discussion I'm in a very embarrassing situation with a guy who is in love with me

[WEEKND]

Yeah you need to tell him the truth. The whole truth. 
 

he might not understand now but it’s for his own good. U both deserve to be with someone who want you as much and you want them. 
 

don’t make it ambiguous. The longer u let it go on the harder it will become. 

[BloodLuster]

why were you kissing and hugging him if you're not attracted to him in the first place

 

 

 

[The Next Day]

"I don't have feelings for you. Pursuing this relationship any further would hurt both of us. I ask you to respect my decision and wish you all the best."

 

You owe him the truth. If he reacts negatively to that, you can block him without guilt.

[Power love]

1 hour ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

The problem is that we saw each others only 2 day in 1 month but he is already in love with me and send me text like "i love you baby" and

Does he know where you live 

 

 

 

[Power love]

21 minutes ago, The Next Day said:

I enjoyed hanging out with you but Pursuing this relationship any further would hurt both of us. It’s best we go separate ways. I ask you to respect my decision and wish you all the best." 

 

 

 

[My Tears Ricochet]

I've been in this situation just 2weeks ago

 

I didn't have the guts to tell him, that he's unattractive. So I told him, I felt like I'm too immature when I'm with him and practically made it seem like it's all my fault, so that I won't hurt his feelings.

Even then he made a mess out of it and I had to find so many lies to get away from him.

I still see his insta stories and it's always about me.. Dragging his toxic ex, Olivia Rodrigo songs etc etc💀

 

[Mrguilbeaux]

1 hour ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

 

 

Thank you.  Yeah... i think i will block him... but i'm scared because he know where i work (i told him at the first date i'm dumb af) and i'm like he is so bizarre to be like that... i'm scared he becomes angry and try to find me...

Then don’t block but politely end of mutual terms. Its harder sure but if you’re honest it’ll give him more time/information to process everything. And that way you don’t have to worry about him knowing where you work or anything

[pavi]

You can tell him you don't see it working out in a clear way without having to say you're not attracted to him. You don't owe him a full explanation, but I feel like you always owe someone some kind of clear answer when they clearly want something and seem invested themselves.

 

Just say you've been questioning it and having doubts, but came to the conclusion he's not the one for you and you wish him the best. If he doesn't accept that, than you can always choose to ghost/block, but letting him know this way is both the easy and kind way, lol

[MoonGoodandHappy]

12 minutes ago, Power love said:

Does he know where you live 

 

 

 

he only know where i work

[reymiu]

31 minutes ago, The Next Day said:

"I don't have feelings for you. Pursuing this relationship any further would hurt both of us. I ask you to respect my decision and wish you all the best."

 

You owe him the truth. If he reacts negatively to that, you can block him without guilt.

I think this is a really good message. It shows that you both care about each other's being but at the same time made clear that this's not going to work.

[Maneater]

This happened to me and he started to get more and more crazy, RUN!

[MoonGoodandHappy]

8 minutes ago, Maneater said:

This happened to me and he started to get more and more crazy, RUN!

Ok...

[Rev8]

7 minutes ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

Ok...

Yea, cuz everyone is the same..

 

If u block him, shame on u really lol

Since u did say that he is sweet and u don't mean him no harm

 

Just own up to your mistake and tell him the truth.

Only ******* ghost or lead on people. Leading on people is shitty, don't do it.

 

[MonsterJohn]

both of you are a MESS with emotion intelligent.

 

Please just be honest about your feeling. But don't meet him alone when you decide to tell him, I'm just saying

[Bloodflowers.]

Just say to him honestly that you don't see a future and this relationship working out. Don't offer friendship unless he does (depending on how well he takes the news) in which case you communicate with him every few days then every few weeks until it gets cold and he moves on

[thatsmydemi]

2 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

 

 

Thank you.  Yeah... i think i will block him... but i'm scared because he know where i work (i told him at the first date i'm dumb af) and i'm like he is so bizarre to be like that... i'm scared he becomes angry and try to find me...

There's no need to block him. This could make things worse if he were that obsessed with you  

 

Just be clear and firm but also as nice as possible. Tell him what you truly feel. If not, tell him you need space and you won't talk to him for a while. He should will understand. 

Edited May 29, 2023 by thatsmydemi

[Johnny Jacobs]

Umm i understand your pov. 

 

However.. Youre right. You shouldn't move forward with him anymore. Thats leadung him on and it's kinda cruel. 

 

Im not saying you meant for it to happen but you should end it asap. He deserves better and so do you. 

Especially if he's in deep like you think. 

[skwonderfactory]

You need to be honest and let him know there is zero physical attraction so a relationship would never work. Make sure for the future, you only invest yourself into someone you can realistically be with and not just an idea. You can’t just fall in love with your heart; the physically chemistry needs to be there as well as emotional and mental.

 

Also, he’s giving off major red flags. No one should be so emotionally attached and saying they love you after only seeing each other twice in-person.

[Miracle]

Be honest. A 'I'm sorry but after meeting I think I'm not that attracted to you" is better than ghosting. Personally I like honesty. If theres no honesty and you keep feeding his fantasy you will become the freak instead of him. He probably was also in need of feeling desired and LOVE and not well mentally so he fell in love with an idealized version of you. 

 

And I'm sorry but blocking him without an explanation is a choice, but its very emotionally immature one and would hurt him more than the truth. So don't listen to the heartless users in here lol be kind, you led him on, not to the point of saying I love you, but just like you were in desperate need of desire and kissing and intimacy etc he might be desperately craving love

Edited May 29, 2023 by Miracle

[Miracle]

55 minutes ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

Ok...

No. Man up and be emotionally responsable. You said he's sweet. And also if hes crazy he will be crazy both if you block him or if you tell him the truth, but if, as expected, he's just a person that feels attached easily but totally normal, you will hurt him way less than with ghosting x

 

[MoonGoodandHappy]

11 minutes ago, Miracle said:

No. Man up and be emotionally responsable. You said he's sweet. And also if hes crazy he will be crazy both if you block him or if you tell him the truth, but if, as expected, he's just a person that feels attached easily but totally normal, you will hurt him way less than with ghosting x

 

... I told him that i was not ready at all for a relationship a second time and that i was not feeling well at all, that i was depressed (which is not totally false) and that i need to be alone....but i didnt told him that i dont find him attractive because i don't want to hurt him. He told me that he understand me and accept it. I proposed him frienship because he is a very nice guy soooo sweet.... And he accepted it and told me "i will help you to get better"... So i guess he understood that i don't want a love relationship and just a friendship ..

Edited May 29, 2023 by MoonGoodandHappy

[welham]

25 minutes ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

... I told him that i was not ready at all for a relationship a second time and that i was not feeling well at all, that i was depressed (which is not totally false) and that i need to be alone....but i didnt told him that i dont find him attractive because i don't want to hurt him. He told me that he understand me and accept it. I proposed him frienship because he is a very nice guy soooo sweet.... And he accepted it and told me "i will help you to get better"... So i guess he understood that i don't want a love relationship and just a friendship ..

Or he understood it as "you need time, so I will wait by your side until that time comes when you're reading for a relationship with me." Just let it out, and relieve yourself of this headache

[Dolce Vita]

i really don’t buy that he’s “in love” with you so quickly. he sounds like one of those lonely guys that’s starved of intimacy and latches onto anyone that goes there with him. if you have the opportunity to end things on potentially good/ok terms, why not be honest and tell him the truth? that way you don’t feel guilty and he can hopefully move on quickly before he gets even more attached to you 

[AMIT]

2 hours ago, Miracle said:

Be honest. A 'I'm sorry but after meeting I think I'm not that attracted to you" is better than ghosting. Personally I like honesty. If theres no honesty and you keep feeding his fantasy you will become the freak instead of him. He probably was also in need of feeling desired and LOVE and not well mentally so he fell in love with an idealized version of you. 

 

And I'm sorry but blocking him without an explanation is a choice, but its very emotionally immature one and would hurt him more than the truth. So don't listen to the heartless users in here lol be kind, you led him on, not to the point of saying I love you, but just like you were in desperate need of desire and kissing and intimacy etc he might be desperately craving love

love this post 

 

I have to say it can be SO hard to be mature though. Turning anyone down is never a good feeling, and sometimes I can be a bit cold when I do it and it sucks too. 

[AMIT]

2 hours ago, MoonGoodandHappy said:

... I told him that i was not ready at all for a relationship a second time and that i was not feeling well at all, that i was depressed (which is not totally false) and that i need to be alone....but i didnt told him that i dont find him attractive because i don't want to hurt him. He told me that he understand me and accept it. I proposed him frienship because he is a very nice guy soooo sweet.... And he accepted it and told me "i will help you to get better"... So i guess he understood that i don't want a love relationship and just a friendship ..

 GIRL