discussion Have you had any friends or family members that unalived themselves?

[Distantconstellation]

My brother did it in July. He sat on the train tracks and the train killed him. Brightline train to be specific. I went back to where it happened and saw blood, his sandals, Credit card, And a his iPhone was completely shredded so don't even wanna imagine what his body looked like. The medical examiner did tell us he was unrecognizable. Lots of trauma on the face.

Last year at the end of October he started acting weird, we thought he was on drugs but when an MRI was done it turned out he had a brain tumor. They removed it and 3 days later he had surgery again to place a stent. He recovered but honestly he never really seemed the same after that. At least mentally. He was only 31 years old.

Edited September 15, 2023 by Distantconstellation

[Sabrina Carpenter]

Condolences 

 

My best friend’s mother, who my other friends and I are kinda close with, jumped off a condo building with their family dog months ago. My best friend said her mother only wrote a note for her brother and left nothing for her. I feel like my best friend has never been the same since then.

[Danger]

I am so sorry for your loss

[KanMap]

Condolences 

[Distantconstellation]

7 minutes ago, Sabrina Carpenter said:

Condolences 

 

My best friend’s mother, who my other friends and I are kinda close with, jumped off a condo building with their family dog months ago. My best friend said her mother only wrote a note for her brother and left nothing for her. I feel like my best friend has never been the same since then.

She jumped with the dog? Omg :/ 

[suburbannature]

I’m so sorry. 

[Sabrina Carpenter]

7 minutes ago, Distantconstellation said:

She jumped with the dog? Omg :/ 

Yeah  she treated the dog like her own child. She probably didn’t wanna be alone when it happens? Idk, it was really selfish on her part. 

[JoeAg]

my condolences, I'm here if you ever need to talk to someone 

 

yes, I had a dear friend named Antonia, who I've written a song about (which I'm going to release on my upcoming fourth EP, it's been in my voice memos for quite awhile now and I owe it to her to record and release it as part of her legacy) who passed in 2019

she was a true angel, just someone you would love to have known. she was brilliant, a perfect balance of emotional intelligence and logical intellect. and she was so loved. she was an only child, and she gave me my second tattoo (a stick n poke of equilibrium arrows, on my right bicep), so I had an A tattooed on my left middle finger dedicated to her! she was addicted to a drug I really despise, which has taken too many lives. I miss her all the time, and my best friend was her best friend too. she still had a road to pave, as we say. I know it's been 4 years but it still feels like a fresh wound sometimes, I believe she's in a better place now

[diabetio]

yes, two friends

 

brother & grandma both attempted it as well

 

my condolences for your loss, take care of yourself

[Attitude]

Thankfully none, but some guy I went to school with jumped off the Golden Gate Bridge.

 

Sorry for your loss op.

[feelslikeadream]

A friend did, when we were in college. He was closeted (he only came out to me) and had a very conservative family. When he came out to me, he immediately expressed his fear that he could never actually be out to everyone because his family and friends would all disown him. He was even dating a girl to keep up the facade.

 

Over winter break in junior year (while I was away, back home with my family), he committed suicide. His funeral was definitely one of the hardest days of my life; it was awful seeing his family and friends talk about him in a way that felt completely divorced from who I knew him as. They kept talking about how happy he always was, how much he was in love with his girlfriend, etc. It was honestly heartbreaking knowing that even in death, he would never be seen for who he really was.

 

I remember walking home from the funeral, feeling distraught that I would have to keep carrying the secret for him. When I got home, my roommate (who was also his friend) came into my room to find me crying and held me. I kept saying that it wasn't fair and didn't make sense, and she had no idea what I was really talking about, but it was still nice to be comforted by her.

 

Anyway, I can't imagine going through this with my brother, so my heart is with you OP

[CBC]

one of my best friend's brother did it. in my family nobody has yet

[Alldeezy]

That's horrible .. i'm so sorry about your loss

[Jon Snow]

My condolences 

 

I’ve had a family member who did that. I don’t wanna speak about how it happened, but it was horrible and gruesome. Things were never the same, but with time you learn how to live with that. I was really young when it happened, so it shaped my personality. I’ve been pretty fine in the last couple of years. 
 

I still wonder how someone has to hate themselves and their life to do things like that. It makes me really sad and angry to people who were around and did nothing, were selfish and didn’t treat them the way they deserved. I will probably never know the reason, but some things have been much clearer recently. I hope I put all the pieces together. 

[Cyanide]

I went to a really small high school and someone who I was in orchestra with killed themselves after we all graduated. He was in a top IVY league school, lots of pressure. I wonder what he was going through 

[Riverbank]

My family has a history of mental illness but so far only two of my cousins took their own lives. First one hanged himself in his closet and second one OD'd.

 

Omg I feel terrible for you OP  My condolences. I'm here if you ever need someone to talk to.

[AvadaKedavra]

Oh dude im so sorry. Im totally sure yll see him again one day in a good state. He's in a better world with no pain or suffering  Been hearing how those surgeries can be life changin. Even a small injury.

Nope no one yet. An Uncle of mine death was treated as suicide but we discovered they killed him.  

Edited September 15, 2023 by AvadaKedavra

[Bears01]

Sorry for your loss friend 

 

Yes, when I was 19 one of my best friends killed himself. I’ve experienced a lot of death with family and people I’ve known since and even before then, but the only death that was harder for me was my dads. But I knew he was going to pass, unlike my friends I didn’t know it was coming 

[kandicha]

I had one friend, not a close friend but someone I had recently met and was getting to know at that time, who killed herself. I had zero clue that she was struggling and didn’t see it coming at all, so it was shocking to hear the news and it still feels incomprehensible. It’s been more than five years, but I can’t help but think about her all the time and just wonder why.

 

I’m sorry for your loss 

[Saddy]

Condolences