Do you think it's embarrassing/shameful to live with parents?

[Daddy]

I mean, I wouldn't enjoy living with my parents as an adult. It's just weird. 

[EtherealCat]

no, especially with housing costs being what they are, as long as you pay a reasonable amount towards bills then i dont see the problem, the alternative is living with strangers and that is awful 

[katara]

It's only bad if you are one of those cases where you need your parents to do everything for you. Thinking about those basement dwellers that need to be spoon fed well into adulthood. 

 

It's totally ok if you contribute to the houshold by doing chores and / or paying rent. 

 

Dating can be quite tricky though. Especially as a gay in the hook up scene.

[Dystopian]

not when it costs 4k just to live in a studio .

as long as you aren't lazy and jobless then it isn't embarrassing.

[katara]

15 minutes ago, Daddy said:

I mean, I wouldn't enjoy living with my parents as an adult. It's just weird. 

Yeah personally I could not live with parents ot even siblings as an adult. My brother needed to live in my apartment for some months recently and as much as I love him those months were a torture. Our relationship also got strained A LOT due to that but now that he has his own place again we are like best friends again.

 

I can only live together with a partner. 

[Dialamba]

I don’t know which country normalized moving from your parents at 18 should be the norm. My mom doesn’t want to let me until I get married. In some cultures living with family even If you’re grown is normal.
 Unless you’re pushing 40 and still get no jobs there’s nothing wrong about it. 

[JohnWayneHolland]

If you are over 15 and still live with your parents  grow up

[Attitude]

Also, putting your family in a nursing home is such an American thing. Other cultures take care of their old. 

[John Slayne]

in this housing market many young people have no other choice

 

i think charging your kids rent is pretty gross, idk what kind of parent would do that. of course they should be helping with bills, groceries, cleaning etc. but flat-out charging rent? it's giving wicked stepmother 

[Holiest Dreams]

Personal opinion as an American: no, it’s NOT weird in 90% of cases. There may be some where it is odd, but there’s nothing wrong with it most of the time.

 

I’m not saying this is just an issue here in the US, since I’m not sure about every country on earth, but it’s absolutely a thing that’s stigmatized here (stupidly, of course). I’ve definitely noticed based on what I’ve seen that it’s very normal in many cultures, especially in Asia. I really hate the stigma around it here and think it’s ridiculous. People will actually judge you for not moving out by like age 20, regardless of circumstance, and not even accounting for how many young people can’t even dream of paying outrageous rent prices these days.

 

I think you should help out if you’re living at home by a certain age, like to some extent, at least pay for your own stuff unless you’re in a specific situation (like disabled). But I find it evil for a parent to force their children to pay full rent. No matter the circumstance.

Edited March 16, 2023 by Holiest Dreams

[Dessy]

No. I'd say it's becoming more normalized/accepted if anything 

[brenda-walsh]

not at all, its expensive out here so i understand why people would want to stay at home

[bad guy]

I don't find it bad at all, especially in this economy. I'm still in school but I'm grateful I can stay with my parents during breaks/whenever. When I'm staying with them I use it to save money, and also contribute to chores, etc. But if you're well into post-grad (27-30) and you still live with your parents without contributing anything that's a bit embarrassing to me. If you're over 30 living with your parents still that's even more weird to me. I get the economy is rough, but at that age it's time to be independent and stand on your own two feet. Get roommates, live with friends. You're not a child. Obviously there's exceptions to this (losing a job, getting evicted, etc.) but I personally would feel like a total loser and leech off my parents if I was that old still living with them and not contributing to rent at all. 

 

To each their own though.

[lovecatt]

In this economy?

[jqnetto]

Kinda. It is definitely a turn off for me. 

[Jotham]

No, this is just a Western/boomer mentality. Housing costs are making it more difficult to live on your own, but also culturally it's becoming more acceptable to live with family after graduation. I lived on my own for college, but moved back home when lockdowns started during the pandemic. I moved out again shortly after getting a full-time job, but moved back after realizing it was financially more feasible (plus I hated the job and thought staying in the city wasn't worth it lol). I think my experiences gave me a lot of perspective on living with parents. Living alone has its benefits since it teaches you to be more independent but living with parents should nothing to be ashamed of especially since it's usually a financially smarter thing to do.

[Bussea]

It’s never embarrassing and you should only pay rent if you’re using up resources and never buying groceries or whatever the case may be. I live with my mom and I contribute, so she doesn’t make me pay rent. I’ve seen how some people take advantage of their parents and choose not to help, get a job, inconvenience them with all types of company and etc. and it’s like  maybe they should start charging your bum ass

 

have you seen this economy? if you can move out, good for you, but chilleeee one bed room apartments that haven’t been remodeled since WW2 going for 1K? no thanks 

Edited March 17, 2023 by Bussea

[Alldeezy]

In Australia no, even as adults nobody a afford to live on there own. So all us single 25 - 35. Be living with a parent still.  

 

Unless your lucky and have a partner. It else good luck

[BILLIONAIRE✘BOY]

Nah. 

 

I mean, I'm just glad I haven't lived with my parents since highschool but they still pay for everything so...yeah. I'm lucky in that way for sure. Just been me and my partner for a few years now 

Edited March 17, 2023 by BILLIONAIRE✘BOY

[RunUpDoneUp]

No, I'm not ignorant of history and the enormous benefit to having large community backing by having an extended family all operating under the same roof/s. Due to capitalism needing less resources for the worker in order to help push them to work more, we've shifted away from this and society suffers for it everyday in the west. From elders to kids, individualistic living when unnecessary is always detrimental.

 

I say that as someone who left home at 23.

[imabadkid]

you can’t really judge someone’s situation HOWEVER for me, after I graduated college I lived with my parents briefly but I knew pretty quickly that once you go from having freedom and living in your own living with your parents again is awkward and uncomfortable so it didn’t last v long.

[Theshigo Washidu]

It depends on the situation.

If you have the means to move out, yet you're still living with your parents unless they want you to, then that's embarrassing.

 

If you're living with parents as a way to save money for getting your own place and as a result, you're helping your fam to pay the bills, that's fine.

[zasderfght]

I've been on both sides of this. 

 

If you have a debilitating mental or physical disability that makes it harder for you to live independently or with roommates, I completely get it. 

 

Like others have mentioned, if you're not bringing in enough income to support yourself or the property you're renting, I get moving back in with the rents (or continuing to live at home).

 

Where it becomes a problem is if you're used to your parents doing everything for you-- booking your doctor appointments, reminding you to take your meds, cooking meals for you, cleaning up after you. Coming into your own as an adult and learning how to cook, clean, and take care of yourself are invaluable skills. As well as learning how to budget, putting money into a savings, being able to drive/commute to your places of work, etc. 

 

One day your parents are not going to be there. You might as well learn how to live independently as soon as you can, but again, I get not everyone is privileged and in the mental headspace (or physical place) to do so. 

 

I will say my self-confidence grew exponentially when I moved out of my parents' house for the first time. My parents are very anxious people and helicopter-y. 

[scenekiller]

No, and anybody who judges anyone for it is an ******* lol

 

For example, I'm an only child. I lived on my own before COVID hit, where I moved back home to help out my parents (who are in their mid-late 60s) so they wouldn't have to go out too often. In that time, my mother's mobility decreased and my father, who normally helped her, was diagnosed with cancer and the chemo really took out any of his ability to care for her.

 

I don't know how they'd get by without my help, so I've stayed with them longer than I wanted to. However, I'm not ashamed of it, I'm just glad to be able to help them out. I still take care of all my own bills, my own food expenses, everything. I just happen to live with two older parents now.

 

I say all of that because you never know what anybody's life situation is, so judging without context is a shitty thing to do.

[cypriotpcdfan]

Absolutely not. If that means that will help you slowly build your life and stand on your own two feet, then there's nothing shameful or embarrassing about that.