discussion I'm in a very embarrassing situation with a guy who is in love with me

[Life Savers]

Just be honest. It'll get worse if you keep giving him hope. 

[Life Savers]

2 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

... I told him that i was not ready at all for a relationship a second time and that i was not feeling well at all, that i was depressed (which is not totally false) and that i need to be alone....but i didnt told him that i dont find him attractive because i don't want to hurt him. He told me that he understand me and accept it. I proposed him frienship because he is a very nice guy soooo sweet.... And he accepted it and told me "i will help you to get better"... So i guess he understood that i don't want a love relationship and just a friendship ..

No, he didn't . He thinks he'll get a chance when you feel better, which he won't because you're not attracted to him. 

Edited May 29, 2023 by Life Savers

[Gorjesspazze9]

Uh yeah I would set boundaries and let him no clearly what’s up. In my early 20’s I had a hard crush on a girl, and we became besties. And the more we hung out I was falling in love, but she wanted to only be friends. It sucked, but I had to respect her and not be a weirdo. We set boundaries and respect each since, even tho she knew how much I loved her. Several years later and we are still besties, she is engaged now and I’m happy for her. Having open discussions about feelings is important. I mean I can’t really tell you or them how to behave but the most mature thing to do is be honest with each other before things get weird 

[Attitude]

 

[Alldeezy]

I've been in this situation luckily was with a guy online but he is so in love with me and kept telling him I rather date someone close by. But he is still trying daily to win me back 

 

 

 

Even had guys I've been on one tinder date with and they are still trying to get my attention  after 3 years using those anonymous sites to say they like me when really I just had no attraction. It's kinda hard but you have to say your not interested or else they are just gonna keep trying. Only way I got them off my back is when I get in a relationship.

[Cyanide]

Both dummies

 

 

is he foreign? Guys who don’t fluently speak English say stuff like that, if that’s the case I’d be less creeped out cuz he’s probably just repeating what he thinks he should say