Tropez Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 It’s about time we have this conversation. The gay dating pool is tiny as it is. And it’s even more restricted based on sex position, body type, race, and age. So you can have 1000 gays in your area, but only be compatible with 50. Now guys in open relationships already have a man. They are now double dipping in a puddle. That just feels greedy to me. People can have relationships however they want. I don’t care. But it’s annoying seeing a guy that checks all your boxes but he’s in an open relationship. 4 1
LadyDiana Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 It is what it is. As a top you just have more options
Power love Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 15 minutes ago, Tropez said: So you can have 1000 gays in your area, but only be compatible with 50 Very delusional
Tropez Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 Just now, Power love said: Very delusional My bad. Should’ve been 10.
GraceRandolph Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, Power love said: Very delusional Should be 2
IBeMe Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 (edited) i see what you are saying but I actually think this is the future for ALL relationships and gays are just ahead of the game as per usual. Straights cheat A LOT because they fight hard for monogomy but then cannot control their urges and then go out and cheat. whereas in the gay world its either you are in a committed yet open relationship or you just bounce from one D to another or from one relationship to another in quick succession. In some ways the gays who are in open relationships have cracked the code by being in a long term relationship while still fulfilling that basic animal instinct to F tons of ppl lol. I kinda hate it because I sincerely prefer and believe in monogamy and stuff but Im starting to think it just wont be possible in a gay dynamic and that I have to condition myself to be ok with the idea of an open relationship I guess.. :( Edited June 17, 2023 by IBeMe 1 1
Alldeezy Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Not just with the LGBT area, like open relationships have kinda ruined it for everyone, its like "oo a way to cheat without getting in trouble" like hell nawh. 3 1
Danny789 Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 So you’re mad that people are taken and you're single?
Tropez Posted June 17, 2023 Author Posted June 17, 2023 12 minutes ago, Danny789 said: So you’re mad that people are taken and you're single? Um no. That’s exactly not even what I’m talking about.
Before Today Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Most gays just want sex and not many want relationships, so I can see your point. Getting laid is easy, but finding a date is hard. 1
Zylo Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 3 minutes ago, Before Today said: Most gays just want sex and not many want relationships, so I can see your point. Getting laid is easy, but finding a date is hard. I somehow forgot this before trying to date again, it’s brutal out here. It’s either this or the lovesick ones ready to date in one day. Atp I’m just going to be a thot like the rest of you. OP is right and he should say it
fememeist Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 45 minutes ago, IBeMe said: I kinda hate it because I sincerely prefer and believe in monogamy and stuff but Im starting to think it just wont be possible in a gay dynamic and that I have to condition myself to be ok with the idea of an open relationship I guess.. :( This is very sad if you conform to dating standards don’t do that stick to your beliefs! You will find love and you deserve that monogamous relationship everyone in life is entitled to. 3
suneclipse121 Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 46 minutes ago, IBeMe said: i see what you are saying but I actually think this is the future for ALL relationships and gays are just ahead of the game as per usual. Straights cheat A LOT because they fight hard for monogomy but then cannot control their urges and then go out and cheat. whereas in the gay world its either you are in a committed yet open relationship or you just bounce from one D to another or from one relationship to another in quick succession. In some ways the gays who are in open relationships have cracked the code by being in a long term relationship while still fulfilling that basic animal instinct to F tons of ppl lol. I kinda hate it because I sincerely prefer and believe in monogamy and stuff but Im starting to think it just wont be possible in a gay dynamic and that I have to condition myself to be ok with the idea of an open relationship I guess.. :( Nah I would rather be alone. An open relationship will never be an option for me. I’m just wired differently and it goes against everything that I am.
IBeMe Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, fememeist said: This is very sad if you conform to dating standards don’t do that stick to your beliefs! You will find love and you deserve that monogamous relationship everyone in life is entitled to. I wish there was a heart reaction to your comment because it was so sweet :( ....im just losing hope tbh. Like things can be LITERALLY perfect and then out of NOWHERE someone cheats. Its so scary. It scares me that someone will be in an relationship for YEARS and then will ruin everything by cheating and all of that story just comes to a crashing end. Years wasted...it is so frightening to me 1 minute ago, suneclipse121 said: Nah I would rather be alone. An open relationship will never be an option for me. I’m just wired differently and it goes against everything that I am. thats exactly how I feel BUT I am starting to think thats just not how the world works...I dont think gays can ever be fully monogamous. Its so rare that the odds of finding a life partner with that expectation is like almost zero now... :(
Before Today Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 3 minutes ago, Zylo said: I somehow forgot this before trying to date again, it’s brutal out here. It’s either this or the lovesick ones ready to date in one day. Atp I’m just going to be a thot like the rest of you. OP is right and he should say it I'm guilty here too though because even though I have a boyfriend, I'm open to open relationships and even offered him several times
Before Today Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, IBeMe said: I wish there was a heart reaction to your comment because it was so sweet :( ....im just losing hope tbh. Like things can be LITERALLY perfect and then out of NOWHERE someone cheats. Its so scary. It scares me that someone will be in an relationship for YEARS and then will ruin everything by cheating and all of that story just comes to a crashing end. Years wasted...it is so frightening to me thats exactly how I feel BUT I am starting to think thats just not how the world works...I dont think gays can ever be fully monogamous. Its so rare that the odds of finding a life partner with that expectation is like almost zero now... :( Idk but the idea of open relationships is liberating to me. It saves me from heartbreaks/the drama of cheating. Like I love my home, but sometimes I'm bored of being home and want a temporary vacation without selling my house...
TheCheshireCat Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Open relationships are like gay pyramid schemes, it's good when you get in early but it's hell when you are the third and are totally disposable. 1 1
suneclipse121 Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, IBeMe said: thats exactly how I feel BUT I am starting to think thats just not how the world works...I dont think gays can ever be fully monogamous. Its so rare that the odds of finding a life partner with that expectation is like almost zero now... :( Oh trust me I’ve thought about this so many times but all we can do is hope that we get lucky and find someone that wants the same things. It’s an incredibly difficult thing to find but it’s not impossible. It does exist. Monogamy is not bulletproof by any means and anyone can mess up but I’m willing to take that risk. An open relationship would be a disaster for my mental health. Like its literally not a possibility in this life for me
fememeist Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 1 minute ago, suneclipse121 said: An open relationship would be a disaster for my mental health. Like its literally not a possibility in this life for me Literally me, and maybe this is from generational trauma experience, but I would absolutely go off on my partner if there was any dishonesty with his loyalty to me as his significant other. There’s a popular saying online used a lot by cringe popular quote accounts, but the saying is,”I don’t compete, I complete”, and that kind of exemplifies my relationship principals.
JayG Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Monogamy is the only way for me. Thats why I've only ever had one relationship. And it was a long one. After that, nah. Most people don't want it. And I'm not in the majority. So... I'm focusing on my health, dreams, talents and connecting with people over the things I love (like music etc). I've found it easier to make really deep connections with friends and people I've met who have similar interests/in my areas of work. These relationships are FAR more fulfilling. 3
JayG Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 2 minutes ago, fememeist said: Literally me, and maybe this is from generational trauma experience, but I would absolutely go off on my partner if there was any dishonesty with his loyalty to me as his significant other. There’s a popular saying online used a lot by cringe popular quote accounts, but the saying is,”I don’t compete, I complete”, and that kind of exemplifies my relationship principals. Yeah... I always wanted ONE person, and dedicate my time, energy, life and love to ONE person. But are there others who want the same? Probably not, and I'm ok with it. I have so much I want to do in life that, I won't die if I never find the one person I love deeply. But I'd rather die single that turn into a thot who goes from person to person just to "find" someone. I don't even know where these gays find the time, money and energy to be jumping from one person to the next. And lets be real - its dangerous. You're trusting all these strangers, and sleeping with them?! Nahhhhhhh. A bit too risky.
Jormungand Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Dating when you're LGBTQIA+ in general is really difficult. I especially feel for my brethrens who are black and embrace their feminine energy because it's almost impossible for them to find healthy intimate relationships. I'm a hopeless romantic and open relationships will never work for me, even after trying to entertain one a couple years back. I don't think you can necessarily point to open relationships as being the reason why the dating pool is the way it is. I think there are several factors at play and honestly some people just want to be single so they can avoid the potential drama that comes with a relationship. My last ex was so toxic that I've put off dating for a while, but you will not find me in these streets bussing it wide open for anyone.
Danny789 Posted June 17, 2023 Posted June 17, 2023 Ya’ll don’t know the difference between being in a open relationship and polyamory
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