Does a trio friendship fade away if two of them fall in love with each other?

[NeverReallyOver]

I'm the third friend

[FreeXone]

It doesn’t slip away but the dynamics can be annoying.

 

I am in this situation. Two of my friends dated and broke up but still be hot and cold with each other and mess around still. One is in another complicated relationship now and the other is single. I personally hate hanging all three of us cause they both always drama together. I always invite one or the other but never both at the same time cause it’s annoying. 
 

yes they are both gay for reference 

Edited June 26, 2023 by FreeXone

[Smarticle]

 the way this happened with my friend trio. He asked her out for prom and she said no and the dynamic was so weird afterwards and after graduation we just went our separate ways

[ugo]

This happened to me too. The dynamics just change and tbh it's better to venture out of it and find other people to hangout.

[LustSpell]

Almost guaranteed to the point where I never date in a friend group because of it. Too many friend groups of mine have fell apart because of it 

[bkglk]

if they break up, probably, but if they are together, I don't think it would be a problem

I have a now-married couple as my close friends for the last 10 years and I don't remember having any issues with them being together

[Peroxide]

I have so much to say about this topic
 

This exact situation happened with me… Me and my best friend fell for each other and our other best friend reacted poorly…

 

Our friendship was rocky but this was a “last straw” kind of deal.

 

We didn’t speak for 3 years but he came back into our lives eventually and now we’re all on fantastic terms… feels like the old days.

 

So in short - yeah, you risk a LOT dating within a friendship group (especially a trio) but if you build a connection with someone it’s sometimes worth pursuing… if all three of you care about each other, you’ll find a way to make it work.

Edited June 26, 2023 by Peroxide

[Before Today]

8 hours ago, NeverReallyOver said:

I'm the third friend

Me except my male friend was engaged and stopped talking to my female friend so I still hang with both but never the three of us together again ever since the fiasco

[DamianSolo]

Yes, and it's an unfortunate thing—especially when it was an initially close-knit friendship. Things are never the same afterwards; it becomes a little bit more complex, problematic and uninviting, for a variety of reasons.

[NeverReallyOver]

 

1 hour ago, DamianSolo said:

Yes, and it's an unfortunate thing—especially when it was an initially close-knit friendship. Things are never the same afterwards; it becomes a little bit more complex, problematic and uninviting, for a variety of reasons.

well  In my case it hurts a little since it was the first time I let go of my social fears and became proactive to make a friendship work. Now they are about to enter their honeymoon phase and that's gonna be... interesting.

 

I guess I will dissappear quietly like I always do

 

Thanks to everyone for the replies 

Edited June 26, 2023 by NeverReallyOver

[DamianSolo]

36 minutes ago, NeverReallyOver said:

 

well  In my case it hurts a little since it was the first time I let go of my social fears and became proactive to make a friendship work. Now they are about to enter their honeymoon phase and that's gonna be... interesting.

 

I guess I will dissappear quietly like I always do

 

Thanks to everyone for the replies 

That's just part of life. You won't have the same friends for forever, though it is lovely when it does happen. Just take what you learned from that friendship, and apply it to your next. No matter what, that experience still helped you grow, especially if you were able to let go of your social fears.