JustHoran Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 He's not the one. That's clearly not what you want or have dreamed of, so he's not the one. I would NEVER share my man with anyone. I am far too jealous.
youcallingmyname Posted February 11, 2023 Author Posted February 11, 2023 Nvm we just ended it.idk why I’m crying should I block him? Will it be easier?
PoisonPill Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 15 hours ago, youcallingmyname said: Nvm we just ended it.idk why I’m crying should I block him? Will it be easier? Allow yourself to feel the pain for a bit. Then you will be better and in a few months this will seem so distant and unimportant
youcallingmyname Posted February 11, 2023 Author Posted February 11, 2023 23 minutes ago, PoisonPill said: Allow yourself to feel the pain for a bit. Then you will be better and in a few months this will seem so distant and unimportant Thanks! So I still feel like crap but I sent him my last message. I didn’t realize all the red flags of this. He turned out to be like most other guys. There’s nothing wrong with prioritizing your self but at least be decent enough to reply to my message. I was way too naive about this. I also realize I may be suffering from avoidant personality disorder so I need to focus on getting myself help before looking for relationships. 😅
PoisonPill Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 57 minutes ago, youcallingmyname said: Thanks! So I still feel like crap but I sent him my last message. I didn’t realize all the red flags of this. He turned out to be like most other guys. There’s nothing wrong with prioritizing your self but at least be decent enough to reply to my message. I was way too naive about this. I also realize I may be suffering from avoidant personality disorder so I need to focus on getting myself help before looking for relationships. 😅 Based on your posts it sounds like you're an insecure attachment type... read the book "Attached" it helped me so much
youcallingmyname Posted February 11, 2023 Author Posted February 11, 2023 Just now, PoisonPill said: Based on your posts it sounds like you're an insecure attachment type... read the book "Attached" it helped me so much Ok will do! Thank you 🙏 My last therapist recommended me a book called “Mind & Emotions” by Matthew McKay, not sure if you’ve read it or not. I haven’t really took the time to read it. I read a little but it wants you to do exercises in a room alone. I hardly have any privacy to do them in peace without other people bothering me. I’ll check out “attached”
spree Posted February 11, 2023 Posted February 11, 2023 20 hours ago, CarCAL22 said: You guys havent even met and you're talking about an open relationship? Girl, ya'll need to meet first before ANYTHING is even discussed. i think the fact they haven't met yet and he wants monogamy from 6700 miles away is even more strange, tbh.
Theshigo Washidu Posted February 12, 2023 Posted February 12, 2023 If it's not for you, then it's not for you. Don't compromise your values for someone who clearly feels differently. There is no such thing as an "open relationship". He just wants to play the field while having you in his back pocket. You're not even close to each other like what's the point?
youcallingmyname Posted February 13, 2023 Author Posted February 13, 2023 I’m over him and now just think of him as someone who can be a great friend. I think he suffers with his emotions. I can’t do much to help him feel better so I just let him know he can talk to me if he needs to talk to someone. And I’m thinking about him and hope he feels better. also, I got matched on bumble with this cute guy. He and I have similar likes, have the same outlook on life(atheist, shy, anxiety) but it feels nice talking to him. I’m just gonna take it slow and not become too attached. He messaged me today so it was nice not feeling the need to message him first.
youcallingmyname Posted February 13, 2023 Author Posted February 13, 2023 On 2/11/2023 at 2:26 PM, spree said: i think the fact they haven't met yet and he wants monogamy from 6700 miles away is even more strange, tbh. I didn’t expect him to not be with anyone, we weren’t dating. But we definitely showed interest in meeting and seeing how it goes. He’s the one who asked me if I was comfortable with it.
TROPICUM Posted February 13, 2023 Posted February 13, 2023 Girl what the hell Did you just imagine fake romantic scenarios with a person that you haven't even met yet? I think you need to socialize more idk
SchmoodRing Posted April 23, 2023 Posted April 23, 2023 i wish you well and someone more compatible <3 you deserve to be happy
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