discussion Have I been ghosted?

[DoubleRainbow!]

3 hours ago, AintNoOtherMe said:

I’m sorry that happened to you. Being ghosted doesn’t feel good and leaves you with hundreds of questions why and how and etc… the truth is: it doesn’t really matter why he did it. the best advice is just to let it go, don’t text him, try not to think about him, if it helps mute his social media and just move on. It’s good that it happened after the first date cauz I’ve been in situations where I got ghosted after 2-3 dates which makes things worse. 
this one guy said he wanted to be my boyfriend and blah blah and then he ghosted me. and it’s usually the younger guys because they aren’t mature enough. 
good luck and move on!

Literally this

I swear to God he was so into it the whole time, I told him I hadn’t slept well and he told me I could put my head on his lap to sleep a little, I told him I had to send an important email at 2pm, so at 2pm he reminded me it was time to do that, I told him I hadn’t been able to buy any Taylor merch the day of the concert so he told me he knew a place where they sell unofficial merch so we could go together, the way he looked at me felt special and I told him his penetrating look made me nervous so he kept on doing that just to see me smile

The “what happened?” is killing me 

anyway, I’ll take y’all’s advice and move on

 

[Frappucino]

I would’ve just called him out on him, which I have in the past. If he can’t be man enough to express his feelings then I’ll be the wake up call he needs 

[PoisonedIvy]

14 hours ago, WeFoundTrouble said:

I can’t believe I’m saying this but I’m dealing with kind of the same

 

Dude followed me on IG out of nowhere, I followed back, slid in DMs, got his number, we had EXTREMELY intimate conversations and flirtations and phone calls and voice note exchanges… he was so cute and we had such a great connection, we were on the same wavelength physically, mentally, emotionally.. and then after 1 week it’s just suddenly become crickets  

 

My delusional ass was already planning our wedding  My first and last time falling head over heels for someone

And of course last night when I officially gave up on him and send a goodbye message he decides to send a long, sweet paragraph & voice note combo in response to reel me back in. After DAYS of not communicating with me at all.  Men are such trash   And I’m a garbage collector

Edited September 4, 2023 by WeFoundTrouble

[DoubleRainbow!]

4 hours ago, WeFoundTrouble said:

And of course last night when I officially gave up on him and send a goodbye message he decides to send a long, sweet paragraph & voice note combo in response to reel me back in. After DAYS of not communicating with me at all.  Men are such trash   And I’m a garbage collector

At least you’ve got a response

sorry you’re going through the same thing, we’ll be fine 

 

thanks to all of you guys for your answers on this thread, you told me what I kinda knew already but it helped a lot hearing it from other people, now I feel better 

[P.O.P]

12 hours ago, WeFoundTrouble said:

And of course last night when I officially gave up on him and send a goodbye message he decides to send a long, sweet paragraph & voice note combo in response to reel me back in. After DAYS of not communicating with me at all.  Men are such trash   And I’m a garbage collector

We love a plot twist 

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Sending you love sis ❤️ 

Edited September 4, 2023 by P.O.P

[DoubleRainbow!]

Nobody asked for this but there’s finally closure to this story:

 

he never answered back, anyway he saw every single one of my stories, in fact he was always the first one to see them. So I decided, after one month, to ask him how he was; no answer. After I sent him those messages, finally he didn’t ignore them but he left me on read and immediately posted a shirtless selfie. 
That’s what I needed to realize he’s full of **** so I unfollowed him from all my social media and that was the best I could’ve done.

Yesterday a friend of mine who follows him sent me a screenshot of a pic he posted with a guy who appears to be his boyfriend or smn. He’s shorter, fatter and older than me, yet he was enough and I wasn’t.

 

Can't believe my life for the last three months revolved around a guy who didn’t even think of me as I did, triggering my mind and wondering what’s wrong with me. Now I’m moving on ❤️‍🩹 but the wound is deep. 

[Fancyhoodlum]

I ghost a lot. 

Gotta admit 

[Just a Gay on ATRL]

I feel your pain here. I've been on several first dates where everything seemed to go really well and chemistry was popping off, then yeah either they totally ghost or you can just tell they barely ever want to respond. I say you just move on.  EDIT: I just saw your update above, this guy is a typically gay tool, you're better off without him lol. He seems extremely shallow.

[Hobbes]

Yeah these situations suck. And it’s easy to convince yourself that it’s different this time but ultimately if they’re into you, you won’t be sat around wondering or waiting for them to reply. Learn from this experience and don’t waste your time on guys who aren’t giving you the courtesy to let you down easy! You deserve better. 

[JonginBey]

On 9/3/2023 at 7:48 AM, DoubleRainbow! said:

he was the one who asked for a kiss and it was really cute even he got a boner lol

 

Can y’all be civilized for once?

[DoubleRainbow!]

18 hours ago, Fancyhoodlum said:

I ghost a lot. 

Gotta admit 

can we know the reasons you do that? 

[Fancyhoodlum]

I'm unreliable 

[ithinkheknowsoutsold]

On 9/4/2023 at 12:34 AM, DoubleRainbow! said:

So this is what happened after the date:

 

-we said goodbye with a kiss at around 3pm

-i didn’t send any message right after because I didn’t wanna look “intense” so I decided to message him some hours later 

-he texts me at like 4pm saying he “was with his friends already” to which I respond it’s okay immediately and I say I’m going home already

-at 7pm he responds saying everything is alright but he’s a lil bit drunk and I say I hope he doesn’t end too wasted; no answer from him

-I understand he’s at a party having fun and stuff so I’m okay with that and before going to bed at 11pm I tell him it was cute meeting him and I hope he has a good rest

-he answers the day after at like 11am replying to every single one of my messages except the one where I said he was the cutest so I get a lil bit sad and don’t answer only after two hours saying I hope he’s feeling well, no answer from him the whole day

-it’s 7pm and I give it the last try so I text him “heeey, is everything alright?”

-that’s it

You are just like me, maybe we should get together at some point hehe 

[ithinkheknowsoutsold]

On 10/12/2023 at 3:24 PM, DoubleRainbow! said:

He’s shorter, fatter and older than me

Not short, fat, and old people all catching strays 

[ithinkheknowsoutsold]

I get ghosted so much it's actually insane.

[katara]

Honestly be glad that he ghosted you so early on. Like 1,5 years ago I was dating this guy for MONTHS and then all of a sudden he ghosted me like nothing had happened 

 

Men are atrocious