discussion Is it wrong to not be attracted to feminine guys?

[CristianGarcia]

No I’ve been turned down for being “too” masculine. Lol and I like feminine guys but not too feminine.. It varies from guy to guy 

[ThisNihilist]

No. I'm attracted to the opposite of me haha. The gag with me is I look femme but I'm pretty masculine so I think people reject me based on that...or maybe I hope that's why they're rejecting lol

[Sabrina Carpenter]

well, those femmes only want to date masc guys 

 

you can’t really complain if you’re part of the problem 

[simplywohoo]

No, you like what you like but no need to rub it in their faces or mentioning it at all all the time

[paulyyyozd]

You can like who you want but it’s rather dumb and immature to assume someone is either just masculine or feminine. People have layers. A 100% masc guy is a fantasy.

[Whosthatboy93]

No, it's not. Today's society can be very dramatic with whatever preference you have, masc or fem , you decide, be happy and don't pay attention to others (especially online) and be kind, not insulting mascs or fems.

[dussel_06]

No, of course not. I’m masc and like only masc guys or at least straight acting . 
 

It’s okay to have preferences and putting masc4masc in your grindr profiles saves a lot of time and awkward conversations.

[Mikeymoonshine]

No but idk people can be really shitty to feminine gay guys sometimes and also I used to feel like that but I've seen the light since. Femme guys can be incredibly hot. 

 

I've had friends that have been on whole dates with men only to be rejected for being "too camp" and idk that just seems ridiculous to me. I don't care if someone is camp or not. 

Edited May 25, 2023 by Mikeymoonshine

[Into The Void]

Just date who u want 

[Beyonnaise]

It ultimately doesn't matter. Just be attracted to who you're attracted to. As long as you're not being a d*ck to people you aren't into, there is nothing wrong with it.

 

I find it very.... strange that increasingly people online are quite obsessed with moralizing attraction. Obviously there are boundaries any non-predator understands especially regarding age, but among adults the moral policing is getting really weird. It sounds cliche but there are people out there that are attracted to every type of person, that's what makes things interesting.

Edited May 25, 2023 by Beyonnaise

[ICLDXU4HS]

The more interesting question is why in 2023 as an effeminate gay you need to be a femboy or crossdresser. If you don’t wear makeup and lingerie and have don’t have a completely smooth body, it’s over. Men who want fem guys won’t want you because you don’t look fem enough and men who want masc guys won’t want you because you don’t express masc enough. 

[Aethereal]

If you're masculine yourself why do you attract so many feminine gays in terms of friendship?

[cockatoo]

This question is interesting to me because different people have different ideas of what it means to be feminine or masculine. I consider myself feminine for example, since I have a gay voice and I feel like you can tell I'm gay when you meet me. But some people only think guys are "feminine" if they have strong outward signifiers of femininity like wearing makeup, "gay" clothes, painting their nails etc. On the flip side I think when a lot of people say masculine, they just mean a guy who has a deep voice and doesn't speak much. It all feels a bit reductive.

 

In my experience, most guys fall somewhere in the middle of these two classifications.

 

So to answer your question, I think it depends. If your idea of feminine is Frankie Grande and nothing less then yeah fair enough. That's definitely a specific type of person and I could understand if they'd rub you the wrong way. If your idea of feminine is someone who's a little bit camp but otherwise pretty non-descript, maybe ask yourself why?

 

At the end of the day we're attracted to who we're attracted to but we're a product of our upbringing and environment. I used to only be attracted to what I perceived to be masculine guys too but after a while I realised my aversion to feminine guys was more a projection of my own insecurities than anything wrong with them (i.e. I saw myself and my own behaviours in them and I didn't like it because I wasn't comfortable with my sexuality).

[Karla Cabello]

everyone has masculine and feminine characteristics about them

[BrokenMachine]

Yes it is, give me a chance, I promise I'm better than most of those 'masc' guys out there 

[Yakult]

I feel like most guys have a combination of what society considers masculine & feminine energy. I like that.

 

Guys who have masc4masc in their profiles are actually missing out on a lot of masculine guys. If you’re masc you shouldn’t have to advertise it. It reeks of insecurity and doesn’t exactly result in exciting conversation.

Edited May 25, 2023 by Yakult

[harwee]

5 hours ago, MotoPapi said:

so we can enjoy a chill dinner at a restaurant without attracting too much attention.

 

 

 

[Jotham]

Lol @ the people here calling themselves masculine you're on a forum about pop girls

[WEEKND]

No it’s not. 
 

it’s just that fem guys have feelings too and it’s always something negative about them online and they are often used as the butt of the joke in movies. That perpetuates stereotypes. 
 

My opinion is if u prefer masculinity fine but does that really have to be broadcasted. Whenever it’s said out loud there is inevitably someone in the room who feels like they are not wanted and that takes away from the inclusivity this community is supposed to be about 

 

I enjoy a masc guy but I also find a plethora of things that are attractive on fem guys 

 

 

usually I just don’t mention stuff like that online it’s unnecessary and can be offensive when not said with tact. 

[John Slayne]

here goes this thread again with the same tired and stale takes 

 

i really wish the gays would stop being so judgmental and obsessed with labels and just start seeing each other as people instead of 'masc/femme' or 'top/bottom'. mother nature made you gay to free from these oppressive hetero categories, stop putting yourself in prison

 

also the truly masc gays i know usually don't care and like who they like. it's always the insecure gays who *want* to be masc who have to pile on femme gays to make themselves feel better and 'more normal' (because they see parts of themselves in feminine gays and they hate that), although to the homophobic public we're all f*gs so it doesn't matter anyway 

Edited May 25, 2023 by John Slayne

[John Slayne]

4 hours ago, cockatoo said:

In my experience, most guys fall somewhere in the middle of these two classifications.

also this, terminally online gays will always talk about top this bottom that, masc and fem, etc. when in real life most gay men are vers and have both masc and fem characteristics about them

[modeblock]

No, but screaming it from the mountain tops, like the masc4masc gorls is very CRINGE  

[katara]

If I liked femininity I would be straight so...

[DamianSolo]

No, it's not wrong as we all have preferences. Though, I do think it's slightly shallow to not be into a guy just because he's feminine. I used to not be either, until I met a feminine guy I was really into. His personality and general attractiveness overshadowed the femininity for me; it just wouldn't have worked out for other reasons. He still ultimately carried himself like a guy, but could just twirl at any given moment—and did. He was just being himself, not being flamboyant and over the top, which makes all the difference in the world for me.

[Communion]

11 hours ago, vale9001 said:

it's like saying are straight women wrong to be attracted only to masculinity?.

If you like just something you like just something. What's important you are not denigratory against anyone

Is that the definition of heterosexuality?