sweetblindness Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 I really don't understand the point of this thread. There is absolutely no reason to say anything or get involved whatsoever based on mere assumptions. Just leave them alone and let him be.
Bloodflowers. Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 Ask him his favorite Charli XCX and Tove Lo songs, then you'll know for sure
Bingo Posted June 13, 2023 Author Posted June 13, 2023 13 minutes ago, Badger said: But do you have actual tea no receipts just vibes I fear 12 minutes ago, EtherealCat said: all youve got is mannerisms and you are thinking of ruining your sisters relationship and/or your relationship with your sister? you're right that's the last thing I want to do, that's why I'm not acting on it. 11 minutes ago, LoveInStereo said: I’m a millennial & I’m often floored by how stereotypically gay gen Z acts. But you shouldn’t project your experience onto him, you have similarities, that’s great, doesn’t mean you’re the same person. I get the confusion but if he says he’s straight, he’s straight, all that matters if if he’s treating your sister right. Wait, I think you're really onto something here! Thank you for the advice. 9 minutes ago, LVP said: Ask him if he is on ATRL and you will know 9 minutes ago, Kayseri Mantisi said: You at the meeting: 8 minutes ago, shinyshimmery said: Ehmmmm, speaking from personal experience... my bro in law is not exactly straight. I told my sister when I found out in 2019... she is still with him. If I had a do-over, I wouldn't have said anything bc now the dynamic is awkward. If you tell your sister, she will probably have a talk with him, and guess who she's gonna bring up in the conversation? you, bc you were the one to unofficially initiate the conversation. oh wow thank you so much for sharing your experience, I really appreciate that! 7 minutes ago, JoeAg said: my sister's husband is straight as an arrow and is just as, if not more, effeminate than my two queer brothers and I (bisexual but pretty androgynous) mannerisms... really don't tell as much as you think they might! he also might be bi. he also might just not have a label! what matters is that he's chill and good with your sis I guess at the end of the day that really is all that matters, thank you! 7 minutes ago, DemDam92 said: He could be attracted sexually to men and still be her boyfriend or life partner. Not my tea but you know, these things can happen. yeah, that's a possibility.
Bingo Posted June 13, 2023 Author Posted June 13, 2023 5 minutes ago, sweetblindness said: I really don't understand the point of this thread. There is absolutely no reason to say anything or get involved whatsoever based on mere assumptions. Just leave them alone and let him be. Not really trying to make a point sis, just wanted to get some perspective... Thank you for the advice, I think I agree with that! 4 minutes ago, Bloodflowers. said: Ask him his favorite Charli XCX and Tove Lo songs, then you'll know for sure 3 minutes ago, TaggedGalaxy said: **** him and find out 2 minutes ago, deal dough said: find his music playlist
illia Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 Not to be rude but this is none of your business As long as they're happy together why even worry
Bingo Posted June 13, 2023 Author Posted June 13, 2023 5 minutes ago, Mikeymoonshine said: How old is this person? 20.
pxxxtrick Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 Whisper ”padam” in his ear and see how he reacts. 1 4
Specter Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 I'm literally praying and yelling one day y'all discover the existence of feminine hetero men 1
imabadkid Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 you’re in a tough spot… there are A LOT (way more than people even realize because it’s v underground and covert) of married men on cruising apps hooking up with other men and no girlfriend or wife deserves that all because men are perpetually horny and don’t want to be honest with their partner but at the same time I’d probably just stay quiet because it could look like you’re prematurely accusing him of something he hasn’t done or accusing him of being something he isn’t. 1
Mikeymoonshine Posted June 13, 2023 Posted June 13, 2023 3 hours ago, Bingo said: 20. Then he's an adult, if he's closeted he probably knows and that's his responsibility. I'd stay out of it. 1
zasderfght Posted June 15, 2023 Posted June 15, 2023 On 6/13/2023 at 8:12 AM, ninasayers said: You said it best yourself: it's not right to label someone based on a bunch of dated stereotypes. There's no need to get involved, it's her relationship and they'll figure things out by themselves if there's anything to figure out. This! There's men I know who act flamboyant yet they have zero interest in men physically and mentally. Then there's men who act masculine and are horn dogs on Grindr.
CottageHore Posted June 15, 2023 Posted June 15, 2023 Absolutely do not say anything. You know nothing. If you found out he’s cheating on her with a guy, duh- say something. Even if you found out he previously dated men, that’s not your business to tell. All of this is pure speculation and as you said- it’s based solely on stereotypes and that’s all. If you’re ever given a legitimate reason to believe he’s gay, you could maybe casually bring it up without judgement but even that is risky. It’s her relationship, her life, mind your business, babe. You don’t wanna be the reason something that makes your sister happy gets destroyed. It’s her relationship, she’ll have to deal with it on her own.
Cheers Posted June 15, 2023 Posted June 15, 2023 On 6/13/2023 at 11:31 AM, Bingo said: ! I saw myself in him Maybe u just want to top him
KBax Posted June 15, 2023 Posted June 15, 2023 I would just stay out of it. Someone's sexuality is no one else's business. Mannerisms don't mean anything, regardless if you see a lot of himself in how you are, does not mean he is gay. I would just appreciate the fact that they are happy and he treats her well. Don't screw up your relationship with your sister over assumptions, it's not worth it.
RunUpDoneUp Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 Ask him to run a race, if he's faster than you, he's one of the gurls.
Maroonx Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 On 6/13/2023 at 5:12 PM, ninasayers said: You said it best yourself: it's not right to label someone based on a bunch of dated stereotypes. There's no need to get involved, it's her relationship and they'll figure things out by themselves if there's anything to figure out. Yup, I was going to quote this too. It's also good to remember that sexuality is super fluid these days, and/or maybe he is just metrosexual... A friend of mine dated a straight guy that everyone thought was gay. Whatever his case is, it's better not to meddle in their relationship.
P!nk Posted June 16, 2023 Posted June 16, 2023 On 6/13/2023 at 4:16 PM, samsclubPRESENTSavam said: nnnn in true atrl style I thought this was going to end up with op saying they've already hooked up with them. I was awaiting that moment whilst reading the OP as well. I’m pleasantly surprised it didn’t go that way. 1
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