discussion Is it required to come out of the closet?

[ChrisTheLoner]

It should never be a requirement, it’s nobody elses business but your own imo.

 

I myself am 24 and still in the closet (or DL if you will hihi) and don’t feel like coming out anytime soon. Mainly because I don’t feel ready but also because I know of some people who would be upset and I’m just not ready to face that. That’s why you should never feel forced to do it, only do it when you feel ready. Also anyone who shames or makes fun of someone for not coming out is just a POS imo 

[Bussea]

no. it’s no one’s business 

[MALAMENTE]

Not publicly to satisfy everyone’s needs and put an end to the gossiping but if they want to live their life they will end up having to disclose that to people in order to date, because nobody is a mind reader lmao

[Pop Life]

Nothing is "required," but it does eventually become necessary if you wish to live an integrated life. 

[deal dough]

no. If ppl want to know let them know naturally 

[LOTF]

Technically, no. It is not a requirement.

But if you haven't come out because you have not accepted yourself or because you don't wanna be associated with the LGBTQIA+ community, that is some internalized homophobia you need to work on and get fixed. Outside of that, I don't think you owe anybody an announcement or something like that.

[Raphy23]

I come out to the closest friends/family/coworkers that's it. Those that deserve to know. I don't think I will ever be out on instagram unless I completely purge my account and delete half the people. 

Edited June 15, 2023 by Raphy23

[HANZ94]

You don’t have to come out to everyone cause it’s exhausting but you should do it with the people that really matters to you like family or close friends 

thats what I did and felt good but it’s not like I’m telling every single person that knows me that I like dick 

[RunUpDoneUp]

In a homophobic society? Yes. Because bravery is literally the only thing we have to combat homophobes.

 

If we're hiding, who's going to fight for us better than us?

 

If we're hiding, why aren't they wrong that being gay is shameful?

 

Pride requires bravery.

 

This doesn't mean you risk homelessness or death. It's not a do or die thing, it's a personal acknowledgement of your sense of self respect and dignity; "I'm here and I matter."

 

Coming out is something you do for you, the community only benefits because you're a part of it. A bunch of "I matter"s means something politically, as a voice for a group. You don't want to be alone when faced with a threat to existence.

[DamianSolo]

No, absolutely not. And I really despise it whenever people feel like I need to be out of the closet. If anyone spends enough time around me, they'll begin to suspect, I'm sure—fair enough—but it is not in their place to make it a point to try and shove me out of the closet. I've always been a naturally private person and I'm really selective about what I reveal of myself to certain people, because I really just never feel like dealing with the BS. I don't respect people who don't respect or honor that. And it's not even that I'm not out of the closet. The door is open, it's just a long walk-in closet and I'm just in the shadowy corner of it.

 

 

[Galaxy]

Of course not

[Gyal]

I genuinely couldn't think of anything more embarrassing than making a facebook post telling everyone I'm gay 

 

If people ask I have no problem, but if it's a straggot I always question them if they're asking because they want to take me out or ask about what they like doing in the bedroom and they quickly change subject 

Edited July 19, 2023 by Gyal

[imabadkid]

omg stop bumping old posts. so annoying.

[Before Today]

No only you can decide whether to or not.

[Goaty]

On 6/14/2023 at 8:51 PM, Kimbra said:

What in the progressive Don’t Ask Don’t Tell are these replies? 
 

In the words of Harvey Milk - Every gay person must come out.

Yeah. It’s an essential component of living an authentic life. 

[Quiqui4eva]

No, but the world would highkey be a better place if everyone was open and honest about it