I'm so tired of everything, why is this life so hard when you're gay ?

[Losing my ground]

How old are you?

 

Yeah trashy question but I used to feel like you sometimes during my teen/early 20s and now that I'm reading you I'm personally so beyond this type of feelings! so I don't know if I should tell you this will definitely pass when you'll get older, or if I should try another type of reasoning/advice if you're not that young.

 

Anyway life is so much more than a relationship, build your confidence/self esteem, learn how to enjoy things on your own and if you can't (I LOVE being alone so maybe that was easier for me) try looking for group supports in activities you like (sports, music, gamers, readers clubs, study a new discipline/language, etc).

[zasderfght]

On 7/15/2023 at 8:10 AM, MoonGoodandHappy said:

So, all my relationships were a fail. I always got ghosted or violently rejected for no reasons and i'm so tired now. 

I've met a guy and he was so beautiful, he was perfect, and i had so much hope this time, he was so nice and very attractive. All my relationships before him were horrible/a fail, so this time i was like "maybe he's the one".... and today he left me for no reasons (like all my ex boyfriends) and texted me that he "wish me the best" without no explanation. The day before everything was amazing, he called me "baby", gave me so much love.... and now he left me like nothing happened. And this time... it's like too much. I feel like i'm disgusting. Why people have long relationship and i can't even keep a man ? And i was in love with him and this time i can't handle it. It's horrible. I'm so lonely. I feel so lonely. 

Life is so painful. I hate my job, and now i simply hate my life. 

First of all, I want to say, you are clearly not alone and I'm sorry you're going through this. 

 

Bad News: When you're in the thick of a rejection, that's probably when it hurts the most. 

 

Good News: Humans are adaptable, you will get through this, you won't give up on love, but this needs time. 

 

If you don't have an anxious-attachment style and you don't have co-dependent issues, take this time to be selfish. One day, you might have a husband and kids-- I know you don't see that now, but crazier things have happened, and I'm sure there are people a lot less attractive/intelligent/substantive that were able to snag a partner. It's not like only pretty, straight people are able to love. 

 

But yeah, as someone who's in a relationship that's grateful to be in one, it's not like my issues have gone away having one. In fact, when disagreements/conflicts/flights occur, it can make them harder. 

 

If you're able-bodied, have a roof over your head, stable transportation-- basically an established regime, you're golden. Relationships and everything else is just a cherry on the top. You alone are enough. Never forget that-- even when you meet a man. 

Edited July 16, 2023 by zasderfght

[IWantASoda35]

save your tears for the pillow 

 

it’s just how man how programmed. Get used to it and stop acting like a baby, I’m sure you’ll find someone else 

[chiliam]

keep looking. While also invest in yourself, be happy and enjoy single life.

Someday the right guy will come, or not.