harwee Posted March 22, 2023 Posted March 22, 2023 You're not compatible, there's no chemistry, neither of you is at fault. Move on.
brenda-walsh Posted March 22, 2023 Author Posted March 22, 2023 1 hour ago, Rotunda said: If you are ever in a situation where something gets broken off over petty reasons just remember “if it wasn’t this, it would have been something else”. He somehow cared enough about you to “date you” but not enough to handle your first disagreement/mismatch in a mature way. The issue isn’t whether you were right or wrong, it’s that he wasn’t invested enough in your relationship to where he was willing to listen to your concerns. I promise you that if you had a great time meeting his friends, there would be another issue that would have arose in a week or two that would have also caused him to dip. Some people just don’t take relationships seriously. So don’t rush into them. @brenda-walsh thanks sis, this was really great advice
UnusualBoy Posted March 22, 2023 Posted March 22, 2023 You did nothing wrong, I think your only mistake was starting dating him so soon but thankfully things went down fast so you didn't get more attached and get hurt. He sounds very immature.
cockatoo Posted March 23, 2023 Posted March 23, 2023 On 3/21/2023 at 2:32 PM, LoveInStereo said: There are no universal rules when it comes to dating. Most comments are saying you moved too fast. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years & we’ve been inseparable from the moment we met. If it’s meant to be, it’ll be. Yep, this is 100% true. People get into their heads about how long you should wait to text back, what you should do on X date, how long before making thigs official. None of these things actually matter, it's just a way of us fooling ourselves into believing we have some level of control over these situations. You can't change how another person thinks or feels about you. If you're right for each other none of these "rules" matter. Anyway yeah this man doesn't seem very mature, I'm sorry that happened OP. You're better off without him
Oktober Knight Posted March 24, 2023 Posted March 24, 2023 I don't think moving too fast was the issue here, it's the fact that he let one small thing be the reason to break off the relationship, which is a major red flag. He likely would have ended it soon after for another stupid reason. However, friendships are an important part of people's lives. If he felt you were ignoring his group of friends and being grumpy then he has a reason to be irritated. But it sounds like his priorities were mixed.
brenda-walsh Posted March 24, 2023 Author Posted March 24, 2023 6 hours ago, Oktober Knight said: However, friendships are an important part of people's lives. If he felt you were ignoring his group of friends and being grumpy then he has a reason to be irritated. But it sounds like his priorities were mixed. ya i felt bad after for how i was which is why i apologized. i wished he would've told me how he felt instead of keeping his feelings to himself and breaking up with me out of the blue. like i'm still trying to wrap my head around the fact it didn't cause an argument and just ended the relationship instead
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