discussion Do you think it's biphobic if women choose to not date bi men?

[Assassin]

Yes, 100%

[simplywohoo]

tbh if it was if i wanted to date a bi man.. i don't think i'd reject a bi man for being bi but i can imagine how harmful it would be to myself comparing me to so many beautiful women. it's insecurity issues on my side ofc but i just don't think it would be healthy for me. 

 

[Delusional]

This thread is a mess already. 

[DanyelP23]

14 hours ago, BrentB said:

So I was listening to a podcast recently with a 3-woman panel where they were discussing sexuality. Pretty much all of them animously swore that they would never date men who've been with other men. From what I heard generally from them, they cited health reasons as to why they wouldn't ( PH scales of their puss getting thrown off & they basically can't trust men these days who are unhygienic & stick their peen in any & every orofice known to man (raw with no questions asked).

 

I, myself, kinda get where they're coming from. Apps these days are like 70% guys who want BB. And over the years, MORE dl bi dudes who are married have been joining. Plus, I bet half these guys don't clean their junk after their quick raw & then take that same peen & ride their wives/gf with it. 

 

What do you think? Is this a fair opinion?

 

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I honestly feel like this applies more towards top/vers bi dudes who like f**king raw tbh. Anything else could probably most-likely be argued as biphobic

 

It definitely is biphobic.

At the same time, it's those women's business who they want to sleep with and they have all the agency in the world to reject any potential partner based on any random characteristic, even an immutable one such as bisexuality.

However - they might still end up sleeping with a bi man - as it was said before, bi (and specifically dl) men will rarely reveal their sexuality to their female partner. 

The only fair thing would be for these women to interrogate every potential male partner and see if they can clock any potential signs of bisexuality

 

[vale9001]

yes

 

but i can understand if you know you're jealous person can be hard to have a relationship knowing your partner could potentially make sex with the 100% of people he meets and not only the 50% 

[Mornings]

1 hour ago, Charcoal Baby said:

Girl, you literally said, “thats why you get STD if you don't use protection” please don’t play dumb. You can still get STDs WITH protection (via needles, oral sex, etc.) What I’m trying to point out is that, your comment comes across as an absolute. I agree people should be safe, but words matter and the way you use them matters. Maybe it’s a grammar or contextual issue that you don’t get it, but don’t try and gaslight me like my reply didn’t make sense. Be purposeful obtuse if you want to.

 

Girl, go to hell . You can choose not to read and understand what I’m talking about if you want. That’s on you. 

Girl, go to hell [2]

Do like your username and actually think. 

I think I just disagree with you. There are exceptions to every rule, right. Nothing fits into a philosophical or even scientific box perfectly. But I won’t be here arguing on the side of the exceptions. And I’m not shaming anyone who doesn’t use protection. I’m no saint, but I am extremely lucky. Anyway you’re welcome To call me ignorant or criticize what I’m saying but I’m not gonna budge on this topic to make you or anyone else feel better.  
 

ironically I’m about to go get my day started with my prep and a hot shower. I got a nice little date tonight after work and I WILL be using protection 🤞

[LikeATattoo]

The rationale that they provided is indeed biphobic, yes. It’s entirely rooted in stereotypes of promiscuity/hyper-sexuality, subsequent dirtiness, and general lack of innate masculinity.

No one here is arguing that women don’t have the right to steer clear of bi men, so I don’t know why people are commenting obvious things like “They don’t have to sleep with bi men if they don’t want to!” lol. No one’s autonomy or boundaries were being challenged, but the reading comprehension on this board is jittery so I shouldn’t be surprised.

 

As an aside, some people in this thread have made themselves stark reminders of gay men’s normalised biphobia as well.

Edited September 16, 2023 by LikeATattoo

[Finite]

3 hours ago, Mornings said:

ironically I’m about to go get my day started with my prep and a hot shower.

I love how you just proved my point, but continue being obtuse if you want to. 

Edited September 16, 2023 by Charcoal Baby

[Theshigo Washidu]

If there's a biphobic reasoning behind it ("they're more likely to cheat", "they're susceptible to diseases") then yes.

If it's just their preference with no hate or ignorance behind it then no.

[LittleStarmen]

11 hours ago, Komet blu said:

 The way biphobia gets thrown out casually like it's nothing by queer people (!!!) is frightening.

 

Being bi doesn't only mean you're 50% attracted to men and 50% to women, it doesn't mean you need to hook up with a guy after a woman to continue being bi and vice-versa, it doesn't mean your past romantic partners cannot only be of one sex. 'fully and truly bi' like what the actual **** is this post 

 

So what does it means? I dont consider a DL guy Bi...

[Raver]

Nope. I don’t go for bi men either

 

[Specter]

This thread is predictably a hot mess. Why are y'all like this? Are y'all not embarrassed? 

 

First things first - yes, people can, should, and largely DO (adding this in because bad-faith actors pretend "wokism" ""forces"" people to date people ) who they want to.

 

With that said, your preference CAN and usually is rooted in socially internalised messaging, which, in the case of bisexual men, could be many things. Assuming it's just "closeted" gays, assuming being bi inherently makes one more promiscuous, and so on. If you're not dating a bi guy because you think like this...you are being biphobic, yes. If its just your preference that does not have any of these loaded "reasons" - maybe you've just never found most bi guys compatible with your sexual preferences, for instance, then that's your prerogative. 

 

However, these topics are a mess because the vast majority of people DO harbour these problematic notions but then want to get off scot-free without being called out. Miss mamas, that's not how it works. 

 

As for the OP, it kinda sounds like bullshit, sorry. Seems like a thin attempt to co-opt medical concerns (not even really medical, mostly hygiene) to then be biphobic. Bi men..bathe, so

[wehan6]

yes 

[Robert]

Yes, just like it’s biphobic when gay men do it.

[Alldeezy]

probably but I think its because they are more worry since they can cheat on you with just about everyone all my bi ex's were cheaters 

however they only cheated on me with other woman so maybe im just paranoid