St. Charles Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 I’m about to start dating again so I’m curious. Share stories and experiences plz
sweetblindness Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Hold a conversation. It's as easy as being attentive and asking follow-up questions. Put their phone away. I can't think of a bigger turn off than when someone gets their phone out on a date.
JoeAg Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 (edited) ok so I've hung out with 4 guys in the past 48 hours and two were dates and two were more of hookups. in my sexy Joe era now and I think it's cause I have gained a LOT of confidence from my breakup the second date was with a GREAT friend I've had for awhile now (we're both poly, he's sexy and SUPER dorky and looks like if Edward Norton's character in Fight Club was somehow gayer, and he was also my 2022 summerboy lol). several things made my date with him WAY better than the one on sunday night: he bought me tacos and a drinky, he agreed with the thought of watching a movie NEITHER of us had seen, he complimented me a natural amount, and he moved into the sexy phase SO smoothly. so those are 4 amazing things right there! the second hookup, in addition, had a few amazing things to it but one thing that REALLY irks me. he was sweet and hot like all the best peppers, and he immediately took interest in me: asking to listen to my new single, asking me about myself, and showing signs of attraction even after we banged. HOWEVER, the one thing that I really dislike is when they leave without telling you/waking you up. idc that you didn't want to bother my sleep! write a note or text me/message me or just please don't be afraid to wake me up because i get freaked out by you having left noticeless. so THERE you got about 7 things I love and one I can't stand lol! I'd honestly hang out with three of the above in a goddamn HEARTBEAT. the first hookup looked like a male Rihanna. what a yummy guy!! model vibes, was the biggest confidence boost EVER that he kept calling me sexy. the first date, I'm more reluctant about, cause he was boring lol and easily got overshadowed by the latter three, so there's again something I mentioned I love and a second thing I abhor lol. be interesting! be authentic! be wholeheartedly and unashamedly YOURSELF!! Edited October 17, 2023 by JoeAg 1
HRHCOLLECTION Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Maintain eye contact while smiling Engaged body language Inquisitive Completely honest and owns up to what he is looking for Pay
Illuminati Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Depends on what you do on a date, you want us to get explicit?
Johnny Jacobs Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Jokes aside really. Pay. (if he asked you) Acts shy and confident where it's appropriate. Show interest. That's a great start to show you he's worth a shot in my opinion
Illuminati Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 4 minutes ago, JoeAg said: asking to listen to my new single I'm sorry but
JoeAg Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Just now, Illuminati said: I'm sorry but sorry? but it's true, I love when people actually pay attention to what i'm saying and honor my art. he told me my voice was beautiful, and I had mentioned earlier on grindr that i had been making sure the master was good enough. it made me very validated...
Illuminati Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Just now, JoeAg said: sorry? but it's true, I love when people actually pay attention to what i'm saying and honor my art. he told me my voice was beautiful, and I had mentioned earlier on grindr that i had been making sure the master was good enough. it made me very validated... I think it's sweet that they show interest since it's a big part of your life. I just thought it sounded like self promo
dumbsparce Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Do something where you won't have to be constantly looking at each other directly so as you allow moments of silence to happen and avoid as much awkwardness as possible.
JoeAg Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Just now, Illuminati said: I think it's sweet that they show interest since it's a big part of your life. I just thought it sounded like self promo ohhh ok I see aaaaaaa yeah honestly this time it wasn't meant to be, at least not in this thread but thanks lol yeah it was v sweet yeah I just woke up and my autistic ass was confused for a sec lmfaoooo
glitch Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 4 minutes ago, Johnny Jacobs said: Pay. (if he asked you) Yeah the asking first is important. I would say no anyway because I hate a stranger paying for me. Maybe a few dates in its a bit different but I'd always want to split on a first date. OT: Honestly just listening. It's quite nice when someone can call back to something you mentioned in passing a couple of hours ago. Just remembering the little things and showing genuine interest.
jesus del rey Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 (edited) Know how to hold up a conversation, it wouldn't hurt to remember couple of things your date is interested in so you can ask them during the date. Pay. Pay. Pay. Make eye contact and avoid looking at your phone. Make sure to have a good posture and a good command of your gestures. Be funny, take a shower before the date to make sure you look and smell great. Don't forget taking care of your nails. Show up a bit early. If the date goes to the bedroom, eat their ass. Everybody likes a little tongue in their butt. Edited October 17, 2023 by jesus del rey 2
St. Charles Posted October 17, 2023 Author Posted October 17, 2023 32 minutes ago, Illuminati said: Depends on what you do on a date, you want us to get explicit? I’m going for LTR. Nothing wrong with hookup but just never been my ting.
Gladiator Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 Why do so many people want the other guy to pay on here? Are you guys not capable of paying for yourself?
St. Charles Posted October 17, 2023 Author Posted October 17, 2023 9 minutes ago, Gladiator said: Why do so many people want the other guy to pay on here? Are you guys not capable of paying for yourself? Yeah, I don’t mind paying but I would be mildly annoyed if they assumed I’d pay without even looking at the check. 1
Gladiator Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 (edited) 1 hour ago, St. Charles said: Yeah, I don’t mind paying but I would be mildly annoyed if they assumed I’d pay without even looking at the check. That's what I'm thinking too. I'd likely offer to pay for someone I was going on a date with for the first time if I felt I hit it off with them, but looking for the other person to pay being a positive thing they can do on the date is not something I ever really considered and don't really understand. On a date with a new person I always go in expecting that we both have the mind to split the check. I'm just surprised to see this here, because I generally see this kind of expectation placed on men in straight relationships. So it is interesting that people are saying that's what they expect from the other guy. Edited October 17, 2023 by Gladiator
St. Charles Posted October 17, 2023 Author Posted October 17, 2023 30 minutes ago, Gladiator said: That's what I'm thinking too. I'd likely offer to pay for someone I was going on a date with for the first time if I felt I hit it off with them, but looking for the other person to pay being a positive thing they can do on the date is not something I ever really considered and don't really understand. On a date with a new person I always go in expecting that we both have the mind to split the check. I'm just surprised to see this here, because I generally see this kind of expectation placed on men in straight relationships. So it is interesting that people are saying that's what they expect from the other guy. Maybe it’s a role thing. I think a lot of relationships can be split into the “cat” and the “mouse.” In straight relationships the woman is usually the one getting pursued. So stating the expectation that the other person is paying is code for “I want to be the mouse in this relationship.” If that makes sense. I don’t like either role much; I like when it feels like we’re always on the same page and it isn’t so one-sided.
ATRL Moderator feelslikeadream Posted October 17, 2023 ATRL Moderator Posted October 17, 2023 C*m within ~8 minutes. Like come on sis, I don't have all day. 1
Lana Banana Posted October 17, 2023 Posted October 17, 2023 (edited) 5 minutes ago, feelslikeadream said: C*m within ~8 minutes. Like come on sis, I don't have all day. I didn’t realize people have a low attention span for SEX in 2023. Y’all are missing out, so sorry sweetie. No wonder people can’t keep a bf/gf I got flowers for giving a BJ for 1.5 hours the other day Edited October 17, 2023 by Lana Banana 1
Recommended Posts