Hallad173 Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 Assuming my spouse and I get to that 6 figure salary in our respective careers, I either want 1,3 or 4. 2 isn’t an option for me. Don’t ask
HEAVYONIT Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 I've been thinking about this question a lot lately. I used to hate being gay but now I LOVE it. I feel zero pressure to have kids, unlike the straight women my age...and honestly I feel back for them. I'd consider it further down the road when I'm more financially stable but I'm not particularly in a rush.
byzantium Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 My boyfriend wants 1, I want four. I will keep you posted on the settlement.
KaledKalil Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 I have no plans for kids, not even pets to be honest.
Heldenzeit Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 I'd love to have two or three children in the next years. But for that I'd also need a partner. ALSO adopting in Germany is a STRUGGLE, let alone as a gay couple. Basically, my dreams are f-ed.
Beyonnaise Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 At this point in my life my partner and I honestly have no clue whether we want them. Like part of me thinks I will end up wanting one as I get older, but another part can't fathom actually having one, and then I think about the insane costs and how your life all of a sudden completely revolves around another life and I'm like... yeah a dog might be enough for me. It's something I think I can't fully wrap my mind around, because there's not the preordained social order that straight people always have in their everyday lives where everything is leading up to becoming a parent. It's more of a hurdle for gays in general. But then I selfishly think about the potential of being bored in my 40s-50s, and the loneliness of thinking I could die alone. Gotta love mid 20s existentialism
poki Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 I hope to be a dad one day. I would like to have a son.
Happylittlepunk Posted July 18, 2023 Posted July 18, 2023 3 hours ago, Beyonnaise said: At this point in my life my partner and I honestly have no clue whether we want them. Like part of me thinks I will end up wanting one as I get older, but another part can't fathom actually having one, and then I think about the insane costs and how your life all of a sudden completely revolves around another life and I'm like... yeah a dog might be enough for me. It's something I think I can't fully wrap my mind around, because there's not the preordained social order that straight people always have in their everyday lives where everything is leading up to becoming a parent. It's more of a hurdle for gays in general. But then I selfishly think about the potential of being bored in my 40s-50s, and the loneliness of thinking I could die alone. Gotta love mid 20s existentialism Would ever be a legal guardian to kids related to your family or friends? Like if something tragically happen.
Kummercell Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 if I ever reach financial success I'll adopt two. otherwise I won't have any
Before Today Posted July 19, 2023 Posted July 19, 2023 Ideally, two. I imagine being an only child might be lonely for them, and having more than two sounds costly... I want the first child to be a male, and the younger one could be of either gender. And yes I'm 100% adopting. I find surrogacy a bit messy, especially for the women's part... I will love the kids in need of a loving home & family, and show an example that a gay couple are capable of raising children just like straight ones are, and that family is more about bond than just blood relations. Hopefully I get a dog or two, we'll be a family of 5/6 lol.
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