discussion Female ATRLers, would you be a surrogate? What do you think of surrogacy in general?

[Before Today]

I just wonder what the women think about this. Would you do it? I'm not a woman, but if I was, I don't think I could do it. Not altruistically, let alone paid because I'd feel used/transactional... I would feel too attached to the baby I'd think. 

[Vilko]

Im not a girl but being a surrogate is illegal in my country

[Yuanyu]

No

[Embustera]

No

[Starfish]

I would feel bad about selling the productivity of my reproductive organs for a measly 30K. And there are more dangers involved than most people realise. 

[ariananext]

I wouldn't do it, I want kids but I'm so scared of pregnancy and especially birth, it looks like hell and I really don't want to put myself through that amount of pain. I couldn't even imagine doing all that for another family tbh.

 

I don't judge those women who decide to do it, especially if it's done safe and legally.

[kandicha]

No I wouldn't, pregnancy is so difficult on the body I would only go through that for my own child.

[Kakihara]

I'm scared of giving birth more than actually raising a child so no, even for money I'm too scared.

[Terylee]

no

[Antisocialites]

no, I wouldn’t sell my body for money.

[Alldeezy]

I couldn't do it tbh.  

[Siberian Tiger]

No, I wouldn't because of negative effects of pregnancy. Surrogacy overall is a great solution if both sides are good with what they get. 

Edited May 14, 2023 by Siberian Tiger

[onapearl]

No. I generally disagree with commercial surrogacy. 

[Proseductice]

It’s not for me, but it’s a beautiful option for women who have difficulty conceiving. I’ll always support it, but couldn’t do it personally. 

[HeavyMetalAura]

I wouldn’t but as a gay man I do have a friend who has said on multiple occasions she’d be happy to be a surrogate for me and my (one day) husband if we’d like. While that’s very generous of her I secretly think she’d get attached to the baby and it would cause some issues. Moreover even though she’s offered, it’s SUCH a sacrifice to make. I don’t want to feel that indebted to someone. 
 

I wouldn’t go that route personally but I do remember one thread on ATRL where people were saying it should be illegal and were likening it to sex trafficking  while certainly there are issues like that which need to be addressed, wanted to share that story for all the keyboard warriors on here who think all surrogates are sex slaves put in a position they don’t want to be in because they need money. That’s not always the case, and it’s shameful to bash the entire concept that way when many couples who otherwise wouldn’t be able to have a baby have had success with it. 

[BTS]

I couldn’t. I especially couldnt do it with my own eggs. Maybe down the line when I have children of my own.

 

Carrying a baby for 9 months that you get attached to and ultimately have to give away would break my heart. Definitely an amazing & selfless thing to do for someone but it leaves a lot of women vulnerable to being exploited. 

Edited May 14, 2023 by BTS

[IBeMe]

i'm not a woman but I feel like I wouldn't be able to do it tbh. That said I'm not against it...I just feel uncomfortable with highly commercialized its gotten...you literally go through a catalog of ppl and it just feels really weird. Plus 30k-40k isn't much. Pregnancy is a REALLY risky and dangerous process. Putting your life at risk for 30k isnt worth it imo. 

I do love when surrogacy is done with friends or family members to help someone they care about conceive and have a child of their own. It seems more thoughtful and careful. There is more consideration in the process and just more love is involved in general. 

[velocity]

No and I don't support it, it's exploitation

[Gwendolyn]

No.

[réveuse]

No, I'd rather experience the stages of pregnancy.