zasderfght Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 It could be that this week I have had like zero downtime-- I came back from a 5-hour flight Monday evening straight into working Tuesday, Tuesday and Wednesday I had to create labels and ship the products for my 2nd job, get groceries/cook, and then today I had to prepare lunches and my work clothes, since I'm staying at my boyfriend's for the weekend. Not to mention the minor annoyances like getting new tire caps, having to get gas, clean the apartment, etc. I am just so exhausted. I seriously am glad my boyfriend and I are moving together in a few months because while I love spending my weekends over there (and weekdays, depending on our schedules), the back-and-forth is tiring. He could come to my apartment and he has stayed over/slept over, but my roommate is also there, and my boyfriend actually has scoliosis and back-problems. He's been a sport and slept in my bed, but because it's springy, he says his back pain is x10 worse when he's not sleeping in his customized bed. Also, while my chronic pain is sadly not cured or at least managed where it doesn't hang in my head, with the drugs I'm taking (Kratom and high levels of CBD per dose), I feel so drowsy. The issue is if I don't take them, my pain is horrendous. I'll take feeling overtly tired and having mild-to-moderate pain over feeling like a truck just hit me. I see a therapist, I'm in communication with my doctors, and everyone's supportive of me, which is truly a blessing because I didn't always have all 3. Anyone else just have days where you're exhausted? Maybe this sounds awful, but some days I wish I could just be sedated like pre-surgery-sedation-levels and not have to move an inch, and just sit and watch Golden Girls for three days straight. My primary job sadly, doesn't offer formal PTO, so when I take a day, I lose money. If anyone has questions, don't hesitate to ask them! I don't mind clarifying.
TouchinFree Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 Adulting is a full time job. There's no stop or else you'd fall behind so I feel you. I'd say living with a partner will truly help and you'll notice the difference once you move in. It can be a great balance where one person works lesser hours and looks after chores and the house whilst the other does more paid work to cover bills and home essentials and food etc. And as the years go by I've realized that I want to work less and less hours. Just so many things to juggle. The maintenance part of having a place is exhausting as well. I don't think as humans we're supposed to be this preoccupied. It induces stress and anxiety. And the whole idea of killing yourself for a career is flawed. Family and health comes first. A career is there to provide but not to take up most of your hours in a day.
50thStateofMind Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 Yes, this is a feeling youʻll have constantly as an adult
Trent W Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 I try not to be an adult in private. Play video games, watch cartoons, **** I did in my childhood and teens. It helps me to cope and I feel a lot younger. Like time hasn’t passed. I’m an adult only in work environment or business. In relationships too, just to navigate the world. But my free private time is dedicated to stuff I did 10-15 years ago.
JonginBey Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 Yes, especially when it feels like it’s leading to absolutely NOTHING.
getBusy Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 16 minutes ago, Trent W said: Play video games, watch cartoons, **** I did in my childhood and teens. YEEEES THIS IS SOOO IMPORTANT! Never stop doing stuff you like just because it’s not suppossed to be for people “your age”. Adulting is a full time job, but so is staying happy and excited for what’s to come next.
XxxKatyCatxxX Posted March 2, 2023 Posted March 2, 2023 Luckily my inner child is still alive and kicking.
Devin Posted March 3, 2023 Posted March 3, 2023 Yes. You gotta roll with the punches and take things one day at a time.
imabadkid Posted March 3, 2023 Posted March 3, 2023 3 hours ago, Devin said: Yes. You gotta roll with the punches and take things one day at a time. Pretty much. Adulting is overwhelming and stressful af but you just gotta keep moving fwd.
Cyanide Posted March 3, 2023 Posted March 3, 2023 6 hours ago, Trent W said: I try not to be an adult in private. Play video games, watch cartoons, **** I did in my childhood and teens. It helps me to cope and I feel a lot younger. Like time hasn’t passed. I’m an adult only in work environment or business. In relationships too, just to navigate the world. But my free private time is dedicated to stuff I did 10-15 years ago. This
UnusualBoy Posted March 3, 2023 Posted March 3, 2023 Yeah and it doesn't help that I feel time is passing by so fast like we're already in March, when we least expected it will October again and such. I hate it here.
Afterglow Posted March 4, 2023 Posted March 4, 2023 On 3/2/2023 at 1:51 PM, Trent W said: I try not to be an adult in private. Play video games, watch cartoons, **** I did in my childhood and teens. It helps me to cope and I feel a lot younger. Like time hasn’t passed. I’m an adult only in work environment or business. In relationships too, just to navigate the world. But my free private time is dedicated to stuff I did 10-15 years ago. Why would you have to do any of that in private? All of those things are things adults do as well, I mean adults create them.
Trent W Posted March 4, 2023 Posted March 4, 2023 13 minutes ago, Afterglow said: Why would you have to do any of that in private? All of those things are things adults do as well, I mean adults create them. I mean my family and friends obviously know, but Idk there’s a lot of stupid people out there that are obsessed with “act your age”, especially if you date women. Some can be weird.
zasderfght Posted March 8, 2023 Author Posted March 8, 2023 On 3/2/2023 at 2:08 PM, Juanny said: Definitely. Take it a day at a time, and be self-compassionate. You’re doing the best with all your resources, so try your best to be easy one yourself and remind yourself from time to time how well you’re doing. You sound like you’ve built a solid support network, work on your mental health in consultation with a therapist, juggle your adult responsibilities well, are compassionate in your relationship, and take care of many of the little tasks and chores in your day to day life. AND you’re doing this all with chronic pain? It gets exhausting, I get you, but it sounds like you’ve done such a great job and you should be proud of yourself! Give yourself moments to breathe, make it a goal to create time space and money to give yourself what you’re needing—whatever that is. Thank you so much! This means a lot
zasderfght Posted March 8, 2023 Author Posted March 8, 2023 2 hours ago, PopKills said: I won’t act my age Haha, I love the reference!
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