to make an impact) she gets all weird and mopey and says - out loud to my face - "well now I feel like I'm not doing enough :((" then tries to get involved in my project or make some other moves that ultimately end up going nowhere.

 

Like, do more then, just shut the **** up about it and do it on your own time. Not a SHRED of ability to be happy for her "bestie," just competitiveness, jealousy, and desperation for validation.

 

She's also taken over the "fun committee" and ruined the Halloween and Christmas parties this year, ugh 😒 

[Spicy Pisces]

In high school he made fun of my shirt, then bought it the following week. In college he insisted I invited him to spend the night at my place and go out with my friends so I did, he then added them on all socials and commented their every post and story. After that things went crazy. He demanded I let him my apartment while I was out on vacation. The landlord "wouldn't even know" he said, all I had to do was give him the keys with all my stuff inside and he'll make it an Airbnb so he can get some money. At first I laughed it off, he couldn't be serious. But every day he'd text me things like "your apartment is mine", "I'm waiting", "when will you listen", "you clearly lack the mindset of a genius", "I don't give a f*** if you're busy, give me your apartment"... F*cking creep 

[brraap]

1 hour ago, Spicy Pisces said:

In high school he made fun of my shirt, then bought it the following week. In college he insisted I invited him to spend the night at my place and go out with my friends so I did, he then added them on all socials and commented their every post and story. After that things went crazy. He demanded I let him my apartment while I was out on vacation. The landlord "wouldn't even know" he said, all I had to do was give him the keys with all my stuff inside and he'll make it an Airbnb so he can get some money. At first I laughed it off, he couldn't be serious. But every day he'd text me things like "your apartment is mine", "I'm waiting", "when will you listen", "you clearly lack the mindset of a genius", "I don't give a f*** if you're busy, give me your apartment"... F*cking creep 

A vampire to the max! Glad you got rid of this weirdo 

[brraap]

2 hours ago, Devin said:

had one friend who did that and i dropped him. i didnt understand why he felt the need to "keep up with the joneses" when i never flexed that & part of me felt like it was some underlying jealousy. 

 

after the friendship died, what i learned abt him wasnt jealousy — it was unhealed childhood traumas resurfacing in his adult life. as a child he didnt have anything and kids in school he bonded with over things (he liked) they had. once me and few others dropped him, he has no real identity. i casually see him on social media [blatantly] tryna keep up with his boss and office execs now. 

I do think it's something to do with being "seen" or admired. Some narcissistic tendencies for sure. They keep chasing empty praise and it's never enough. Best to just leave these types alone