discussion Is it required to come out of the closet?

[Breathe On Moi]

here’s to my curiosity and asking a question I just know ATRL may be messy about, but let’s see - 

 

Is it required to come out of the closet and make your sexuality known? it’s such a common thing these days to see the gays say “omg I feel so bad for her/him! It reminds me of me at their age! I wanna help them come out!” simply from assumptions that stem from the individual being single, having certain mannerisms, not discussing their sex life, getting references, etc. and THEN assuming the person is miserable because they haven’t come out…….why is that? I see this very prominently in the professional/career world tbh, the amount of gossiping on someone’s life and this form of basically bullying the person (unbeknownst to them) in that way is insane . using the guise that it’s just a way to be a support system/welcome them to community is also insane, no? 
 

so I beg the question- is it required for human beings to make their sexuality known? what’s your take on this? 

Edited June 15, 2023 by Breathe On Moi

[vuelve88]

I think so. There’s only so much room, unless you have a walk-in. 

[Breathe On Moi]

1 minute ago, vuelve88 said:

I think so. There’s only so much room, unless you have a walk-in. 

[KBax]

No, someone's sexuality is no one else's business. If that person wants to make it known then all for them. People should respect others privacy. Also, people should not assume someone's gay because of their mannerisms, or how they talk or dress. Because that doesn't always mean someone's gay. 

[Dula Peep]

Is this another Shawn thread? 

[Cheers]

Real talk: there’s no definitive guidebook to life. It’s not a requirement.

 

I would prefer ppl be honest with themselves tho

[x æ a-xii]

You're not obligated to do anything really... but I guess there will come a time when you'll have to do it for your own mental health... and it sucks when you're in the closet and people are nasty or nosy about it... but all of that kinda stopped when I came out and my life's been wayy better because of it. 

But yeah my case cannot be applied to someone else's life, if you feel and know you'll be in danger or something like that if you come out, don't do it.

[Kh-Loud]

Unless you look and act like Frankie Grande, we don’t care, and you shouldn’t either. Do whatever the **** you want 

[James_Dean]

Gay is okay, but it's not a requirement to disclose

[lillavend3r]

I didn't like everyone just knows 

[AMIT]

keep it inside your pants like there are children in here

 

[byzantium]

It’s your life. Make it what you want. 

[Tropez]

Most people will find out eventually. Like you’ll be over 35, never had a girlfriend, never talk about girls, have a certain flamboyance to your voice, etc. Most people will put two and two together. 

[Element]

Nope. Honestly it should be normalized for a gay to just say "oh hey mom and dad, i'm bringing over my boyfriend for dinner on Friday" without warning, and that would be the end of the coming out.

[EmailMySwift]

You're not required to do anything you don't want to. 

[Taylena]

It should be required by law but only for famous celebrities, especially female singers from Reading, Pennsylvania. 

[Twilish]

Don’t ask don’t tell 

 

[imabadkid]

No… it’s all up to the individual and what they feel comfortable sharing  but ultimately who  someone is having sex with really isn’t anyone’s business.
 

Society just has a weird twisted obsession with men’s sexuality so it’s become normalized to probe and question but in reality it’s not anyone’s business.

 

  

Edited June 15, 2023 by imabadkid

[Kimbra]

What in the progressive Don’t Ask Don’t Tell are these replies? 
 

In the words of Harvey Milk - Every gay person must come out.

[sweetblindness]

Absolutely not. A person's sexuality is their business and their business only and they should live their life however they want to. There is nothing more infuriating to me than people speculating on others' sexuality.

[Orsay]

well not necessarily no

 

but also i think most people want to and should be able to openly date the person they love

[CBC]

no but atrl is mostly glass closets anyway 

[Kiss It Better]

not at all, and you're not required to put a label either, you can just like everyone you like and do what you want

[Maxxie]

1 hour ago, Element said:

Nope. Honestly it should be normalized for a gay to just say "oh hey mom and dad, i'm bringing over my boyfriend for dinner on Friday" without warning, and that would be the end of the coming out.

This. This is how it happened with me and all was fine

[Mr. Mendes]

No there isn't and my controversial hot take is that being queer will never, ever be normalized if we continue to make coming out be seen as one. I get for some people it's empowering to say it, and I'm not saying they shouldn't. But I am saying I think it's better for the sake of progress for the main thing to just be...living your life openly and not hiding but also not feeling like you must sit everyone down and explain it. Just be. Exist. That's how heterosexual people are we're really no different.