Theshigo Washidu Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Either he's busy, a bad texter or is entertaining someone else. If he's acting different post-date then something is going on. Ask him why he's fallen back from texting and if you're not getting an acceptable answer, move on.
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 3 minutes ago, Badgalbriel said: I'm a super busy adult and I reply ateast at the of the day That's what hurts. I'm just as busy, but I'm also willing to push time any part of my day to reply. But also...what kind of psycho kisses me all night and texts me how great the night was for him, then suddenly act like it was all nothing.
DamianSolo Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 In the beginning stages of talking and dating, I can forgive and overlook a maximum of one day for them to text back—assuming they're back to texting frequently afterwards. Anyone who takes multiple days to text back isn't really interested, or you're one of several people they're talking to. Just move on and find someone better who'd be as into you as you are into them. 1
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 7 minutes ago, usedtobemine said: Whenever this happens, it always reminds me of this scene from Sex and the city. It captures it sooo well, I also especially love the end of this segment. He also extremely loves Sex and the City. So you'd think he'd be very aware to interact later in a better way to let me know that they're not interested......
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 8 minutes ago, St. Francis said: Either he's busy, a bad texter or is entertaining someone else. If he's acting different post-date then something is going on. Ask him why he's fallen back from texting and if you're not getting an acceptable answer, move on. If I can be honest with you, a part of me feels like it's a bit demanding to ask why he's suddenly changed his way of texting haha. If we were closer, maybe!
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 23 minutes ago, Miss Show Business said: One lesson that's been hardest for me to accept as I get older, is that people who want to be in your life will make time for you. And this extends to friends, family, etc. Don't sweat it. It's not personal. This sort of thing will undoubtedly happen every now and then. You'll definitely tell the difference when you're with someone who wants to spend time with you. I promise. It's a night and day difference. Thank you so much!! I needed to read this. A part of me knows this, but it's nice to hear it from someone else, I can't explain it 1
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 Okay, I'll get back with a reply on here if he does reply. Tell me what you think then! thank you to everyone for saying their piece.
Theshigo Washidu Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 7 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said: If I can be honest with you, a part of me feels like it's a bit demanding to ask why he's suddenly changed his way of texting haha. If we were closer, maybe! It might be best to move on then. If he was really feeling you, he would've made time for you.
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 Just now, St. Francis said: It might be best to move on then. If he was really feeling you, he would've made time for you. The part where you have to let go, hurts the most. even though we only had two dates..to invest three months into this, it just really sucks. But it's a reality I have to face
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 18 minutes ago, DamianSolo said: In the beginning stages of talking and dating, I can forgive and overlook a maximum of one day for them to text back—assuming they're back to texting frequently afterwards. Anyone who takes multiple days to text back isn't really interested, or you're one of several people they're talking to. Just move on and find someone better who'd be as into you as you are into them. It sucks when you have so much common with them. Literally the same taste, mindset, etc about everything. like how do I find another partner who'll be exactly the same way as I am? I guess I haven't tried the route where opposites attract, maybe the next one will be
WitnessOblivia Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 I agree with what has already been said. I'm so sorry. I know it hurts a lil bit, but you'll be fine. You deserve someone who makes time for you and who is just as interested in you as you are in them!
AMIT Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 (edited) 6 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said: The part where you have to let go, hurts the most. even though we only had two dates..to invest three months into this, it just really sucks. But it's a reality I have to face I feel you, it really does suck. I hate dating. But you can totally ask him what's changed about his texting habits with you. edit: but be careful because he might give you a ridiculous excuse that you would have to see through. don't ask that just to get any answer, because he probably won't be upfront about it if that's the way he is acting right now. Edited June 17, 2023 by AMIT
skwonderfactory Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 (edited) Just straight up tell him to let you know if you should pursue him or not. If he doesn’t know and/or doesn’t want you in the same way, thank him for his time and energy. If you feel like you would be being too direct to bluntly ask him, remember that you should be able to have open and honest communication from the very beginning. Of course, don’t trauma dump and all that jazz, but you need to be your full self without second-guessing others’ intentions. If you can’t be and are, these are red flags you should be avoiding and you deserve someone better. Only invest in people who are going to do the same for you. It may take a while to find someone who you can proudly call yours, but it will be worth it. I promise. Edited June 17, 2023 by skwonderfactory 1
DamianSolo Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 6 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said: It sucks when you have so much common with them. Literally the same taste, mindset, etc about everything. like how do I find another partner who'll be exactly the same way as I am? I guess I haven't tried the route where opposites attract, maybe the next one will be Oh, there's always someone else better out there. Always. This is just one person out of countless you're talking about. The funny thing is, you'll probably have all of the above you listed and more in the next person you do find. This is something I've encountered and learned over the years; in always thinking I lost what would have been the best person for me, someone better came along right afterwards. And that doesn't mean that you're destined to be with that person for forever, but they may fulfill a role in your life—even if it's to simply give you hope.
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 3 minutes ago, skwonderfactory said: Just straight up tell him to let you know if you should pursue him or not. If he doesn’t know and/or doesn’t want you in the same way, thank him for his time and energy. If you feel like you would be being too direct to bluntly ask him, remember that you should be able to have open and honest communication from the very beginning. Of course, don’t trauma dump and all that jazz, but you need to be your full self without second-guessing others’ intentions. If you can’t be and are, these are red flags you should be avoiding and you deserve someone better. Only invest in people who are going to do the same for you. It may take a while to find someone who you can proudly call yours, but it will be worth it. I promise. Okay I'm following this but in a less blunt way (I think). Aaah I wish I could be like that but I sent: "hey, it's been a while since we texted, I hope everything is good with you. I just wanted to know if this was worth pursuing, I had a great time with you the past few months, I really just want to move on, if not. Take care"
HardBambi Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 If you have to ask the answer is no When someone is interested you know
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, DamianSolo said: Oh, there's always someone else better out there. Always. This is just one person out of countless you're talking about. The funny thing is, you'll probably have all of the above you listed and more in the next person you do find. This is something I've encountered and learned over the years; in always thinking I lost what would have been the best person for me, someone better came along right afterwards. And that doesn't mean that you're destined to be with that person for forever, but they may fulfill a role in your life—even if it's to simply give you hope. This is the sweetest thing I read. It gives me so much hope for my dating life in the future, even though a lot of people are cynical on the other side. I'm a genuine romantic and I hope to have someone to fulfill the spaces that I want them to fill, and also oppositely, for me to fulfill the spaces that were missing for them
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 Anyway, found his socials. He's still tweeting. So you can't text to me during those tweets? Why...?
Tropez Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, kweenofxanax said: Anyway, found his socials. He's still tweeting. So you can't text to me during those tweets? Why...? Now this is getting creepy. Leave him alone. You only had two dates Jesus. 1
DamianSolo Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 5 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said: This is the sweetest thing I read. It gives me so much hope for my dating life in the future, even though a lot of people are cynical on the other side. I'm a genuine romantic and I hope to have someone to fulfill the spaces that I want them to fill, and also oppositely, for me to fulfill the spaces that were missing for them Just in the meantime, while it may sound cliche, focus on becoming the best version of yourself. Anything you're learning, continue to learn; anything you're working on, continue to work on. Don't stay stuck or in a rut over anyone. Still put yourself out there—try to meet people by actively engaging in your interests and hobbies, going to events; you'll have to step out of your comfort zone, a bit. You won't meet anyone just sitting inside all day long, day after day; there are apps, of course, but... you'd just have to wade through a lot of filth and nonsense. 1
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 Just now, Tropez said: Now this is getting creepy. Leave him alone. You only had two dates Jesus. Yeah I thought the same thing. I was just curious and googled what else I could find.
kweenofxanax Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 2 minutes ago, Tropez said: Now this is getting creepy. Leave him alone. You only had two dates Jesus. I didn't mean to be weird. I just wanted to know more about him somewhere, somehow. I was just curious. I don't know if I should have done that, but all I can do now is admit to searching and just go from there.
Karla Cabello Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 9 minutes ago, kweenofxanax said: Anyway, found his socials. He's still tweeting. So you can't text to me during those tweets? Why...? cause hes just not that into you
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