Do you think it's embarrassing/shameful to live with parents?

[futurenostalgic]

Never in my culture

[Joyride]

not in my eyes, I've had really low lows comes to my health (both physical and mental) and they were - somewhat - the only ones who really cared long term, we don't always agree on things but they've still welcomed me every time I've been in and out of the house

[madonnas]

It’s pretty normal imo.  I live in California so the cost of living especially is a good justification.  
 

 

I live with my boyfriend and his dad.  We all pay rent together.  Idk it’s totally normal to him and me but some people react strangely to it.  He is Vietnamese and his brother and sister both live with their in laws so it’s totally normal to them

 

[Pink Matter]

Certainly not in this economy 

Even disregarding how high the COL has gotten (especially in metropolitan areas), it's very normal in a lot of non-Western cultures for kids to live with their parents.

[Repelex]

No. 

 

Speaking from personal experience. I have the means to live on my own but I'm not dumb lol. I wouldn't save everything I've been saving and have enough money to buy a car or travel if I was paying 40% of my income on rent in the city.

 

And I do have "pressure" from work colleagues and stuff but who cares. And I take care of all groceries and some bills. Aside from financial perspective, it's also beneficial for my parents cause I get to take care of em. 

 

There should be more no problem to wait until you have a long term partner to move in with.

 

However, it is embarrassing if you don't contribute to anything and don't plan to contribute in the future by having no ambition to go on with your life.

 

ETA: and those work colleagues have their parents pay for some bills. I have to laugh lol

 

 

Edited March 18, 2023 by Repelex

[Distantconstellation]

On 3/16/2023 at 5:12 PM, Duanielipa said:

No it's not embarrassing as long as you're contributing to the house, and are saving with the intention of moving out when you're more financially secure.

 

If you have no job/not a student and have no intention of moving on with you're life it's embarrassing.

What if u don't care about anything or anyone? Then what? Its embarassing according to who?

[Helios]

I think its embarrassing that people care about how other people pay their bills and survive. Especially in this economy. People need to MIND THEIR BUSINESS.

[Helios]

10 minutes ago, Repelex said:

No. 

 

Speaking from personal experience. I have the means to live on my own but I'm not dumb lol. I wouldn't save everything I've been saving and have enough money to buy a car or travel if I was paying 40% of my income on rent in the city.

 

And I do have "pressure" from work colleagues and stuff but who cares. And I take care of all groceries and some bills. Aside from financial perspective, it's also beneficial for my parents cause I get to take care of em. 

 

There should be more no problem to wait until you have a long term partner to move in with.

 

However, it is embarrassing if you don't contribute to anything and don't plan to contribute in the future by having no ambition to go on with your life.

 

ETA: and those work colleagues have their parents pay for some bills. I have to laugh lol

 

 

Its absolutely disgusting that your work colleagues would pressure you to live alone. They have no business commenting on your living situation. If your parents are okay with you living there then its perfectly fine. No need to justify to anyone. 

[Helios]

5 hours ago, scenekiller said:

No, and anybody who judges anyone for it is an ******* lol

 

For example, I'm an only child. I lived on my own before COVID hit, where I moved back home to help out my parents (who are in their mid-late 60s) so they wouldn't have to go out too often. In that time, my mother's mobility decreased and my father, who normally helped her, was diagnosed with cancer and the chemo really took out any of his ability to care for her.

 

I don't know how they'd get by without my help, so I've stayed with them longer than I wanted to. However, I'm not ashamed of it, I'm just glad to be able to help them out. I still take care of all my own bills, my own food expenses, everything. I just happen to live with two older parents now.

 

I say all of that because you never know what anybody's life situation is, so judging without context is a shitty thing to do.

Your parents are very lucky to have you.  

[modeblock]

8 hours ago, scenekiller said:

No, and anybody who judges anyone for it is an ******* lol

 

For example, I'm an only child. I lived on my own before COVID hit, where I moved back home to help out my parents (who are in their mid-late 60s) so they wouldn't have to go out too often. In that time, my mother's mobility decreased and my father, who normally helped her, was diagnosed with cancer and the chemo really took out any of his ability to care for her.

 

I don't know how they'd get by without my help, so I've stayed with them longer than I wanted to. However, I'm not ashamed of it, I'm just glad to be able to help them out. I still take care of all my own bills, my own food expenses, everything. I just happen to live with two older parents now.

 

I say all of that because you never know what anybody's life situation is, so judging without context is a shitty thing to do.

[Daddy]

On 3/17/2023 at 2:23 PM, RunUpDoneUp said:

No, I'm not ignorant of history and the enormous benefit to having large community backing by having an extended family all operating under the same roof/s. Due to capitalism needing less resources for the worker in order to help push them to work more, we've shifted away from this and society suffers for it everyday in the west. From elders to kids, individualistic living when unnecessary is always detrimental.

 

I say that as someone who left home at 23.

I get that point but not everyone wants to live in a house with parents, grandparents and 5 siblings.

 

I just imagined still living in the village I grew up in and feel the urge to shoot me in the head

[HausofNick]

dear god no. I am very blessed to have an extremely close relationship with both my family and my boyfriend's family and know if we EVER need a place to live or stay, we have their homes to go to

 

In our current economic times, no one should be shaming anyone for living with their parents/families. I do think it should be standard to help out in terms of bills/payments to some extent though, neither of my parents makes enough as is and it would be even worse with 2 more adults (with 2 dogs) in the house

[Phaunzie]

Oops I meant to say No for the first option.  It is fine and I for one encourage it. Because housing and life is expensive, it is best to minimize the amount of money spent. Also, only fools run off on their own with no safety net, expecting to make on their own. 

[RunUpDoneUp]

On 3/20/2023 at 3:52 PM, Daddy said:

I get that point but not everyone wants to live in a house with parents, grandparents and 5 siblings.

 

I just imagined still living in the village I grew up in and feel the urge to shoot me in the head

 

I do not do it for that reason(though I loved my grandmother DOWN) so yeah. It's definitely not for everyone but the way society is currently, a lot of InDePeNdEnT people need their families around to keep them sane.

[Gladiator]

For me, I was highly embarrassed when I was living at home as an adult, despite the reasons for it when I was.

For others, I do not think much of it if I learn that they live at home with their parents.

I do think you should be helping out financially if you do live at home and you are working, whether that is in rent or other bills.

If someone is a student and is solely focusing on school, I think that is a great decision to be living at home. 

Edited March 22, 2023 by Gladiator

[fridayteenage]

On 3/16/2023 at 3:42 PM, JohnWayneHolland said:

If you are over 15 and still live with your parents  grow up

 

so 16 year olds should be completely self sufficient? hmm

[JohnWayneHolland]

3 minutes ago, fridayteenage said:

 

so 16 year olds should be completely self sufficient? hmm

Yes

 

 

Spoiler

I was joking btw

 

 

[Johnny Jacobs]

Depends.. It a US thing to move out at 18. some of us actually live in hyper-expensive states.. I would say 25-27 is a good age to move out. 

[Breathe On Moi]

On 3/17/2023 at 4:18 PM, scenekiller said:

No, and anybody who judges anyone for it is an ******* lol

 

For example, I'm an only child. I lived on my own before COVID hit, where I moved back home to help out my parents (who are in their mid-late 60s) so they wouldn't have to go out too often. In that time, my mother's mobility decreased and my father, who normally helped her, was diagnosed with cancer and the chemo really took out any of his ability to care for her.

 

I don't know how they'd get by without my help, so I've stayed with them longer than I wanted to. However, I'm not ashamed of it, I'm just glad to be able to help them out. I still take care of all my own bills, my own food expenses, everything. I just happen to live with two older parents now.

 

I say all of that because you never know what anybody's life situation is, so judging without context is a shitty thing to do.

 sending you love 

[arceus]

yes, especially guys in their 30s

[Oktober Knight]

It depends. If they have a job and seem responsible with a car, paying rent, going to school, trying to save up for their future, taking care of sick/elderly parents, etc then I don't see a problem with it. 

 

But I know some guys in their 30s that literally live rent free in their mom's basement while they job hop and play video games. Ummm....no thanks, instant turn off. 

[Specter]

On 3/17/2023 at 4:12 AM, JohnWayneHolland said:

If you are over 15 and still live with your parents  grow up

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[harwee]

No, but lets face it, lots of people aren't leaving not because they can't.  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited March 23, 2023 by harwee