discussion Hot straight guys who just enjoy your company…

[Katamari]

2 hours ago, Power love said:

Shame on you! This is exactly why i need a break from this site! 

 

[Femalien]

do they ever fart around you? 

 

[Twilish]

I could count on one hand how many straight/gay/male friends i have. All of my friends are girls  i just don’t relate to men on a friendship level like that i guess

[Headlock]

Do… do you not how friendships work? Do you only pursue friendships with people you think are ugly and try to sleep with the rest? 

[Scotland]

Ugh ew. Why do gays bootlick straight men whom they find attractive?

[robattack332]

6 hours ago, IBeMe said:

I have TONS of straight male friends but I get what you are talking about. You are talking about the guys who low key give you mixed signals lol.

I never got it until it happened to me last year lol! My theory is that these guys want friends who are more emotionally developed and emotionally available. They want a friend who is open to being vulnerable and maybe enjoy things that their other more "macho" straight friends don't enjoy so they hang out with us gworls cuz we are usually more emotionally developed than straight men and can engage in fun conversations about basically anything...not just sports talk or talking about hot girls they met in a bar etc..

Hanging with us is their chance of bonding with another guy on a different level and it's sometimes their only chance to do that since they have to put up a macho front in front of their other straight male friends.

This is exactly it ^^ All my closest friends are straight guys, and I've had a handful basically say this one way or the other when 1:1. They don't feel like they have to put up the bravado like with other friends/when around girls.

[imabadkid]

this has happened to me twice. and we ended up hooking up both times. straight men are complicated though and it’s not smth I recommend.

[Cheers]

3 hours ago, Headlock said:

Do… do you not how friendships work? Do you only pursue friendships with people you think are ugly and try to sleep with the rest? 

This

 

One reason why str8s dont wanna befriend us cause they think we're all gonna thirst after them

[Alldeezy]

Yep, I mean it's different for me since im female, but cute guys normally flirt wanna hang with me but don't wanna hook up, i've either lost my touch/luck/looks or maybe they do prefer guys 

 

 

[WildOne]

1 hour ago, imabadkid said:

this has happened to me twice. and we ended up hooking up both times. straight men are complicated though and it’s not smth I recommend.

Straight men are a lot of things but complicated is not one of them. They are simple, often well meaning, simple simple people.

[imabadkid]

5 hours ago, WildOne said:

Straight men are a lot of things but complicated is not one of them. They are simple, often well meaning, simple simple people.

not when they have sex with a guy then start freaking out on if it makes them gay or not. then tell u they can no longer be friends with u but still proceeds to constantly contact u and tell u how much they miss and enjoy what u guys did so yes as I said, some of them are v complicated

[Guest]

9 minutes ago, imabadkid said:

not when they have sex with a guy then start freaking out on if it makes them gay or not. then tell u they can no longer be friends with u but still proceeds to constantly contact u and tell u how much they miss and enjoy what u guys did so yes as I said, some of them are v complicated

SPILL

[imabadkid]

54 minutes ago, Limitless said:

SPILL

like the other user said I think a lot of them are looking for emotional connections and not even in a romantic way but then it becomes complicated when they’re horny.

 

to be clear, he came on to me. most people don’t like rejection so why would they put themselves out there and try to hook up with a STRAIGHT guy who is into women only to be rejected?? like it’s not my fault he came on to me.

 

Edited April 2, 2023 by imabadkid

[Harrier]

gay men stop sexualising and making their relationships with straight men weird challenge

 

some of you are literally no better than the men that do this to women. just be normal.

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On topic tho, I get where you're coming from OP. We as queer men can offer straight men true friendship with genuine vulnerability and support that they don't necessarily get from their straight peers. It's a great thing and I encourage y'all to take hold of that opportunity.

[Theshigo Washidu]

15 hours ago, Badgalbriel said:

Most of my guy friends are straight and I can't imagine myself hanging out with gays. Straight guys ate just so chill to hang out with. Gays are always about the drama all the damn time. 

Why is this giving "I'm not like those other gays"?  

 

OT: ATRL's obsession with straight men

[Bussea]

it’s always hilarious when an ATRLer discovers that platonic friendships exist

 

straight men can befriend you without wanting to live out a closet fantasy

Edited April 2, 2023 by Bussea

[cockatoo]

17 hours ago, Badgalbriel said:

Most of my guy friends are straight and I can't imagine myself hanging out with gays. Straight guys ate just so chill to hang out with. Gays are always about the drama all the damn time. 

You've met the wrong gays then. And straight men are pretty dramatic lol, I've never seen someone have a bigger tantrum than a straight man when his football team loses a match 

[cockatoo]

1 hour ago, Bussea said:

it’s always hilarious when an ATRLer discovers that platonic friendships exist

Are we shocked 

[Mr.Marvelous]

8 hours ago, imabadkid said:

not when they have sex with a guy then start freaking out on if it makes them gay or not. then tell u they can no longer be friends with u but still proceeds to constantly contact u and tell u how much they miss and enjoy what u guys did so yes as I said, some of them are v complicated

then those guys aren't straight and aren't part of this discussion...

[SchmoodRing]

On 4/1/2023 at 2:45 PM, Angelo said:

There are countless times in my life where a new guy I met (most of the time they are handsome) from work or acquaintances will invite me for a dinner or hang out then I thought it’s a date but turned out they are straight and they just genuinely enjoy my company. Am I the only one who is experiencing this phenomena? The hard thing is sometimes you hang out in a pub and it involves alcohol and I need to control myself because I gotta respect boundaries. Do you hang out with straight guys ATRL?

yeah you're romanticizing what's very clearly a platonic outing. don't do it to yourself you'll end up hurt.

On 4/1/2023 at 2:55 PM, HotFriedChicken said:

It's wild this thread was posted because I'm going through a situation at the moment and it's lowkey leading me to depression

 

I'm in love (romantically) with one of the guys I used to work with (I only quit the job this week) and I know he loves me back but it's definitely in a platonic way  whenever I spend time with him for me it feels like we're in a romantic relationship but obviously to him it's just two friends hanging out.

 

I'm pretty sure if I was to push the boundaries when we were both drunk he would let me kiss him or give him a little sucky sucky but I'm trying my best to respect him and his significant other (he's in a long distance relationship with a girl). The wild thing is I'm pretty sure he's trying to **** one of our female colleagues

 

At the moment I'm sure he doesn't realise how much I like him and I hope it doesn't ruin our friendship if/when he does  maybe I should just take the plunge and eat his ass

please have some self control. this whole spaghetti is straight until it wet mentality that gays have is so predatorial. don't make a move unless he says or does something. until then plenty of actual queer and available men to satisify your needs. what i highlighted in bold is also just proof that he's not interested in you in that way. a straight being comfortable and vulernable with you is not the que to experiment with them 

On 4/1/2023 at 3:08 PM, Attitude said:

I kind of like it when straight guys feel comfortable enough to hang out platonically with me, one on one.

 

as anyone would, why are y'all making this sound like some crazy feat lol

On 4/1/2023 at 3:09 PM, Angelo said:

Also, maybe I got low standards that's why I see most the straight guys who invite me handsome lol. 

this sounds like the case

On 4/1/2023 at 3:19 PM, ImsoLOUD said:

i can’t wait until we stop putting “straight” men on a pedestal 

x2

On 4/1/2023 at 3:56 PM, ifyouseekLEM said:

The last straight man that enjoyed my company had me folded up like a pretzel in missionary by the end of our second “bro” bar-crawl. 

then clearly he's not straight lol

On 4/1/2023 at 4:02 PM, JohnWayneHolland said:

Some of y'all only wanting to be friends with people you find attractive in hopes of something else happening is crazy 

x3

On 4/1/2023 at 4:06 PM, Khal said:

This is why y'all can never make friends except for people you want to ****

x4

On 4/1/2023 at 4:13 PM, MadonnasBoyfriend said:

I had straight freinds in high school. I cool little straight boy pack. When I told them I was gay post high-school on a reunion hang out they all started hitting me up for bjs But not for anything else like the old days 😔

wait what  don't entertain it before you become your friend group kleenex sis

22 hours ago, Badgalbriel said:

Most of my guy friends are straight and I can't imagine myself hanging out with gays. Straight guys ate just so chill to hang out with. Gays are always about the drama all the damn time. 

this unnecessarily catty, petty and messy for what though?

[KFC]

1 hour ago, SchmoodRing said:

please have some self control. this whole spaghetti is straight until it wet mentality that gays have is so predatorial. don't make a move unless he says or does something. until then plenty of actual queer and available men to satisify your needs. what i highlighted in bold is also just proof that he's not interested in you in that way. a straight being comfortable and vulernable with you is not the que to experiment with them 

I think you misunderstood my post. I'm not trying to sleep with him as some experiment or straight guy fetish, I'm literally in love with him  regardless you are right though. I need to back off and I guess just enjoy my friendship with him? 

[Oktober Knight]

News flash: some straight guys don't mind having gay best friends. Not everything has to be sexual. 

[So.. what now]

On 4/2/2023 at 2:51 AM, Big Bad Wolf said:

I only hang out with sissies and queers

[So.. what now]

On 4/2/2023 at 3:23 AM, CBC said:

Nobody enjoys my company thats why im on ATRL

I admire your courageous honesty

[PoisonedIvy]

On 4/1/2023 at 5:07 PM, Badgalbriel said:

Most of my guy friends are straight and I can't imagine myself hanging out with gays. Straight guys ate just so chill to hang out with. Gays are always about the drama all the damn time. 

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