OrgVisual Posted September 22 Posted September 22 Too many red flags to count. But as you are young and this is prob your first relationship, you will grow up and learn your way through relationships. It's hard as it is for a trans woman to find love in this world, and I think a lot of DL guys are trying to take advantage of you as well. So just love yourself and know where the boundary is in relationships. 1
B-Luke Posted September 22 Posted September 22 2 hours ago, Cesar said: 2 years with someone is practically only 0.08% of the 25 years you've lived so far. 3
MistressKay Posted September 22 Posted September 22 I wasn't going to read but seeing your trans I took time to. Oh baby trans you fell in love with a HOBO-sexual and CHASER. These men are common; especially on Grindr. They know some trans women are desperate and they need the help and being on the drugs lowers their inhibitions. Take this as lesson learned and never pay **** for these men! Charge them all sweetie. You are a UNICORN! 1
Princess Aurora Posted September 22 Posted September 22 Oh, girl, you should better move on from him. He's not worth it 1
ErnieSwift Posted September 22 Author Posted September 22 I really appreciate everyone's feedback and advice on this. Since he moved on, I've been thinking a LOT about the red flags and how he really isn't a great guy, and I know I deserve so much better. Idk why, but I have a feeling that he will try to come back once it doesn't work out with this new girl.
ErnieSwift Posted September 23 Author Posted September 23 I stalked him on ig, and he already has a pic with her as his pfp.............. I was starting to get over it and now the feelings of sadness are starting to come back because when we were together, he would NEVER post a pic of me on social media, and he's showing her off so proudly. I feel so horrible right now. 3
Quiqui4eva Posted September 23 Posted September 23 What a nasty man. I hate this for you The thing is, I wouldn't put it past him to eventually try contacting you again if she leaves him and he feels lonely. If this does happen, I wouldn't miss the opportunity to go off on him no holds barred and end things for good. Something you could try if you have free time is write a letter "to him" airing out all your grievances and frustrations. Otherwise, I'd definitely make it your mission to not stay indoors. Get together with friends and family. Hell, get under someone else if you can! All the best 1
Buffy Posted September 23 Posted September 23 23 hours ago, Cesar said: 2 years with someone is practically only 0.08% of the 25 years you've lived so far. that's practically nothing, in hind sight. 23 hours ago, KatyPrismSpirit said: 23 hours ago, brazil said: 22 hours ago, HausOfPunk said: 8% not 0.08% That was a pretty compassionate response though. I like that mentality. 1 1
John Slayne Posted September 23 Posted September 23 Talking to him would not give you closure. It would just prolong your pain because a part of you still wants to talk to him and be with him, so 'getting closure' is an excuse to have that contact. When he said he has a new gf and cannot be with you, that tells you everything you need to know. The only person that can give you true closure is yourself. 1
John Slayne Posted September 23 Posted September 23 7 hours ago, ErnieSwift said: I stalked him on ig, and he already has a pic with her as his pfp.............. I was starting to get over it and now the feelings of sadness are starting to come back because when we were together, he would NEVER post a pic of me on social media, and he's showing her off so proudly. I feel so horrible right now. It's hard to see it that way now, but that's only more proof he was not right for you. You deserve to be with someone who is not ashamed of being with you. 1
fountain Posted September 24 Posted September 24 Baby, that man sounds horrible. The way that he treated you is disgusting and I'm sorry a rat like that would make you feel this way. You deserve so much better. And you will find it with time! My advice is to block him on everything. You need to start on a fresh slate; wipe him away entirely. If he tries to contact, do not reciprocate. It may be hard and painful, but this is the only way to truly move on. Do not give this man another second of your thought, energy or love. Your heart is addicted to the way that he makes you feel; in his absence, try to create this feeling yourself. Treat yourself to lovely things, put all your effort into self love and you will no longer have any need for that man who treated you so awfully. And then, one day, you will find better. But, for now, the answer is to focus on yourself and look to a brighter future. You can do it. Good luck 1
Phaunzie Posted September 24 Posted September 24 Hun, there is nothing wrong with being alone. You don't need him so take my advice, move on and keep it pushing. Plus, you will be fine, a man is a man, easily replaceable. 1
ErnieSwift Posted September 24 Author Posted September 24 I've got a little bit of an update on the situation. Yesterday I asked a mutual friend of his whether he knew anything about the situation, and he basically told me that last month, he was actively trying to have sex with one of his other friends...... So I'm pretty sure at this point that after me and him started talking again, he was talking to other people the entire time. I'm feeling disgusted and a little angry, but I think this is what I needed to finally be able to move on, because I'm realizing now that he obviously was never interested in continuing a romantic relationship with me, and that I was someone he could fulfill his sexual desires with when he was bored. I thought about doing something to get him back somehow, but I'm going to just be the bigger person and show him that he didn't shatter me, and I know someda I'll be okay. 1
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